Dating is such a waste of time. I think I'm done with it

[Ezekiel 25:17]

Bro chicks don't want coffee dates no more. You ain't see the entrepreneur thread? They want to go Dorsiea.

Man fukk all that bullshyt. We ain't entitled to p*ssy on the first day and she ain't entitled to a free meal on the first day. We gotta start calling these broads out.

 

[Flywin Lannister]

Date?



What is this? High school?

If we vibe, we’ll vibe driving around. We’ll vibe walking down the street.

If you are having a “date” to “close the deal” - you’re approaching this the completely wrong way. You just another dude SHE is screening.

If you haven’t hit that and you take her on a date - again, you’re approaching this completely wrong.

Stop using movies and what random chicks post on IG as a blueprint for how to “get” a woman. And I mean: a fine, smart, high level woman.

All this following is problem #1.

Men lead. Women lead too. But in the critical stage of establishing attraction, you putting yourself in ANY submissive state (“what would you like to do?” “How does dinner sound?” and all that bullshyt) ends it for you before it starts. Sure you may hit it and develop a fwb deal but you’re just the guy she is dealing with at that moment, if she is a woman with options (anybody can lock down an insecure chick without options).

To get different results, you have to take different actions.

Lead.
Dates?
I literally said “I don’t go on dates, I’m not a teenager”.

Trust me, that old rule book was dead on arrival.

@The Realist Perspective

 

[Jean Jacket]

I'm calling shenanigans on this "exchange" concept as the rule and not the exception.

Only if you are a street urchin or dirty dikk proliferator that you consider sex low risk.

Shifting your mindset into one where you set the standard and the woman is vetted by your approval is always more than likely going to end up avoiding headaches with needy/prudish western feminist mentalities.

Women use sexual powers to control you. Stop thinking with your hot dog.

 

[Treblemaka]

Some of yall either young or lame or both.

Dates arent just for her, they should be for you. Sometimes I want to eat a nice steak and it'd be nice to do with a pretty woman that has good conversation and is open to going back to my place for a drink.

However, if you're doing it as a down payment for some ass then just skip the middle man (find a hoefessional) or be happy dealing with basic females.


It's that simple.

 

[PhillyzFinest]

I'm calling shenanigans on this "exchange" concept as the rule and not the exception.

Only if you are a street urchin or dirty dikk proliferator that you consider sex low risk.

Shifting your mindset into one where you set the standard and the woman is vetted by your approval is always more than likely going to end up avoiding headaches with needy/prudish western feminist mentalities.

Women use sexual powers to control you. Stop thinking with your hot dog.

Wishful thinking at best. I'm talking about how it is, not how you wish it were.

 

[Jean Jacket]

Some of yall either young or lame or both.

Dates arent just for her they should be for you. Sometimes I want to eat a nice steak and it'd be nice to do with a pretty woman that has good conversation and is open to going back to your place for a drink.

However, if you're doing it as a down payment for some ass then just skip the middle man (find a hoefessional) or be happy dealing with basic females.


It's that simple.

\thread.

 

[Weaver31]

You guys will like dating more if you pick venues / activities that you enjoy and can afford AS WELL AS not be pressed about getting laid. People can pick up on desperation and overcompensation.

AMEN...also pick venues that's affordable. And if u take women out to eat...take her to places YOU like and pick places that's financially feasible for u like a 2 for 20 at Applebees. Not a huge Applebees fan but I just gave an example

A lot of today's problems is men's fault. You chose the time and place. You chose to sit there and carry the conversation. If shyt ain't going well, shake her hand and ask to split the check, it's that simple.

Why do y'all always choose eating and movies anyway? shyt hella boring, there's lot of other things you could do for dates. Dancing for couples, amusement parks, hell even a picnic is better than movies/restuarants.

Agree with a lot of what u said but an amusement part is not a good idea for a first date. First of all...amusement park tickets expensive and dudes on here already complaining about dating costs...2 amusement park tickets gonna cost y'all too much. That dancing for couples idea sounds good tho.

Sometimes I think dudes shouldn't date unless they can afford to. If u can't pay for her way...then don't date or take her to spots where it costs.

 

[Born2BKing]

just take them to get a smoothie or coffee or go to a park MAYBE a cheap breakfast/lunch at a local spot u been wanting to try...dinner and movies is only for a woman u know is really fukking with u, u already smashed, or you see potentially having a relationship with



if they aint down for something simple then they aint for you

Ding ding ding! Exactly. The coffee is a litmus test for me on the first date. If they don't wanna get coffee/tea and talk and asks for something more costly then RUN!! This will separate the chicks who are really interested from the ones who just want a free meal.

 

[Weaver31]

I actually enjoy going on dates but if its with a woman whom company and conversation I enjoy.

I do believe if a man asks a woman out...he should pay. But eventually she needs to pay for a date with u (by 3rd or 4th date).

I also not for meeting at a person's crib for a first date (unless y'all just wanna fuk, which I don't call a date).

 

[SNYC]

Coffee dates? Those really work when you just met & you go AT THAT MOMENT

Truthfully, you need to have an ACTIVITY planned out

Women know when you're slumming it for a date, they're hip to game now. Who's going to waste their time getting ready, just to go to Starbucks?




And another thing..from my experience

You don't have to focus on 1 person. Also maximize your time. First dates shouldn't take all day

It's not a crime to do something during the day with one person & have something setup in the evening with someone else

This helps to keep you from lingering around too long. And makes it easier to walk away if the vibe isn't right. Plus, you won't feel like a day was wasted on one person

 

[Consigliere]

You don’t want to date a woman who regularly has first dates at the guy’s house.

You need to recharge your batteries and date people you want to spend time with. Going to a movie, restaurant or bar shouldn’t be a stressful event for you.

 

[Jean Jacket]

Here's a tip.

Take her to the gun range...

I found it is the best way to see into a person's character. Too many to list.

Trust issues, PTSD, sense of adventure, realism, confidence, self control, etc etc.

If she knows more about straps than u........be leery...


Obviously...don't get into any arguments.







The other thing....women respond sexually to assertive controlled masculinity. The adrenaline rush of being in that environment does something primal to them. Free game.

 

[prime]

First dates should be cheap but fun Groupon can come in handy me and my girl first date was wine tasting only cost me 25 thanks to Groupon got to taste different wine and and had great Conversation the second date was ice staking and drinking hot chocolate you got be creative if you really feeling her

 

[kaldurahm]

shyts pretty wack not even gonna lie, but you gotta do what you gotta do .

My only advice is to go somewhere or do something that you want to do and just bring her along for the ride.

But in general, yeah shyt sucks.

I'd also suggest going out of your comfort zone for potential partners, like I was dating only black women at first, but now I'm like l, fukk it. If I can enjoy myself with a lady whether she black, white, indian, Hispanic whatever than imma enjoy myself.

I still prefer Black women of course, and rather not talk to white women, but that's what I've changed recently. Going out with an Asian girl now.


To clarify, I don't mean dates themselves. I don't mind going on dates, but dating is some bullshyt.

Go on a date to the amusement park, go to a concert, do some dancing, rock climbing, go to the museum... All types of shyt you can do, but the texting and just keeping shyt flowing is pretty wack, something that I personally don't give a shyt about 95% of the time.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Not on some incel shyt. But, at this point in my life taking a girl out on a date is so unfulfilling. I'd much rather just meet up my place or her place. The whole going to get something to eat shyt, movie shyt, it's played, and it doesn't really make sense to do it from the guys perspective.

Like, you (the woman) need / want for us to go out somewhere to get to know us and even though you (the woman) having that necessity or desire it's expected the man pays. It makes zero sense.

If it comes down to a comfortability thing then you shouldn't even be down to dating the guy in the first place if you're just that scared of a random man. You should be dating men that you would like to be fukked by anyways.

I say I'm done with it cuz it's just such a needless thing, a drain on money and time. Carrying the conversation. Making the decisions where to go etc. It's a heavy ass lift and I just see no fukking benefit to the shyt anymore.

I see why a lot of men aren't on that date shyt anymore. It's practically something only enjoyed by the woman. Because I could sure as shyt get to know you at my house.

Let's speak on it.

Men, do you actually enjoy taking a woman out on a date? If so please explain why.

Women, why are you into dates? Is there appeal to it outside of being treated to an outing? I am genuinely trying to understand.

Thank you. Have a great start to your week brehs/brehettes.

Women shouldn't start going to men's houses they just met because you wanna be cheap.