can/will you forgive your s/o if they cheated?

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lol, it's going great. We haven't gone anywhere today yet. We both called out of work and we're gonna go shopping for Thanksgiving decorations when he wakes up from his candy coma.
sounds like fun, i need to move to balifornia and find me a ashley banks. hows ur sis?
 

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.I just wish them happiness, that's as much as I can do for them
I never understod this go to line. "I wish them the best and all the happiness".

It just sounds so fake and PC. I really dont believe ppl ever forgive others to the point of wanting to see them happy, if they do, it's like "as long as they aren't happier than me"

I dont think I'll ever forgive the one who cheated on me.
 

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All this drip on me
I never been cheated on, in fact betrayal is an emotion I never even experienced triggered by any female I've been involved with or talked too so I don't know how'd I react in the heat of the moment.

The real nikka in me feels like I'd never forgive her and be like...
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but the logical side of me thinks that it wouldn't be such a cut-and-dry situation...it would be a complex situation filled with mixed emotions if it happened in an already established long term relationship/marriage, which would require some reevaluating and me discovering the root cause (ex. communication issues/emotional detachment/black-out drunk at friends function/financial benefits etc) of that. Then maybe somewhere down the road after we initially separate I may forgive her if there's still love there.
 

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You can forgive someone, but it will change the relationship for ever.

Once that trust is broken i don't think you can get that back.

To me, you're best off just ending it and moving on cause it will never be the same again,


And usually, people cheat because the relationship is severely flawed in the first place. That's what most people don't understand. Cheating is more of a symptom of a bad relationship

Exactly. Resentment, distrust, negatively over-analyzing everything...

Only if I was married would I consider it. And we'd have to talk that shyt out until the sun came up.

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It depends because "s/o" is a very vague term and I don't think humans are supposed to be monogamous in the first place. A lot of people are just talmbout boyfriend/girlfriend shyt to where it ain't that serious yet or at least as serious as you think it is...more of an ownership of a person in a round about way rather than a real relationship. If it's to the point where we "married" or might as well be you're not just my S/O, you're my family. Not by blood but by selection which is often stronger, so no I don't think I can confidently say I would disown a family member because they had sex with someone else because I wouldn't want the same treatment if my "s/o" found out that I treated a random woman like a fleshlight 1 or 5 times somewhere down the line.

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