Deep down I think I hate my mom, anyone else feel this way?

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nikkaz in here :cape:for moms, but maybe op saw his mom do a bunch of ho shyt?...it happens...not everybody has/had a good mom:yeshrug:


Some people are immature/fukk ups who birth children into shytty situations.


I've had a few episodes wih my mom.I knew she cared about me, but she treated me kinda cold.She always showed more affection to my brother & sister.

When I confessed my feelings to her, she told me she did it because I was everybody's favorite(other family members....aunts, grams, uncles) so she had to balance it out.Told me as her oldest son, she didn't want me to be coddled/spoiled:patrice:.Moms had a hard time when she was carrying me.Came close to dying once.So when I was born, I guess most of my family members treated me "EXTRA special" like I was some miracle baby or some shyt.Moms didn't like it.She thought it was favoritism.Not only that, my bruh & sis have the same dad....My family members never liked their day.....but they loved my pops.That just made shyt worst.

I never asked to be here, moms....you brought me into this shyt:to:


I guess that's why me & moms always had big sister/lil brother relationship....I never got the mom/son thing.

I'd still die for her, tho.....I'm a loyalist like that:mjcry:
 
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Yup said:
It is...I repprted it mutiple times. Some of these black men are not picking quality women regardlesa of the race they go for. Just trash all around...but this is about mothers. So we should stick to that topic.

Some women are not suited to be mothers.
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I agree wholeheartedly. It's just that it's hurting our race when these unsuitable women are constantly being chosen to reproduce with.

In school I see it everyday. Women who blatantly don't give a shyt about their children and yet will be pregnant again by the end of the month.

I've seen fathers who actually want to be fathers to their children, but are kept away from their beautiful children by their stupid baby mamas. Makes u wanna ask these men why they ever chose these women in the first place.

We have to be very real to combat this. In our society, we will talk all day long to our daughters about being hoes and keeping their legs closed. That still needs to happen.

But men are literally offended if you even suggest that they need to be more discriminate about who they lay down with. Of course we know about male biology and their reproductive imperative to fuk everything.

But as human beings we also have a greater biological imperative to discipline ourselves to improve our quality of life. Ya know, learn potty training because the natural urge to shyt everywhere kinda fukks up your life.

So until we preach responsibility to our men as much as we preach it to our women, this is going to continue to happen.

Because bad men and bad women will always exist. But if the good women AND good men don't have the discernment to choose wisely instead of what popular culture says is good, we'll keep having our race repopulated by women who aren't worthy of the gift of motherhood.

"But her azz was fat. She had dem head skills. Dem dikk suckin lips. She had good hair. She lemme hit it on the first date. She let me and my homeboys run a train on her..."

And now THAT is a mommy. Smh.
 
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CHILLL said:
but think about your girlfriend i sure you seen your girlfriend do some dumb shyt off emotion think of how easy you got a girl p*ssy, think of a nagging girlfriend the think of that annoying clingy woman being the mother of a human being, shes just a grown girl , she was doing her best
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Everyone knows how i defend black women on here but I do not defend irresponsible parenting whether it's a mother or a father. I am blessed to have a wonderful mother but it doesn't mean that it is the case for everyone else.
 
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My best friend used to get abused by his step father almost everyday. He'd call the police and when the police came she'd lie to em. I remember he came to school with broken ribs and bruises. His mother wouldn't even take em to the hospital. He'd tell his grandmother what was happening. She'd confront his mother and his mother would say he was lying. I can't blame him for hating her at all. She knew her child was getting abused physically by her boyfriend and ain't do shyt. He used to get beat with a thick ass ping pong paddle :why:. fukk anybody who think mothers are beyond reproach.
 
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Rawtid said:
Getting an understanding is not the same as seeking some sort of change in behavior. I also didn't say the OP needs to be BFF with his mom or anything like that, I just said he shouldn't have ill will. "I understand where your head was at and although your actions and it impacted me negatively, I forgive you". If they are cool after that, so be it, if not that's cool too.

It's also important because OP may one day be a parent and assuming he is male his wife/gf MAY do some of the same shyt his mom did and having that talk with his mom may help him to be able to relate to his wife and they both can take a different course of action in regards to their kids.
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The point is people making these shytty decisions have no logical reasoning. There is no understanding because you are dealing with crazy. I get what he was saying because these people are my family. You can't understand crazy no matter how much they try and explain it. I don't need to tell someone I forgive them either. That is for me and not them. To have those conversations causes more drama than not. We are talking about dysfunctional people. I could see more ill will and drama coming from a conversation than just moving on. Closure doesnt come wrapped in a nice bow.

And if op gets married, the time to have that conversation is with his spouse. That is where the cycle ends and can be healed. Why take advice from his mother who already ducked up (and he clearly sees it), than work with his wife in a loving way to solve it. I think that is more sane than going to the problem, expecting a solution. It's a dead end.
 
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selam said:
A lot of reading and research that can all pretty much be summarized by this one book:

The Function of the Orgasm by Jeremy Pettis, on Flickr
Every bad experience with mom, dad, or anybody is stored in the body as tension associated with what happened...not really in the head or memory.

Other animals release this tension right after but humans tend to hold on to it...forever. This tension goes on to fukk up a lot of how our minds and bodies normally work and causes to feel things like hate for our moms. :mjcry:
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Seriously thanks a lot. I look forward to reading that. I agree with the premise so looking forward to in-depth reading. :salute::salute::salute:
 
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Ligeraz said:
The point is people making these shytty decisions have no logical reasoning. There is no understanding because you are dealing with crazy. I get what he was saying because these people are my family. You can't understand crazy no matter how much they try and explain it. I don't need to tell someone I forgive them either. That is for me and not them. To have those conversations causes more drama than not. We are talking about dysfunctional people. I could see more ill will and drama coming from a conversation than just moving on. Closure doesnt come wrapped in a nice bow.

And if op gets married, the time to have that conversation is with his spouse. That is where the cycle ends and can be healed. Why take advice from his mother who already ducked up (and he clearly sees it), than work with his wife in a loving way to solve it. I think that is more sane than going to the problem, expecting a solution. It's a dead end.
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We can agree to disagree. I feel what you're saying is well beyond the point I'm trying to make and I think it's because we are seeing the issue differently. Understanding is not a "solution" but it's important. Knowing where people's heads were at is important, imo.
 
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