Candace Cameron Bure Defends Her "Submissive Role" With Husband: "I Want Him to Lead"

[Remote]

Its sad that so many men are just adult boys that women literally dont have a lot of options in choosing men who have both of their futures in mind. I cant totally fault these women for choosing weak men because alot of times, they dont have a choice. Even a man that appears strong and tough may make a terrible leader because all he knows how to do is Roar.

And who is raising these men you speak of?
Who is "failing" at raising these adult boys?

 

[Mr. Somebody]

And who is raising these men you speak of?
Who is "failing" at raising these adult boys?

They are being raised by women instead of 2 parents.

 

[Diondon]

I see a chicken and the egg situation occurring here
Pussify and emasculate men then claim they're not worthy to submit to, brehettes
Thank God I was raised in a 2 parent home

 

[Chris.B]

What many men here are missing and I think what ultimately frustrates them is that they are not worthy of submission

From a Christian standpoint, the husband is described as much more of a servant to the wife than the other way around in the Bible. Christ is described as having servant leadership. But many of the men, especially on the coli, who pine the most for submission seek to do the bare minimum for their woman. So they're really not following the blueprint they're supposed to be, and thus no woman would submit to them in the Christian way. They know he does not have their best interest at heart and his asking for submission is all about ego, and not about uplifting her or taking burden away from her. Most Christian households when done right end up looking a lot like partnerships in this day and age, because the men realize that they are not God to know the best thing to do or deserve the final decision every time, and that 2 heads, both who are educated in the same way nowadays, is better than one.

Now there's another type of submission a lot of coli (insecure) men want, that isn't founded in religion at all. It can really be better categorized as obedience. But the problem those men have is that they simply do not have the financial capability to command that type of reaction from any woman (the type where anything he says goes, he doesn't have to contribute in any other way than being a 'provider' and 'protector'). The way that most marriages of today happen is that both male and female work outside the home, work around the same hours, and have the same level of stress before they even enter the home. So essentially the woman has taken on the man's traditional role in providing, but because of ego the man does not and refuses to take on any parts of the woman's traditional role. A woman would be an idiot to sign up for this, but some do, and after awhile, she gets bogged down in having to carry so much weight in the relationship, resentment builds, and....voila: 80% of divorces initiated by women forced to carry too much weight because of a selfish partner who put his ego before the happiness/comfort of his wife

At no point in the Christian Bible does a man lose his role as a leader to his wife

 

[PartyHeart]

I agree with the bolded

I don't agree with the part of most men not being worthy on the Coli, I don't know them personally I know their online personas... I do think that a lot of men in society don't have what it takes.... and their leadership isn't the type that is wanted by a lot of women.

I think its safe to say when the majority of what they talk about has to do with what the wife must do for them and nothing about what they will do for her to deserve it, you can pretty easily say they aren't worthy.

 

[dax]

So men and women are the same?

http://www.independent.co.uk/life-s...hy-men-are-better-at-map-reading-8978248.html

can't really disagree with human biology and still be right. shyt is just feelings at this point.

No actually I believe men and women are different and have different strengths. But leading is not what I consider one of them.

 

[Chesirecatdaddy]

I think its safe to say when the majority of what they talk about has to do with what the wife must do for them and nothing about what they will do for her to deserve it, you can pretty easily say they aren't worthy.

I didn't see that with Mr. somebody I might have missed the others though because I was not in the thread for a while and didn't look back at al lthe posts. A lot of the shyt people say on the coli is exaggerated to the fullest tho lol. nikkaz be

 

[Mr. Somebody]

I see a chicken and the egg situation occurring here
Pussify and emasculate men then claim they're not worthy to submit to, brehettes
Thank God I was raised in a 2 parent home

Do you think thats the cause? The women that are anti submission are raised by 1 parent?

 

[Remote]

They are being raised by women instead of 2 parents.

So who failed to raise these failed women?
I suspect you won't say it's these men who supposedly deserve to be submitted to.

 

[PartyHeart]

I didn't see that with Mr. somebody I might have missed the others though because I was not in the thread for a while and didn't look back at al lthe posts. A lot of the shyt people say on the coli is exaggerated to the fullest tho lol. nikkaz be

True. I'm going by all of the posters I've read in here with that viewpoint though, not just one.

And I came from a 2 parent household, my parents have been married for 32 years. Just wanted to say that before that accusation is slung at me.

 

[dax]

Wasn't Obama raised by one parent?

 

[Wild self]

If it was me in that situation, me and my wife would talk and if she had those feelings, she could explain it to me then. Being submissive doesn't mean she's stupid and it doesn't mean that when she voices her concerns, I won't listen to her. If she makes really good sense about something, Imma listen to her.


My argument is that what if this decision was the right one...........and the only problem is that the wife does not want to leave. She just doesn't want to go. You live in Philadelphia but the job is in Houston. My family would just have to learn to like Texas

to young dudes that still think like this

 

[Remote]

Wasn't Obama raised by one parent?

Yes.
But what a failure and simp.
He only got elected President of the most powerful country in the world.

Maybe he'll do better in another life time.

 

[Chesirecatdaddy]

No actually I believe men and women are different and have different strengths. But leading is not what I consider one of them.

Well I believe it. I believe that there are exceptions to the rules tho ... and none of this means that women can't lead or pick up the role of leader. It's been like this from the beginning ...and women wouldn't have made it this far if men couldn't be leaders and hunt and lift heavy objects for women. Men wouldn't be here if women didn't take care of men's children... the proof is all around you.

There have been female military leaders, succesful female Ceo's, Female conquerors... so women can be leaders... but most women have no desire for some of these roles because they're not hardwired for it. Who cares? I'm not hardwired for dressing up and taking 1000 pics of myself and would never get enjoyment out of it the way women do. It's nothing.

 

[Diondon]

Do you think thats the cause? The women that are anti submission are raised by 1 parent?

I do believe anti submission women never witnessed a fully functional relationship growing up.
Their ideals were molded based on disfunction.
However, SOME women are easily influenced, a Twitter meme could have them acting brand new. Who knows?
I was speaking more on the men though.