Candace Cameron Bure Defends Her "Submissive Role" With Husband: "I Want Him to Lead"

[Malik]

Nobody thought it was a good example. Bammer called you out on it too.

Again, your example showed how skewed and biased your opinion of the males authority really is. That's not an example that comes down to "we go or we don't go." As my post clearly pointed out, its a decision that takes a series of logical assessments - NONE of which were present in your writing.

A man saying "we're moving, *insert you fukked up* pic" is the perfect embodiment of a dictator. Which is exactly what you were trying NOT to prove.

Do you understand anything that I'm saying?

You're a condescending azzhole, did you know that?

Fukk outta here

Good example to dissect.
He may not be being "evil" per say, but he is being a dictator and acting in self interest disguised as otherwise. You forget that money is not everything. Whos to say that uprooting those children from friends and family and dropping them in a foreign environment will be the best decision? That is something that should be agreed upon between both parties, not forced.

Nobody huh?

 

[tru_m.a.c]

You're a condescending azzhole, did you know that?

Fukk outta here



Nobody huh?

Lol that's the only thing you can respond to.

Oooo you're right that someone thought it was a "good example to dissect." Even as you highlight that section, you disregard the part where he destroys your rationale for wording the example the way you did. WHICH IS EXACTLY WHAT I SAID FROM THE JUMP.

 

[Malik]

Lol that's the only thing you can respond to.

Oooo you're right that someone thought it was a "good example to dissect." Even as you highlight that section, you disregard the part where he destroys your rationale for wording the example the way you did. WHICH IS EXACTLY WHAT I SAID FROM THE JUMP.

They can disagree with me all they want. They posted intelligent, well thought out responses and I can respect that. But you.....you the only one that came in here on some other sh*t, making personal snipes at me......so nah nikka, I don't respect that. Talking to me like I'm some kid and wondering why I wont engage you seriously. You're a condescending prick....fukk outta here

 

[MeachTheMonster]

My wife feels the same way. It's pretty much the only way a marriage will work.

Unless the dude is a super simp, in which case he'd be the "submissive" one

 

[Taadow]

*takes sip of this hurr Henn Dowg*

Look - I didn't read this whole thread (and I won't), but i'll just say this:

It seems to me that the beef here is with the word "submissive" itself.
Wholetime, everbody in here is submissive to something...maybe two or three things.
In this situation, a person gets to choose who they submit to - and if it's workin' for them, other people best stfu.

 

[MikelArteta]

@Rekkapryde

 

[Rekkapryde]

@Rekkapryde

What?

 

[No_bammer_weed]

If it was me in that situation, me and my wife would talk and if she had those feelings, she could explain it to me then. Being submissive doesn't mean she's stupid and it doesn't mean that when she voices her concerns, I won't listen to her. If she makes really good sense about something, Imma listen to her.


My argument is that what if this decision was the right one...........and the only problem is that the wife does not want to leave. She just doesn't want to go. You live in Philadelphia but the job is in Houston. My family would just have to learn to like Texas

This is the overall point Im trying to make here, black. When you speak of traditional gender roles of the past, men carried overwhelming authority in the household because of an asymmetry in knowledge and real world experience between men and women. Women werent encouraged, or generally allowed to think critically, pursue higher education, develop careers, etc, so generally they werent equipped to deal with matters outside of home making or agrarian work. Men had the ability to make the more sound decision more often than not.

We now have a globalized economy where its financially demanded that women pursue education, and develop careers. One income households are a thing of the past. If you have a wife that is college educated, and has a challenging career, you mean to tell me you can convince her that what you say should go simply because you have a dyck? I get the idea that a man is supposed to carry a certain amount of respect, and I do believe in gender roles to a degree --- but submission and obedience isnt of interest to me, and is largely unreasonable in this day and age.

 

[MikelArteta]

What?

is your wife submissive?

 

[Rekkapryde]

I had the hots for Candace Cameron for the longest...

This makes it better....

But if it works for her....

I can't have a total sheep in my house. I need someone to balance me out. I'm fukkin wreckless with bread and my cheapskate wife is perfect for my situation.

 

[Rekkapryde]

is your wife submissive?

I'm married to a black woman breh.....


But we usually consult with each other before making decisions. I tend to go with her gut, because my batting average is pretty shytty when we go with mine.


Overall, If I tell her this is what we doing, she'll do it (might not like it though)

 

[Anothergirl]

why should the final say lie with anyone by default? why should a man's opinion be put on a pedestal? are they mentally superior? u would go thru with whatever decision your man makes? even if it's an important one and you don't agree?

i can't speak for anyone else but myself....and as a christian first and foremost because the bible says so. the hierarchy is as follows: God > Christ > Husband > Wife.
THAT is what i consider conducive to the smoothest and healthiest flowing of households. THAT is also what i saw work for my parents growing up. do you and let others do them. the end.

Bed wench.

 

[Crakface]

*smh* I can tell you guys never have real intellectual discourse involving real life situations



All fluff no substance. And this shows your wife is obedient.



More chest beating. More fluff.



this is your hypothetical scenario of a man being a leader??? this is the "matter" you alluded to in the beginning

The only reason you're okay with the decision is because the man is making excessively more money in the new area. You're displaying real ignorance by totaling dismissing how difficult it is to find a new house, sell your house for market value, decide on an appropriate school zone for your children etc. You made this situation up because it shows a man making more money and a man making a decision with authority. You didn't even ATTEMPT to display that the man used a system of logic to make the move. Hyper masculinity. You want an obedient woman who strokes your ego. You don't want a wife.

A family moving is a household decision. The man does not hold the final say in it as the decision affects all parties involved. Unless the wife is trying to stay for superficial reasons, the man's only power is persuasion. For one, you're not moving to a new city by yourself. Secondly, you're not taking the kids by yourself. This is why many consultants (and I'm one) decide to switch jobs or force their org to find them clients in their hometown area.

That's why its called COMPROMISING AND NOT SUBMISSION.

If you don't know the word, you can't think the thought - my 10th grade english teacher

You aint foolin nobody nikka. You're a womanizer like bammer weed and willstyles. What are people going to assume from someone calling himself a mac, a nikka posin with a bunch of hoes in his avatar and a nikka that post his personal porn flicks for strangers

The reason you dont put high expectations on women is so she has less expectations on You. Bet money you're the type that has no quams with a bytch having male friends and all that to show that you're not insecure meanwhile you got a harem of hoes ready to fukk at a moments notice. You just trying to separate yourself from the pack with this bullshyt to get these rebellious coli birds on your dikk. Little do they know hookin up with you would probably be the worst mistake of their life. Let these women be wrangled, guided and controlled. Its the only way.

 

[Desirous]

It depends on people's personalities. Some guys don't like to make important decisions...I have male friends whom when I ask what they feel like eating, they don't know what restaurant they feel like going to or what to order....and just let me make the decisions and like that I can take charge. I'm obviously not like this with everyone, but you'll always have one person who is the alpha and that person will take charge. Sometimes, the alpha becomes the beta when there is a stronger alpha in the picture.

 

[street heat]

black american women are the only ones who have a problem with a letting a man lead. an american black womans favorite thing to do is try and emasculate a black man


if you want more of a traditional household, dont marry one.