My wife and I have been together for 10 years and married for 6.
My wife knows at the first hint/sign of cheating I’m gone.
I’m not asking any questions, don’t need to know why she cheated; I’m leaving and she would never hear or see me again
Everything I shared with y’all in my original post my wife and her family have all those qualities.
She is from the Deep South, good old Louisiana yellabone and comes from a family of 8.
Parents were married till her father died. All of her siblings have stable and high paying careers and dishonoring the family name is not to be tolerated.
One of the first things my wife said when we talked about marriage was that she did not believe in divorce except for adultery.
Anything in life especially relationships have risks but you can definitely minimize those risks by hedging your bets and moving accordingly.
True
But I'm not willing to take that risk in terms of marriage
Wifey can turn into divorcee at the drop of a hat and the man usually pays for it
All it takes is for her to cheat, turn into a different person, or change her mind
My entire existence would become making sure wifey doesn't become unhappy to the point where she wants a divorce
Even if it were on a subconscious level
Some women know this and use it against men dangling the marriage and the kids over their head, telling them what to do, giving him rules and ultimatums, being a prude in bed while being defiled by her work husband, withholding sex tempting a man to cheat which would lead to divorce, etc.
And the woman may have not been like this AT ALL before the marriage
That sounds miserable
People get into relationships with people who BECOME someone they don't like sometimes because people can change
This can happen in marriage but the man can't just leave
At least if I'm not married and the love of my life turns into someone I don't want to be with, I can just leave
With marriage, that becomes a lot harder and a lot of men become STUCK with their spouse because they would rather stay married than go through divorce and deal with court despite being miserable
I could say all this and still end up married somehow
But I just can't see myself giving power to a woman like that by signing those papers