can/will you forgive your s/o if they cheated?

[getmoney310cpt]

depends...if ive cheated before her and she didnt find out and I happen to catch her then i'd have to assess the situation..if there was betrayal to the point of her being disloyal and what not then yeah shes gone but if it was really just sex then i could get over it....

 

[KOOL-AID]

She's great, she's pregnant again. I get to name this one!!!!

Pregnant...so she do got a man? Lol u got a name yet?

 

[benjamin]

this double standard is so stupid and highlights how many dudes just treat women like objects. You're an adult, you should be held to similar standards of decency. If cheating is off limits for her it should be off limits for you.

Personally I wouldn't forgive, I'd move on. Few things are worse than prolonging a dead relationship. You might not know it's dead, but if he/she cheated it's gonna come up again and again. It's a mental thing.

She chose to forgive, thats her right..its also my right to move on if she does me the same way, not saying i wouldnt forgive her but i couldnt stay

 

[Larry Lambo]

I could forgive, but the relationship is over.

If she cheat on you, she don't respect you or the relationship. Dueces. Good luck to you.

 

[turbochef]

What if both yall cheating tho. Do you still leave if you find out?

 

[EARFQUAKE]

What if both yall cheating tho. Do you still leave if you find out?

I don't find myself cheating on my s/o because I'm not tempted by sex so easily. If I fell in love with someone else, which is natural, then I would have to do my part respectfully and end the relationship before pursuing the next one.

I really don't know if it's as simple as I make it out to be but there's a great chance that for me it probably won't be.

 

[Rhapscallion Démone]

As corny as this may sound love is the factor that keeps us from cheating. I mean real love for the person you are with and this includes caring about how your actions whether impulsive or premeditated impact your significant other. If real love is not in the relationship then maybe you shouldn't be either.

 

[DrHackenbush]

Nah..they do it once they'll do it twice

 

[Lady.Libra.]

As corny as this may sound love is the factor that keeps us from cheating. I mean real love for the person you are with and this includes caring about how your actions whether impulsive or premeditated impact your significant other. If real love is not in the relationship then maybe you shouldn't be either.

Cosign.

 

[DrBanneker]

Being married for me it is a toss up. I want to say I would throw the bish out but flushing years of work down the toilet and hurting the kids....it would be a tough decision.

As for if I was still on the dating scene, hell nah, I would be done. I keep telling young brothers if you want to chase tail DON'T GET IN A RELATIONSHIP. Why is this so hard to understand? If you can't fight temptation, break up. I don't understand why people bother with this whole side chick phenomenon. It's not like people can't get laid outside of a relationship.

 

[DrBanneker]

lol, it's going great. We haven't gone anywhere today yet. We both called out of work and we're gonna go shopping for Thanksgiving decorations when he wakes up from his candy coma.

Keep doing that small stuff. Having fun together is what keeps couples tight.

 

[KravenMorehead™]

I was gonna search how to make bombs and directions to the pentagon from his phone and laptop.

but this is a good idea

yo

 

[Ashley Banks]

Pregnant...so she do got a man? Lol u got a name yet?

oh yeah, she's married.

and yes I chose Isabelle for her first name and Celestina for her middle name. She loves them.

 

[HE_Pennypacker]

I wouldn't hold onto to a grudge, that shyt is very unhealthy. But take them back? Naaaaahhhh. I wouldn't be able to look at her without disappointment/disgust afterwards

 

[GoGetMyDamnBelt_]

I can, but I don't think I should. I know myself. I wouldn't be able to be spontaneously intimate with her anymore because I'd always think that if I were to let her off the hook and give her a second chance, she'd just leverage that shyt and use it to see if she could get away with the shyts again when she found the rewards of fukkin' around greater than keeping me.

I did that shyt in teens during my milquetoast years, I ain't HOH, but I ain't about to be any chick's doormat again either.

Found out 2 months ago my husband been cheating and I'm in the process of "moving on" but this- the bolded- plays through my head every time we apart or when he in the next room with his face glued to the phone.

He feels if we don't talk about it, the events will gradually fade away. That's his way of moving on when I'm telling him that's not the case. We HAVE to talk because that shyt did damages & it needs to be fixed. I suggested marriage counseling, he said he'll go but he will not get anything from it. Every time I'm so forgiving to his actions, the way he talks to me even tho he's clearly in the wrong or the way he tries to justify it & blame me for his cheating- I think of the above bolded.
This shyt changed me I'm paranoid now. I go on our T-Mobile account and start blocking numbers from his call log that I feel are too frequent. I go into his emails. I also found out he had 2 Tagged accounts which I combed through and found some more shyt that went back to when we JUST got married. Days I be sitting here wondering, how the hell am I so forgiving to all of this? They say your first love is the hardest