Candace Cameron Bure Defends Her "Submissive Role" With Husband: "I Want Him to Lead"

[Chesirecatdaddy]

There is a difference in being submissive and being bossed around.

Exactly I don't think people really understand the concept.

 

[Dada]

There are plenty of women in such relationships but I notice that the ones who give the most lip service to it are usually over-compensating for something. In fact, in some cases I knew exactly what they were covering for (either something was up with them, something was up with the spouse, or there was trouble). It raises my suspicions, more than anything.

 

[dax]

I wonder if she's a sub for real. teehee.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

A woman that understands this is a woman to wife. She will support her husband and continue to handle her business, knowing her responsibilities to please her husband and comfort him, while her husband protects his spouse...the easiest way to love.

 

[Mr. Somebody]

My wife made the mistake of telling some sistas we were hanging out with that she does the cooking and cleaning in the house. I had to hold my baby up to my face to hide from their chastisement.

 

[tru_m.a.c]

Theres nothing wrong with admitting you want to be led. Especially for a woman as it concerns her man.

Your definition of what a wife is is relative. Not every woman is Michelle Obama or idealistically independent minded. Alot of women look to their men to guide them. I dont see why you're degrading these women by referring to them as animals.

To this day…I still don't understand how this is accepted. "Look to their men to guide them." Through what? You're a grown ass adult not a child. Please…Please…Please answer that question: Women want their men to guide them to/through *insert answer*. Because I'm confused as to what scenarios or situations in a relationship call for one person to be a leader and one person to be submissive. So please give us some specific examples.

In my opinion, there is EVERYTHING wrong with admitting you WANT to be LED. A woman doesn't want to be led. Little girls who live life superficially want to be led. A woman wants to feel comfortable knowing she has a man capable of taking charge, being accountable and dependable. When a woman says she wants a man to lead, she's saying she's not going to accept some dead beat loser who sponges off of her love. @No_bammer_weed and @Willstyles are saying the same thing, but from a male egalitarian perspective. They also don't want some dead beat loser ass wife. But that doesn't mean we want a woman who submits. And that doesn't mean that BOTH individuals in the relationship aren't leaders. It simply means that each party understands their strengths and weaknesses. It also means that each party understands that 2 heads are better than 1. So again, where does this "submit" thing come into play?

submissives does not mean a pet.

It means she has to respect the role of the man as the leader of the house.
Any organization/institution with 2 leaders is bound to fail.

You want an obedient wife. It's pretty clear sir.

 

[tru_m.a.c]

My wife made the mistake of telling some sistas we were hanging out with that she does the cooking and cleaning in the house. I had to hold my baby up to my face to hide from their chastisement.

how old are you nikka? this is laughable at best

 

[Chesirecatdaddy]

Submissive: pretend the husband knows more than the wife regardless if it is true or not. I will never understand why men continue to use that word. It is so divisive and will never lead to a constructive conversation. Honestly, I think the concept is silly. How can we assume that a man is automatically strong in some areas and a woman is automatically weak in those area. It's a fantasy.

how is it a fantasy? We are not all born alike some men are even stronger in some areas than others and vice versa. shyt is very much a reality.

 

[tru_m.a.c]

Exactly I don't think people really understand the concept.

no, because you nor any woman who says "I want to submit" ever do a good job of EXPLAINING THE SPECIFIC SITUATIONS THAT CAUSE FOR SUBMITTING

 

[marcuz]

My wife made the mistake of telling some sistas we were hanging out with that she does the cooking and cleaning in the house. I had to hold my baby up to my face to hide from their chastisement.

"and that's why she's married and you ladies aren't "

edit: "now praise my mixed child some more "

 

[Mr. Somebody]

To this day…I still don't understand how this is accepted. "Look to their men to guide them." Through what? You're a grown ass adult not a child. Please…Please…Please answer that question: Women want their men to guide them to/through *insert answer*. Because I'm confused as to what scenarios or situations in a relationship call for one person to be a leader and one person to be submissive. So please give us some specific examples.

In my opinion, there is EVERYTHING wrong with admitting you WANT to be LED. A woman doesn't want to be led. Little girls who live life superficially want to be led. A woman wants to feel comfortable knowing she has a man capable of taking charge, being accountable and dependable. When a woman says she wants a man to lead, she's saying she's not going to accept some dead beat loser who sponges off of her love. @No_bammer_weed and @Willstyles are saying the same thing, but from a male egalitarian perspective. They also don't want some dead beat loser ass wife. But that doesn't mean we want a woman who submits. And that doesn't mean that BOTH individuals in the relationship aren't leaders. It simply means that each party understands their strengths and weaknesses. It also means that each party understands that 2 heads are better than 1. So again, where does this "submit" thing come into play?



You want an obedient wife. It's pretty clear sir.

You live in a world of ideals not reality. You should be able to look around you and see that alot of women need guidance but then again so do the men. Being an adult doesnt mean you dont need guidance, friend.

Im in my 30's by the way.

 

[Mr. Somebody]

"and that's why she's married and you ladies aren't "

They said *mr. somebody, we like men that cook * as if somehow i was getting over on my wife and winning.

I was like. "I dont cook because i feel its a womans job, i dont cook because im not good at it"

They were like.

"Learn "

When i take my wife to the gun range, show her offensive knife techniques and try to teach her some BJJ she doesnt like it, even though, it could protect our home from demons.

We should all cater to our strengths. Thats just my opinion though.

 

[Anothergirl]

Not surprising though she's a Christian who saved herself for marriage.

And so is her husband

yes sir. dudes in here need to take notice of the KIND of men who are being "submitted to" with ease as well. like attracts like. righteous dude attracts righteous chick 9/10.

Bure is a devout christian along with Candice...despite being a hockey player and having puckbunnies throw p*ssy at him on the daily back in the day.... he's always been know as being an upstanding and loyal dude who puts his family above all. any woman worth her weight in gold would be HONORED to get behind THAT and submit to a man who can exercise such discipline and self control.

i'm about as conservative in my relationship as it gets.my husband barks...... i jump. he runs the home...bills...family ...you name it. as a proudly traditional woman i can say this.... if you dudes in here really think you're gonna run around "smashing" everything in site like y'all like to fantasize about till your 40... wearing being a manwhore as some kind of badge of honor and then suddenly try to lock down a loyal submissive wife that's honored to let you lead you need to think again. most of us won't be checking for you or will already be off the market. you've got to BE what you want to attract. let that marinate for a min.

 

[Malik]

Some women think having a man be the head of the household means they're weak. So they fight for control every second. You're a strong woman. You don't need a man.


On the other end of the spectrum, single mothers with four kids working three jobs to pay all the bills, have a permanent face wishing they had a man around to make life easier for them.


Which one is it ladies?

 

[tru_m.a.c]

You live in a world of ideals not reality. You should be able to look around you and see that alot of women need guidance but then again so do the men.

Its so demonic, friend. Im in my 30's by the way.

great, now answer the part where I ask you to list specific examples that cause for a woman to submit

you have a wife, so you should easily be able to list the times in which she submitted to you/for you. you shouldn't have to use hypotheticals.

and I'm still confused about the guidance issue? Guide them to what? To be better individuals? How? In what way? And what makes that guidance so significant, that it's only a one way street? Because really, as you see, the word you're looking for isn't guidance *ye shrug*