Candace Cameron Bure Defends Her "Submissive Role" With Husband: "I Want Him to Lead"

[Malcolmxxx_23]

dude married the wrong kinda woman... he has poor taste and poor decision making skills. counseling won't help that.. .he needs counseling on how to recognize a good partner.

From what he told me she was trying to have him as side piece
Smh

 

[Chesirecatdaddy]

Dude loves her but she slept with his best friend

What kinda women does that?

I beleive they're called hoes my friend

 

[Chesirecatdaddy]

From what he told me she was trying to have him as side piece
Smh

I'm not saying I'd smack a bytch

but what I'm saying is she wouldn't be able to live a normal life.

 

[beanz]

shyt just has to be balanced in my humble opinion as somebody who's only been married a month and a half or so. in my home the way it works is, i make the majority of decisions, but i also cook most of the time both because i enjoy it and because my wife never learned. she was always either at school, work, dance practice, band recitals, parades, the list goes on and on. in this day and age, women dont sit at home watching the kids, cleaning and cooking all day. her job(she's a 1st grade teacher in harlem) is ten times more stressful than mine and i have to respect that. so when we are both home, i always cook up something nice for her while she draws up her lesson plans. she washes the dishes when i cook and cleans the apartment on the weekends. she also cooks at least once a week because she is learning and in that case ill do the dishes.

she makes more money than i do, but we put it all together and i pay all the bills and decide what we need. we are going on vacation in july, and im setting everything up and she trusts 100% in my judgement. now i have a situation where the choice of moving upstate might come up within the next year, and even though she fully trusts my judgement and knows i have our best interest at heart, i have to take her feelings into serious consideration. ultimately though, knowing my wife, if i say this is what we need to do she will suck it up and do it, even though i rather she want to do it too and not feel forced to.

its a partnership, and while i do have veto power over her, i would never reject her opinion even if its not a great one. a GOOD husband is not going to just shut down his wife's every opinion.

my wife comes from a traditional home where her dad is king. her mom, however, never worked a day in her life. her dad provided all they needed so her mom stayed home and watched the kids, cooked, cleaned, etc. when i go to my wife's parent's house, i get treated like royalty. if i dont have a beer or some soda in my hand when her dad gets home, he asks my wife or her mom why havent i been offered a beverage its so awkward for me tho because i come from a home where mom made the majority of the decisions and wasnt big on catering to our ever need as if we were babies. my mom always been an independent woman who completely broke from the norms in her family. my moms mom is a homemaker and her dad was the king and had the last word on EVERYTHING. when my mom came to NYC in 84 tho, she wanted more than to be a homemaker. she took english classes, got her GED, went to college and started making more money than pops so she handles the money and makes most of the decisions. he always seemed to be perfectly happy with this arrangement and they have been married 31 years so different strokes for different folks.

its all just about thinking of the family before yourself and your ego. most people, men or women, want nothing to do with selflessness. i would describe my marriage as my wife being submissive to me and me being submissive to the good of our little family. even though i do consider myself the boss, i dont make any decisions without her input and if she doesnt feel happy about something then i dont feel happy pulling the trigger.

 

[kermit da hustla]

Man, shut yo tragic mulatto ass up.

kick rocks, nikka.

 

[MeachTheMonster]

Y'all can't even name a specific task that comes along with gender roles for men besides "protect" and "provide" though. And provide is something women are already expected to do, while protect these days is an alarm system for most people, men and women. So if anything I think it'd be reversed. Men have no idea the tedious and overwhelming nature of the things they expect women to handle day to day alone.

If that alarm goes off and your man isn't the first one to go check it out

Gender rolls are engrained in us. Genitalia isn't the only thing that seperates us.

 

[sanityovar8ted]

Dude loves her but she slept with his best friend

What kinda women does that?

i dunno, ive done some ratchet things in my past, some for revenge, some cuz the opportunity presented itself. thats something your friend needs to sit down and discuss with his wife.

 

[Chesirecatdaddy]

shyt just has to be balanced in my humble opinion as somebody who's only been married a month and a half or so. in my home the way it works is, i make the majority of decisions, but i also cook most of the time both because i enjoy it and because my wife never learned. she was always either at school, work, dance practice, band recitals, parades, the list goes on and on. in this day and age, women dont sit at home watching the kids, cleaning and cooking all day. her job(she's a 1st grade teacher in harlem) is ten times more stressful than mine and i have to respect that. so when we are both home, i always cook up something nice for her while she draws up her lesson plans. she washes the dishes when i cook and cleans the apartment on the weekends. she also cooks at least once a week because she is learning and in that case ill do the dishes.

she makes more money than i do, but we put it all together and i pay all the bills and decide what we need. we are going on vacation in july, and im setting everything up and she trusts 100% in my judgement. now i have a situation where the choice of moving upstate might come up within the next year, and even though she fully trusts my judgement and knows i have our best interest at heart, i have to take her feelings into serious consideration. ultimately though, knowing my wife, if i say this is what we need to do she will suck it up and do it, even though i rather she want to do it too and not feel forced to.

its a partnership, and while i do have veto power over her, i would never reject her opinion even if its not a great one. a GOOD husband is not going to just shut down his wife's every opinion.

my wife comes from a traditional home where her dad is king. her mom, however, never worked a day in her life. her dad provided all they needed so her mom stayed home and watched the kids, cooked, cleaned, etc. when i go to my wife's parent's house, i get treated like royalty. if i dont have a beer or some soda in my hand when her dad gets home, he asks my wife or her mom why havent i been offered a beverage its so awkward for me tho because i come from a home where mom made the majority of the decisions and wasnt big on catering to our ever need as if we were babies. my mom always been an independent woman who completely broke from the norms in her family. my moms mom is a homemaker and her dad was the king and had the last word on EVERYTHING. when my mom came to NYC in 84 tho, she wanted more than to be a homemaker. she took english classes, got her GED, went to college and started making more money than pops so she handles the money and makes most of the decisions. he always seemed to be perfectly happy with this arrangement and they have been married 31 years so different strokes for different folks.

its all just about thinking of the family before yourself and your ego. most people, men or women, want nothing to do with selflessness. i would describe my marriage as my wife being submissive to me and me being submissive to the good of our little family. even though i do consider myself the boss, i dont make any decisions without her input and if she doesnt feel happy about something then i dont feel happy pulling the trigger.

ur doing a fine job breh i salute u

teach your wife how to cook tho, she'll love you for it.

When my mom married my popz she could only make cakes LOLOL she couldnt cook a meal. She learned from him by watching and trying... now she's 10x better than he ever was at cooking lol.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

i dunno, ive done some ratchet things in my past, some for revenge, some cuz the opportunity presented itself. thats something your friend needs to sit down and discuss with his wife.

Have you done anything closer to that?

 

[Chesirecatdaddy]

If that alarm goes off and your man isn't the first one to go check it out

Gender rolls are engrained in us. Genitalia isn't the only thing that seperates us.

LOL alarm can't save you from a serial killer/kidnap nikka. 2 minute response time is plenty enough . Let's be real even police usually can't save people only take pictures of their corpse and solve the mystery, the fukk is a loud noise going to do for you?

 

[PartyHeart]

If that alarm goes off and your man isn't the first one to go check it out

Gender rolls are engrained in us. Genitalia isn't the only thing that seperates us.

If our alarm goes off, it might happen once over a 20-30 year period . And when it does the police is notified and will be there in 10 min at the latest because of our neighborhood.

But yes, if that happened over that 20-30 year period, he will get his gun to check it out, and tell me to stay put. But no, gender roles are not ingrained* in us any more than racial hierarchy is.

 

[sanityovar8ted]

Have you done anything closer to that?

before i got married this last time yes. i fucced my bd best friend outta revenge and spite, but we wasnt no longer together, but we were together when he fucced my friend.

 

[Chesirecatdaddy]

If our alarm goes off, it might happen once over a 20 year period . And when it does the police is notified and will be there in 10 at the latest because of our neighborhood.

But yes, if that happened over that 20 year period, he will get his gun to check it out, and tell me to stay put. But no, gender roles are not ingrained* in us any more than racial hierarchy is.

hmm ok that's why men have fight for flight responses to stress

and women have tend and befriend (tend to children and create support groups).

 

[beanz]

ur doing a fine job breh i salute u

teach your wife how to cook tho, she'll love you for it.

When my mom married my popz she could only make cakes LOLOL she couldnt cook a meal. She learned from him by watching and trying... now she's 10x better than he ever was at cooking lol.

yea im showing her all i can but im just learning myself. she is actually a natural but she doesnt believe she can do it enough to just go for it lol. i always tell her that in a year she is going to be cooking 100x better than me

 

[Chesirecatdaddy]

before i got married this last time yes. i fucced my bd best friend outta revenge and spite, but we wasnt no longer together, but we were together when he fucced my friend.

my nikka chief keef was right yall

trust no thotties