Candace Cameron Bure Defends Her "Submissive Role" With Husband: "I Want Him to Lead"

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:comeon: nikkas say the same shyt all the time on here, calling black women who marry white men bed wenches. That was a tongue in cheek comment because he made a comment initially about black women leading the community or some shyt.

I kinda figured as much given who you were replying to which is why I said I'm not trying to be like them, I know you and others like to troll these dudes when they come in here on their bullshyt but this is the only forum I'm a member of, and I saw that comment I just wanted to ask. I figured maybe you or some other black women can come in here and shed some light. I wasn't singling you out or anything.
 

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Should every woman adopt this mindset....the divorce rate will drop overnight.

Not too sure about this as many men either don't want to lead or don't know how to.
 
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:comeon: nikkas say the same shyt all the time on here, calling black women who marry white men bed wenches. That was a tongue in cheek comment because he made a comment initially about black women leading the community or some shyt.

When Black women go to another race they suddenly go natural and become submissive, shyt is comical. :pachaha:
 

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Not too sure about this as many men either don't want to lead or don't want to.
Men are not the ones killing marriages. They are willing to stay in the marriage.
Women are the ones who kill marriages.
 

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God damn dog. This sounds like me.

Its so demonic friend!
Our upbringing really has a direct influence on our relationships as adults and friends often overlook how the relationships with their parents or lack of effects their relationships with the opposite sex, friend.

If a friend is raised by an overbearing mother that tells him no woman is here to do what he says and he should cook and clean to keep his woman happy and any good woman is independent, like herself often the chances of him like a woman that is submissive will be slim because she goes against what Mamma taught him or what he saw from his mother.
 

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I figured as much, I know you and others like to troll these dudes when they come in here on their bullshyt but this is the only forum I'm a member of and I saw that comment and just wanted to ask and figured maybe you or some other black women can come in here and shed some light. I wasn't singling you out or anything, like I've said I've seen this numerous times and in numerous places.

Real talk I don't really care what anyone decides to do with their personal lives, I just felt like throwing shade. :ehh:
When Black women go to another race they suddenly go natural and become submissive, shyt is comical. :pachaha:


:manny: Listen, I won't comment on that because I can only speak for myself. I haven't dated outside my race and never plan to so your comment is directed at the wrong person.
 

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It's obvious nikkas here don't know what it is to lead so they run away from it any chance they get. For to lead is to acknowledge responsibilities and live up to the expectations that come from.such a role. But alas that is apparently too much for the coli nikka.

:mindblown: what are you talking about

if leading = "acknowledging responsibilities and living up to expectations" then why aren't women expected to lead?

BECAUSE THAT'S NOT THE DEFINITION
 
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:leostare: i dont get where youre coming from friend

Well when you got nikkas comparing a man leading his wife in the relationship to that of a man and his dog in a leash and others cosigning that simple minded understanding of what it is to lead then what more really need to be said. Leading a relationship also requires listening to your partner acknowledging her inputs, mutual respect.... It is more guiding the relationship to mutually benificial results. It aint decision made for me bc I said it more so decisions made for us bc we need it. There is a level of responsibility and expectations one must live up to to effectively lead I could go on but I'm on my phone so I'm gone let ya nikkas have it.
 

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Well when you got nikkas comparing a man leading his wife in the relationship to that of a man and his dog in a leash and others cosigning that simple minded understanding of what it is to lead then what more really need to be said. Leading a relationship also requires listening to your partner acknowledging her inputs, mutual respect.... It is more guiding the relationship to mutually benificial results. It aint decision made for me bc I said it more so decisions made for us bc we need it. There is a level of responsibility and expectations one must live up to to effectively lead I could go on but I'm on my phone so I'm gone let ya nikkas have it.

It's called simping breh. These cape nikkaz are blossoming all over the place. If you follow them around you'll hear "Okay baby" all got damn day.
 

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There is more to being a leader then money. Thats the easy part. Money cant raise your kids and we see what happens when men neglect that responsibility, friend. :sitdown: Do you want to lead and be the one to teach your son how to be a man?

I think you guys are just getting to hung up on this power thing and certain words make you resistant to acknowledge honest truths.

I literally saw a woman during a wedding look at a pastor like :rudy: when he said *and to obey*

Its so demonic, friends. :sitdown:

Nikkas basically saying if you're a doctor, your wife should be submissive but if you're a mechanic, then no. If you don't want to be submissive to your husband, why even get married...you obviously don't give a fukk about the vows you're making. I guess people think God only holds you to some of them :sitdown:
 
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Prove, make known, whatever I'm not gone let my husband just handle everything. It's not how I was raised... Support your husband, but also remember to also have a back up plan when sh1t hits the fan...

Take Rochelle from Everybody Hates Chris for example, she did what she was to do as a wife, but if Julius was in a grind she stepped up and kept things flowing.

Fictional character, yes, but it showed that when needed a woman can step up to the plate.
shyt has nothing to do with being submissive tho
 

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Nikkas basically saying if you're a doctor, your wife should be submissive but if you're a mechanic, then no. If you don't want to be submissive to your husband, why even get married...you obviously don't give a fukk about the vows. I guess God only cares about the important ones :sitdown:
Friend, i dont think people even know what being submissive means. The women that are strong should just find someone stronger for them because the balance is messed up if a woman can brag about being stronger then her husband. There is no 50 50. Someone is the leader.
 
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