Could you be in committed or long term relationship with someone who has kids?

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Women who have children outside of marriage are less likely than other single women to marry, and when they do marry, their husbands tend to be less well-matched, according to a new study.


The results show that the odds that unwed mothers marry rather than cohabit are about 30 percent lower than those of childless single women.

When they do marry, mothers are more likely to have husbands who are significantly older and less educated than those of childless women.

“It's more difficult for unwed munwed mothers to get married, and if they do, they tend to not marry well,” said Zhenchao Qian, co-author of the study and associate professor of sociology at Ohio State University.

Unwed mothers have significant disadvantages when trying to attract suitable mates,” Mellott said. “As a result, single mothers are less likely than childless women to be well matched demographically with their husbands or partners.”

For example, the study showed that single mothers were less likely than childless women to marry a man with at least some college education. That suggests unwed mothers are unlikely to improve their economic prospects through marriage, she said, because potential husbands are less likely to have opportunities for good-paying jobs.

In addition, a white woman who had children outside of marriage was more likely to marry a man who was significantly older – at least six years older – than she. That wasn't the case for Black and Hispanic women, but only because they were less likely than whites to be married at all, Qian said.

“Our analysis suggests that Blacks and Hispanics may be less likely to marry or cohabit because they face shortages of potential spouses,” he said. “If they had been married or living with someone, they would likely have husbands or partners much older than themselves.”

Overall, the results show that “women who bear children out of wedlock do not fare well in the marriage market,” Lichter said.


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there will always be women/men who have no kids, hell im 27 now and there a abundance of women my age, younger, older with NO KIDS

enlarge your circle

I know reincar..but do we have things in common? Does he find me attractive, do I find him attractive?? Are we working toward similiar goals?? There are so many other variables not just, oh he doesnt have kids...what I'm saying is, the ones Ive been meeting with no kids aren't ready to be committed or be in LTR..and the way y'all sh*t on women in my age range..
 

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If all of the above is true, so be it. It will not deter my life, actions or happiness.

If making thread after thread about failed marriages, why women can't be trusted, etc. is the highlight/gets you through the day, I will not steal your joy.


Carry on....


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i made no threads :manny:

congrats on winning the lottery, i have no animosity towards you:ehh:
 

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I know reincar..but do we have things in common? Does he find me attractive, do I find him attractive?? Are we working toward similiar goals?? There are so many other variables not just, oh he doesnt have kids...what I'm saying is, the ones Ive been meeting with no kids aren't ready to be committed or be in LTR..and the way y'all sh*t on women in my age range..

how old are you?
anyways it's much different imo for a man with a child to date, than a female. Because more times than not he won't have full custody, so he will still have all the time in the world for you, minus the few days on the weekend if any that he will get his son/daughter.


And most men don't want to commit, childless or having a child,
 

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I know reincar..but do we have things in common? Does he find me attractive, do I find him attractive?? Are we working toward similiar goals?? There are so many other variables not just, oh he doesnt have kids...what I'm saying is, the ones Ive been meeting with no kids aren't ready to be committed or be in LTR..and the way y'all sh*t on women in my age range..

Same problem.. Honestly at times I tend to ease up on my preferences a lil when I meet a woman with no kids just to find that we're not compatible.. Then I'll meet a woman with kids and we'll click but that one lil dude tends to get in the way for me(no disrespect to single moms)..
 

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realistically as time goes by more and more singles will have kids. it will be just something you have to accept. by ruling out people with kids you are greatly shrinking your dating pool.

i understand some of the reasons behind the rule, but there are so many people with kids that you pretty much just have to give in eventually. i've never had to date a guy with kids yet

the nuclear family is a minority that will continue to dwindle.

Its is becoming more and more difficult to find a single woman 25 to 34 without kids.....in that age group its like finding a unicorn at least where I'm at...
 

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No thread gets made more than this one.

I mean every damn week this thread gets made :snoop:
 

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Naw cant do it, already a son of my own. Too much hassle, i watched a good man raise a little girl as his own for 12 years then she grew up & called him an ugly gorilla and the you aint my daddy. Who wants to go through that? Some women dont mess with me because i have a son but there are always ones who will :takedat:
 

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It's really not worth the risk dating an single mother. Let's face it the vast majority of single mothers are hoodrats so why take an chance hoping you'll find the .000001% that's an good woman. You'll have better luck winning the lottery in most cases.

For an single guy without kids doing well financially you have absolutely nothing to gain from dating an single mother. You'll most likely end up footing the bill for everything while being treated like an second class citizen. And you'll never know if the chick is really into you or just looking for an meal ticket especially if she's not getting child support. Which most single mothers don't get because they almost always have broke ass no good baby fathers.

Perhaps if more men refused to date single mothers women would be more careful about bringing kids into this world outside of marriage. The vast majority of these women trap dudes into having kids because they know government assistance will be there and plenty of dudes (simps) will still date them.
 

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Nah I can't see myself doing it, I'm already messed up enough as it is, kids wouldn't be good for me
 

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your maturity level should not be on the same level as a 22 year olds. you can't date them forever. i'm that age range now and the idea of dating a guy in his 30s is not appealing for anything besides money. i'd like someone in my age range. if you're cool with women with your for money then you should be good

Like a true hoodrat:mjpls:
 

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Thank God my childless fiance is nothing like you cynical, butter, scorned nikkas on here :lawd:

Why didn't you marry an dude with kids of his own then? Possibly for the same reasons dudes here won't date single mothers. Hipocrit.
 

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Thank God my childless fiance is nothing like you cynical, butter, scorned nikkas on here :lawd:

typical thickums posting

ol you ain';t a real man if you don't look after me and my two offspring

we are bitter, scorned and cynical because we would rather a childless woman, than a woman without kids?
 
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