Deep down I think I hate my mom, anyone else feel this way?

[SelfIndulgent]

I dont hate my mother. I'd still veto my birth though if I had the option

Some of you dudes in here shytting on the OP can eat a dikk. Just because you had a loving mother doesnt mean everyone else did

 

[AITheAnswerAI]

If it continues to bother you to this day, you need to talk to a therapist. There's no shame in being brave enough to seek help. It's cowardly to pretend that there's no problem, because it'll just get worse or stay unsolved.

This is why I support abortion. If the parent is unfit, and will abuse, neglect, or just do a shytty job raising the kid, they shouldn't be parents.

 

[Pegasus Jackson]

My best friend's mother left him and his sister to fend for themselves at 14 when she ran off to smoke crack with the Mexican landscaper. They had nothing but a bottle of Heniz ketchup in the fridge. I would take food over to them until they were eventually kicked out of their house by the Sheriff and drifted for years on the couches of family an friends while she smoked and sold her body. Ironically enough, he's a landscaper now and makes big paper and his mother lives with him.

Love comes and goes.

 

[50CentStan]

Not reading through the thread, but the amount of sacrifices your mother has made for you, you can never repay, no matter what you do. even though she may have made some bad choices doesnt excuse you from respecting her, and treating her like what she is, someone who you'll never be able to repay or return the favor.

 

[DrexlersFade]

She gave you life.......everything else is null and void pimp!

 

[Kid McNamara]

Here's where the fukked up part come in:

I'm black. The only thing I want is enough money that will lead to power.


The only way ANYONE can really help me, is to discuss business ideas, maybe do something together biz wise, or loan me some money (but again, I'm black..... loan? psshh).


So, this person of "value", in the black community... Is like a fukkin needle in a haystack... I've literally asked every nikka / fam member I've ever known to do business, and I get a look like a got bird shyt on my top lip.


Once you do find this person of value... It's going to take a while to know if you can trust em, and even then when you think you can, they might show you a bullshyt side you never knew..... (just experienced this shyt, smh)


This is a real cluster fukk and to me epitomizes the cycle of poverty and 4th class citizenship of the black community.


No excuses here tho.... I refuse to fail. I'll do shyt alone until I get enough money to have power, and then you can make motherfukkers fall in line better since you have cash up front.


This is the difference between whites and blacks: I couldn't find a paul allen if my life depended on it. Gates couldn't have started that shyt by himself.


Whites don't really wanna fukk with black people like that cus of stereotypes.


So at the end of the day ambitious blacks have an uphill battle so fukkin ridiculous it can feel insermountable....... But if you willing to make that *ultimate* sacrifice, it aint....

I see what you're saying, not sure I agree. I think Bill Gates finding Paul Allen, or rather, those two kids being in the same place, at the same time, at a certain point in history, isn't likely to happen period. Take race out of it, not many people are that obsessed and that ambitious, nevermind the fact that they complimented each other. Not sure if you've read Innovators by Walter Issacson, but there is a chapter in there about how those two got together and the work they did. Honestly, Bill ended up shorting Paul because he couldn't trust him (Paul tried to remove Bill from a project in order to get more computer time, he ended up later needing Bill and Bill was able to set the tone of their future relationship and business dealings).

| Chapter 9: Software

Either way, I think ambitious blacks actually have an advantage because once they are put in a certain environment, they are identified and held up as these wonderful beacons of equality. It's all a show, but it can be used to your advantage if done right. It's also easier to spot ambitious black folks when you get around them. They all sort of stand out, they all sort of tend to be hustlers, coming in with the same mindset.

Odd you bring Paul Allen up in this thread. I was a huge tech nerd during my teenage years and used to brag about how I was going to start a company in Silicon Valley. I used to watch "Triumph of the Nerds" and go insane.

One of the reasons I don't really deal with my mom is she used to always talk shyt about my ambition (getting back to the point of this thread). Like, "that's for them white folks" and "you can't go out there and do anything." Now tech is huge, and I feel like I've wasted so much time not believing in myself.

shyt had a profound effect on me man. No matter how many folks praise my skills, or intellect, I still have this feeling in the back of my stomach, like I'm going to fail, I'm not good enough.

shyt sucks.

Way too long, but hey.

 

[MF_BREW]

naw , Now my auntie on my dad side that different.

 

[TooLazyToMakeUp1]

No, but we started bumping heads alot when I was growing up and we still do at times. I have a serious stubborn independence so I resisted being a mama's boy early and she's a know-it-all / mama's always right type (and she's dead wrong alot of the time). She has a loud alpha in-your-face personality and I have a relaxed alpha personality and I go about my business the way I feel like it despite what anyone else says. It's always been a power struggle basically because I never wanted her to stifle my growth into what I believed to be a man if that makes sense

I think my relationship with her is a microcosm of the single mother issue in the black community when it comes to raising boys, but I don't feel like going that deep right now. It's not a knock against the women who try hard to find a balance (like my mother did/does), but I believe it's naturally difficult for women to raise boys by themselves and expect them to grow up and be "men" and leaders


We never had an affectionate relationship even though she tries, but I would do just about anything for my mother and I know she knows that

 

[Corrado Soprano Jr]

'EY UNCLE JUNIOR AKA MISTAH MAGOO, I LUV YOU LIKE YOU'S WAS ME OLD MAN, BUT YOU CAN FAWK OFF YOU OL' CAWKSUCKA.

YOU HAD ME CHRISTOFAH (GEEZUS RESH HIS SOUL) AND PAULIE WHACKIN MIKEY PALMICE BECUZ OF YOU'S fukk UP. THEN YOU GAVE ME THE OK TO CLIP JIMMY ALGERI, THEN YOU'S TRIED TO HAVE ME FAWKIN WACK. I'M GLAD YOU'S BRAINS IS ALL GUNK AND PUDDIN' AND shyt.

AND I STILL HAVEN'T FORGIVEN YA' FOR FAWKIN' SHOOT ME IN THE STOMACHS WHEN I WAS COOKIN' YOU'S DINNER.

you're the one seeing a shrink

 

[Max.]

U wana be Eminem soooooo bad

 

[Rue]

 

[marcuz]

the infallible black mother. doesn't matter if she purposely brought you up into poverty, had other nikkas around to molest you, cursed you from the day you were born, and treated you like the bane of her existence; yall still better love and worship her.

 

[The_Sheff]

Think about how many shytty mothers there are out there that men on this site complain about in regards to their own children. Now whether you want to admit it or not some of yall were raised by those type of women.

So miss me with the mindset that there aren't bad mothers out there.

 

[user1]

I honestly think a lot of folks don't like their mom



But obviously you get looked at funny for saying that, especially in the black community.


She could really be a shytty mom but people say "she raised you, how can you hate her?"

exactly. while we continue to send nuclear weapons at the fathers in our community. I don't get it.

 

[user1]

Lets just say a nikka needs therapy

ain't nothing wrong with that. I learned a lot. Especially that both my parents were terrible . In black community you cant word any criticism at mom. Make sure you do what you need and get help. It works breh.