To add on this, I think part of the reason bw turn to their own version of feminism that is separate from white women and no longer identify with blackness first, like they used to, is because many don’t trust bm.
They don’t believe bm truly love and care about them or seek to address the unique issues bw face, and care more about the issues impacting bm. They also feel that bm desire nonbw and what nonbw have, and see bw and the issues bw face with negativity. They don’t think bm care about understanding her issues. The distrust bw feel leads to the separation.
And id argue there are bm that feel distrust for bw too. There’s distrust and underlining negative feelings between both bw and bm, so I think until those get addressed, there will be no unification.
The problem I've always had with this is that you have a loud pro black faction of black males who very publicly try to uplift bw to the point that "the black woman is god" "nubian princess" and "black queen" are well known tropes and phrases in the community. They've always been around.
But rather than rally around that subsection of men women instead form the feelings you describe due to the words and opinions of rappers ...........rappers.
As this dynamic grew , curiously enough the terms bashing pro-blacks began to emerge on the internet. "pickme" "[ashy] hotep". It speaks volumes that these women were becoming white aligned in their shytting on people who were clearly pro black, pro black women and pro black family. I can say with confidence these terms did not come from black men and originated on the "Yaaaaas bytch" side of the internet.
Which is why I can't sympathize with this line of thought. I know too many black dudes pining and co-signing black women even to the extent of simping, but that's still love. BM supportive of black women just get overlooked/and taken for granted because XYZ athlete or rapper is dating a white bytch.
I have multiple real life examples of this. I remember having this argument with a co-worker (darkskin female) years ago mad about the Trey songz foreign song talking that black men only want mixed chicks garbage. All while curving at least two nikkas from work and 1 in her hood (I was smashing her neighbor).
I've had a classmate go on a black men rant over some Lil Wayne lyrics.
But where do these people get off ignoring their fathers, brothers, uncles and of course dozens/hundreds of suitors to hang onto the words of some fukking rappers???
The problem is the average black man is paid dust and is treated as such. Along with women these days being the type who ignore 100 praises to focus in on the one hater/dissenter. There isn't shyt the average guy can do about that. Not only do we not control the narrative, we don't control our own voices in it
I tell people I prefer dark skin women (my history proves it) and people think I'm fukking pandering. It disgusts me deeply.
I'm just ranting but whatever. It might be an impasse that is never gotten over because this adversarial vibe between the sexes online seems to be getting championed more and not less. Plus whites are in the mix stirring the pot