Candace Cameron Bure Defends Her "Submissive Role" With Husband: "I Want Him to Lead"

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I don't think gender roles are the same as a woman being submissive. I think submission is solely based on the establishment of hierarchy within the family.

Except that historically gender roles have put decisions in the hands of men...so yes..gender roles have a direct correlation to submission.

 

[PartyHeart]

Well I believe it. I believe that there are exceptions to the rules tho ... and none of this means that women can't lead or pick up the role of leader. It's been like this from the beginning ...and women wouldn't have made it this far if men couldn't be leaders and hunt and lift heavy objects for women. Men wouldn't be here if women didn't take care of men's children... the proof is all around you.

There have been female military leaders, succesful female Ceo's, Female conquerors... so women can be leaders... but most women have no desire for some of these roles because they're not hardwired for it. Who cares? I'm not hardwired for dressing up and taking 1000 pics of myself and would never get enjoyment out of it the way women do. It's nothing.

This really doesn't have anything to do with biology or hardwiring. Y'all need to stop it.

 

[Rawtid]

The word to describe this shouldn't be submission though

That's my whole point. No adult should ever submit to another adult. Especially ones that are on equal footing in a relationship


What decisions for your family?

I have asked for real life examples up and down this thread and none of the clowns responded @chris b

Well then don't use that word if you don't want to. It's only negative if you want it to be. I wouldn't have a problem saying I was submissive or I submit to my husband and I wouldn't care what anyone had to say about it.

Decisions for my family may include large purchases like a new car, relocation, rennovations, taking on new expenses like school tution or something...mainly financial decisions. I would say those things would utimately be up to the husband to execute on even if that meant the couple agrees that the wife take the lead on it.

 

[Milk N Cookies]

If you keep being in a relationship with a planb guy in mind you will never have a real relationship.

I cant continue with this thread any longer... most of(if not all) the responses ive gotten was that this is the kind of woman that you want to wife in order to have a long lasting marriage:


and when it comes down to sex



So thanks Destiny's Child for teaching me that i dont need a man & can be independent, but flipped it years later to this...

What happened to the power of the p-u-$-$-y?

 

[Ain't That Something]

It's funny even lesbian couples understand that in a relationship their is a dominant one (doms) and a submissive one (fems) yet nikkas on the coli can't understand that simple concept.

 

[Mr. Somebody]

You know if he had a dad at home maybe he would have done something great like spend all his time posting on a forum pretending to be 3 different people

@Mowgli
@crackface
@Mr. Somebody

Why did you @ me here friend. I thought this was a troll thread. What are you still doing in here? You seemed happy the thread got locked earlier.

 

[Wild self]

This is a great point. I really think a lot of dudes don't realize exactly how much of a cupcake they really are until they get in the presence of dudes who really do have submissive women. Then they have that moment.

I remember some of my homies would literally be offended by the way some of my exes would treat me. And some just didn't know how to react at the site of a woman, especially a black woman, submitting and catering to her dude.

Homie : "Man, your girl cooks, cleans, does your laundry and even irons your clothes for the week? Man, I don't know about all that. I don't think I could handle a woman doing all that for me."

Me: ...ummm yea....that's just regular girlfriend stuff. Your girl doesn't do that stuff for you?

Homie: Nah, man...I was always raised to do my own sh#t...mama wasn't playing that after I was like 10. Sh#t, my girl be too busy

Me: ....and you call that chick your girl....

Peace

his happened more than a few times for me. Some of these dudes get girls from the most fukked up places. Lol

 

[CrimsonTider]

The fact still remain...that most married men want to remain married..

You can ignore the stats.
it's not the men killing the relationships...It's the women. 80% file for divorce

So you think I'm going to take a stat a face value?

You still didn't provide any examples... Could it be, because you're not married

It's pretty obvious women initiate divorce more because they end up bearing too much of the burden in marriage

 

[Chesirecatdaddy]

This really doesn't have anything to do with biology or hardwiring. Y'all need to stop it.

of course it does.. more things do than you care to give it credit for. I'm not making blanket statements, not all women take 1000 pics... but more women do this than men... more women play make up and dress up than men etc... Just because I say something doesn't mean the opposite doesn't exist. I know there's little girls out there right now playing with Gi joe's instead of barbies... doesn't make what I said any less true. I believe that's why everyone in this thread is arguing tho, lot's of misinterpretation going on.

 

[Chesirecatdaddy]

So you think I'm going to take a stat a face value?

You still didn't provide any examples... Could it be, because you're not married

It's pretty obvious women initiate divorce more because they end up bearing too much of the burden in marriage

Be gulty of the same thing you accuse another poster of brehs.

 

[Chris.B]

So you think I'm going to take a stat a face value?

You still didn't provide any examples... Could it be, because you're not married

It's pretty obvious women initiate divorce more because they end up bearing too much of the burden in marriage

I will like you back up this statement with facts

 

[Mr. Somebody]

I cant continue with this thread any longer... most of(if not all) the responses ive gotten was that this is the kind of woman that you want to wife in order to have a long lasting marriage:


and when it comes down to sex



So thanks Destiny's Child for teaching me that i dont need a man & can be independent, but flipped it years later to this...

What happened to the power of the p-u-$-$-y?

Lets not learn how to be women through demonic corporate sponsors, friend.

 

[PartyHeart]

of course it does.. more things do than you care to give it credit for. I'm not making blanket statements, not all women take 1000 pics... but more women do this than men... more women play make up and dress up than men etc... Just because I say something doesn't mean the opposite doesn't exist. I know there's little girls out there right now playing with Gi joe's instead of barbies... doesn't make what I said any less true. I believe that's why everyone in this thread is arguing tho, lot's of misinterpretation going on.

And all of that has to do with social conditioning and not hardwiring.

 

[CrimsonTider]

Well then don't use that word if you don't want to. It's only negative if you want it to be. I wouldn't have a problem saying I was submissive or I submit to my husband and I wouldn't care what anyone had to say about it.

Decisions for my family may include large purchases like a new car, relocation, rennovations, taking on new expenses like school tution or something...mainly financial decisions. I would say those things would utimately be up to the husband to execute on even if that meant the couple agrees that the wife take the lead on it.

All those decisions should be made 50/50 with a 100% agreement between both partners

Why would you let a another adult make the final decision on relocating, the car you want to drive, renovations,school, etc

If it's not in line with what you want to do.

Both should have the final say so. That's the only way it should be

 

[Chesirecatdaddy]

I cant continue with this thread any longer... most of(if not all) the responses ive gotten was that this is the kind of woman that you want to wife in order to have a long lasting marriage:


and when it comes down to sex



So thanks Destiny's Child for teaching me that i dont need a man & can be independent, but flipped it years later to this...

What happened to the power of the p-u-$-$-y?

Take examples on how to live your life from R n B songs made by artist who don't live what they sing about, because it's just entertainment brehs


it's what's wrong with the world right now.


Cater 2 u is a good song tho.. but doesn't it preach the opposite of your position on things?