can/will you forgive your s/o if they cheated?

[UltimateSource]

I was gonna search how to make bombs and directions to the pentagon from his phone and laptop.

but this is a good idea

That's pretty fukkin diabolical.

 

[Lady.Libra.]

The messed up part is people cheat with and get left for people they don't even want.

 

[morris]

Maybe it was. What if they tell you it was the worst experience of their life and the stupidest thing they have ever done. What if you hear or see legit shame and they promise to spend their life making it up to you?

 

[StickStickly]

People cheat for so many different reason's some because they are bored, some because they are under the influence some for whatever reason or excuse they can make up in there head. Humans are flawed (imperfect) to expect a relationship between two people to not be flawed is....dun dun dun a flawed point of view.


A relationship can be perfectly fine and the person flawed sure, but to say the relationship is flawed because of a act that a person can do at any given time for any given reason I disagree with.

That's true. There's more to relationships than sex and coupling. People can let the past go and move on, but it takes a special kind of person to do that, a special kind of person to not take advantage of that, and an agreement to make the relationship work at all costs. Some relationships aren't built to make it; some are. It really depends on the bond and personalities of the people in it.

 

[Ashley Banks]

The messed up part is people cheat with and get left for people they don't even want.

ikr, my dad said he couldn't stand the chick he cheated on my mom with but lost his whole family over her.

 

[Lady.Libra.]

You can quit a bad habit.

People quit smoking, drinking, gambling, drugs, everyday.

Yall dont think a man or woman has enough self control to stop having sex outside the relationship?

Of course he has self control...and we count on him to commit to it use it consistently and choose us...everyday. It's the deliberate deception and willfulness that is foul and unforgivable.
Just leave.

 

[Ashley Banks]

That's true. There's more to relationships than sex and coupling. People can let the past go and move on, but it takes a special kind of person to do that, a special kind of person to not take advantage of that, and an agreement to make the relationship work at all costs. Some relationships aren't built to make it; some are. It really depends on the bond and personalities of the people in it.

This. and cheaters aren't a special kind of person. 99% of cheaters will see that as a green light to do what they want.

 

[StickStickly]

You can quit a bad habit.

People quit smoking, drinking, gambling, drugs, everyday.

Yall dont think a man or woman has enough self control to stop having sex outside the relationship?

I think some can. But really it depends if the person has certain other traits: thrill seeking, manipulative, likes to "get one over" on people, likes to influence people, flirting as a hobby, friends who cheat, lack of empathy or compassion, doesn't really take the time to get to know the partner. Those type of people will do it again, maybe three years down the line, maybe a month, maybe at the nursing home. It's not fun bein with a person who wants to cheat but doesn't because of bills or kids or something. That's not a real bond and that's not why I would want a partner to stay.

 

[morris]

That's true. There's more to relationships than sex and coupling. People can let the past go and move on, but it takes a special kind of person to do that, a special kind of person to not take advantage of that, and an agreement to make the relationship work at all costs. Some relationships aren't built to make it; some are. It really depends on the bond and personalities of the people in it.

 

[Amerikan Melanin]

Wife yes. Hopefully she just fukked or ate some p*ssy not had a full blown love affair. And used a condom!

 

[StickStickly]

This. and cheaters aren't a special kind of person. 99% of cheaters will see that as a green light to do what they want.

Especially young and inexperienced people, desperate people, people who think they are owed sex, etc. most people want to have their cake and eat it too with something in their life.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

I was gonna search how to make bombs and directions to the pentagon from his phone and laptop.

but this is a good idea

Or Google search pawg

 

[Born2BKing]

One of my ex chicks, let a girl eat her booty. No lie.

 

[Youseenmywork]

One of my ex chicks, let a girl eat her booty. No lie.

Wait and you didn't flip that situation on her

 

[Address_Unknown]

I agree, I know I would be able to forgive someone for cheating because that's just the type of person I am but I'm leaving.

Because dudes don't cheat, get taken back, then stop. No they keep cheating or worse do like @benjamin and get the side chick pregnant and force you into a polygamous relationship. No thanks.

I do too much for my husband and it would NOT be the same if he cheated and I took him back. No sex, I'm not cooking for you, wash your own clothes, don't look at me or touch me.

'UrfQuake wasn't lying with this one when it comes to this sorta shyt.

But yeah, life's too short to be looking to stay with people who ain't got the discipline to stay comitted or enough love for you to even think on creeping and then having to hide it from you. I don't even try and hear the reasons, I just pack my shyt, drop a pardon and bounce 'cause it's either they ain't ready to be single which is fine, let me leave, or there's something about me that I ain't doing or doing too much that would make them contemplate doing that shyt..and that's fine too.