Dating is such a waste of time. I think I'm done with it

[Born2BKing]

Coffee dates? Those really work when you just met & you go AT THAT MOMENT

Truthfully, you need to have an ACTIVITY planned out

Women know when you're slumming it for a date, they're hip to game now. Who's going to waste their time getting ready, just to go to Starbucks?




And another thing..from my experience

You don't have to focus on 1 person. Also maximize your time. First dates shouldn't take all day

It's not a crime to do something during the day with one person & have something setup in the evening with someone else

This helps to keep you from lingering around too long. And makes it easier to walk away if the vibe isn't right. Plus, you won't feel like a day was wasted on one person

No offense breh but you sound like a simpleton. Respectfully

 

[Rockstar Mom]

Not directed at OP, but based on a lot of threads made on here, I see why y’all struggle with women. Definitely take all advice on this site with a grain of salt.

I second the post that said, y’all need to start dealing with people that actually like y’all. And that you actually like. It will really solve all your problems.

 

[Geek Nasty]

Problem is too many women have been taking advantage of old school dating rules; going out just to get a free meal or to get an ego boost, boredom, or when the man she really wants is just smutting her out and she wants to feel better. Just the whole game is fukked. Used to be if a woman accepted your invitation you could assume she didn't have a man. Nowadays, she might have a few fellas on the side and she's just taking a disinterested dip in new waters. So you're competing against her "roster".

It sucks, but women mostly grow out of the "games" when they start getting older and realizing they're on a timer.

I agree for younger men first few dates should NEVER be old school because you have to filter out the women who are using you. Keep it simple (AND CHEAP) as fukk.

 

[SNYC]

No offense breh but you sound like a simpleton. Respectfully

Coming from the guy that pays for escorts...

 

[Weaver31]

Women shouldn't start going to men's houses they just met because you wanna be cheap.

So agree...its not safe for a woman, and if they fukk, he may put her in jump off status and nothing else.

And it really not safe for men either...ole girl may have him set up or do some crazy fuked up shyt to him just cuz she know where he live.

Some folks just lack common sense.

 

[buzzkill]

Also to add, some of the best dates are those that don’t require a lot of cash or flashy shyt.

Some of my best dates were hiking. Grocery shopping and meal prepping together. Farmer’s markets. Breakfast and hitting the trail or boardwalk afterwards. Mini road trips.
Exploring waterfalls. Museums.
Just sharing the fun and interesting parts of your life you usually do on your own.
It doesn’t have to be complicated.
But I know some people are shytty so it can be difficult sometimes.

Been wanting to take a girl hiking... i assumed girls would think being in nature is all romantic and shyt plus i can check them fitness levels

 

[Born2BKing]

Coming from the guy that pays for escorts...

I have when I was younger, because I wanted instant p*ssy. But that's neither here or there. I promise you one thing, I have gotten more p*ssy for free, without a date, or without spending a dime than you. Matter of a fact, I'd bet my life on it. Now you go wine and dine these hoes, and enjoy that conversation simp.

 

[Devil Plisken…CMS]

If it comes down to a comfortability thing then you shouldn't even be down to dating the guy in the first place if you're just that scared of a random man. You should be dating men that you would like to be fukked by anyways.

Man you up here being serious but this..IS A JOKE

I’m talking that shyt right there would have had Madison Square Garden dying

 

[Popeyes]

Stop watching Kevin Samuels it will help

 

[GhettoTeK]

Well you’re trying to smash if you bringing shorty to your crib. Also most women ain’t on that tip me personally, I’m not comfortable going to some dudes house for my first date I’m trying to have fun by doing some sort of activity I didn’t read the rest of your paragraph but you shouldn’t give up on dating, you going to the other side or some? that chick out there dude. If u just want sex pay for it

 

[Popeyes]

Well you’re trying to smash if you bringing shorty to your crib. Also most women ain’t on that tip me personally, I’m not comfortable going to some dudes house for my first date I’m trying to have fun by doing some sort of activity I didn’t read the rest of your paragraph but you shouldn’t give up on dating, you going to the other side or some? that chick out there dude. If u just want sex pay for it

Dude gonna follow his leader Kevin Samuels outside the city of Harlem to San Francisco

 

[SNYC]

I have when I was younger, because I wanted instant p*ssy. But that's neither here or there. I promise you one thing, I have gotten more p*ssy for free, without a date, or without spending a dime. Matter of a fact, I'd bet my life on it. Now you go wine and dine these hoes, and enjoy that conversation simp.

Sure you have trick, keep telling yourself that.

Not only that but you lack reading comprehension. I wrote for him have an ACTIVITY. You know what that means right?

You can respond back if you want, but I'm out. The backnforths bore me

And yeah, i will keep enjoying the conversation of women. One of those ended up making me money from clients like you

 

[MajesticLion]

This is like telling thirsty brehs in the desert not to worry about water. What’s not being said is that people’s circumstances are different, so while all this is easy to brehs like you, @Gold , @Booksnrain and others, the rest have to take baby steps to catch up to what you’ve already lived and learned.

There's taking baby steps because that's what you're currently capable of or what you can afford...
there's even taking a break for a bit to reassess your approach to things, to get your mental footing in place for the next move forward...



...and there's constantly parroting the idea of giving up entirely: it's not worth it, it's over, you share that girl, and all other assorted fearmongering babble.



Every day. Thread after thread.




Cui bono?

 

[-deleted-]

There's taking baby steps because that's what you're currently capable of or what you can afford...
there's even taking a break for a bit to reassess your approach to things, to get your mental footing in place for the next move forward...



...and there's constantly parroting the idea of giving up entirely: it's not worth it, it's over, you share that girl, and all other assorted fearmongering babble.



Every day. Thread after thread.




Cui bono?

Idk, all I know is I agree with OP in that I’m gracefully bowing out of the game. A lot of posters won’t get it because they haven’t been there, but it is what it is.

 

[Crayola Coyote]

Honestly I can’t blame a woman for not just wanting to go to a man’s house that she barely knows. There’s some crazy ass nikkas out here. So of course she would want to go out in a public setting. With that said tho first dates should always be cheap.
Get some coffee and get to know each other. If shyt doesn’t progress past that than you only out a few dollars

they meet up at some random dude house all the time. Women are not “victims” as society and MeToo makes them out to be.