brehettes could you date a man making 10-15 a hour?

[Yup]

I think the most important thing is not where you meet a person in relation to their journey, its if you believe in their vision to get where they want to go. My wife is in the same boat for me. I used to work for Ford, left when they offered buyouts as I was going back to school. Got my bachelors, got my masters and had to rebuild back up. I did do just that. I'm at near 70k a year, but it wasn't always that great. My wife, back when she was my girlfriend, bought into my vision of where I wanted to go. I didn't sell her dreams of owning a club, a restaurant or other foolishness, my moves were far more calculated. She saw how hard I studied in school, how I sought out job fairs in different states to go to, how many times I stayed up late to look for jobs. Literally looking like a zombie, pushing myself so I can prop up my family. In a sense, compared to most people, I've "made" it but I'm far from done. However, she would have never been a part of this if she would have just passed off on me because I wasn't making good money anymore for a time. Same with her, she's never made more than 23k a year, but that never factored into my decision as to why I should be with her or not. Money should be the last thing that defines love and/or a relationship.

That's a whole different situation she saw that you had ambition and a plan. Many of these men out there sell women pipe dreams and have no plans but a mouth piece. A woman that falls for that is foolish and will be mocked on this site.

 

[Yup]

I think the most important thing is not where you meet a person in relation to their journey, its if you believe in their vision to get where they want to go. My wife is in the same boat for me. I used to work for Ford, left when they offered buyouts as I was going back to school. Got my bachelors, got my masters and had to rebuild back up. I did do just that. I'm at near 70k a year, but it wasn't always that great. My wife, back when she was my girlfriend, bought into my vision of where I wanted to go. I didn't sell her dreams of owning a club, a restaurant or other foolishness, my moves were far more calculated. She saw how hard I studied in school, how I sought out job fairs in different states to go to, how many times I stayed up late to look for jobs. Literally looking like a zombie, pushing myself so I can prop up my family. In a sense, compared to most people, I've "made" it but I'm far from done. However, she would have never been a part of this if she would have just passed off on me because I wasn't making good money anymore for a time. Same with her, she's never made more than 23k a year, but that never factored into my decision as to why I should be with her or not. Money should be the last thing that defines love and/or a relationship.

I disagree the last point money needs to be factored in a relationship its it's unrealistic to think otherwise. Many marriages fail due to people not discussing finances. Guys need to be realistic and understand thay money is important.

 

[Rawtid]

Shieeeeeeeeeeeet

I'm gonna be a man without a care in the world

I should have used the sarcasm font.

 

[Rekkapryde]

Shhhhiiiit, if a female make over $20/hr im not dating her..... I need that control... Lol

 

[MikelArteta]

Like I said women don't want to build with men anymore.

My mom was with my dad when he was making 3 dollars a hour as a welder living in a roach infested apartment as she went to nursing school.

 

[MikelArteta]

MAny marriages fail due to a change in finances.

If all you've known is your husband making 50k a year and living in a 2500 sq foot house If he loses his job can only find employment at Walmart for 9 a hour and the mcmansion has to be sold and he has to move back home or into a studio apartment and that will be the life from now on thats when most women bolt.

Very few women can go back in lifestyle to what they are not accustomed to or a life they never lived.

If she was with you when you were making 9 , 10 a hour in a studio or living at hone, she will know this is only a season that you will be back on your feet whether its months or years and will stand by you.

Like I said 80 percent of women are filing for divorces and the number 1 reason is finances

I disagree the last point money needs to be factored in a relationship its it's unrealistic to think otherwise. Many marriages fail due to people not discussing finances. Guys need to be realistic and understand thay money is important.

 

[MurderSheWrote]

Among the major race and ethnicity groups, median weekly earnings for black men working at full-time jobs were $667 per week, or 75.5 percent of the median for white men ($884). The difference was less among women, as black women's median earnings ($631) were 87.0 percent of those for white women ($725). Overall, median earnings of Hispanics who worked full time ($583) were lower than those of blacks ($649), whites ($802), and Asians ($954). (See table 2.)

http://www.bls.gov/news.release/pdf/wkyeng.pdf
@MurderSheWrote a fuccn troll
Ol my great grand papi made it durin segregation ass broad
I usually would read n laugh but this poundin headache not goin anywhere & miss me wit any stupid retorts. Bb but my aunt makes 70-100G's in the bronx then moved bacc to the islands y'all broke mf'ers just lazy thecoli mayne

This damn thread has turned into broke ninjas anonymous.

And that's why MOST women end up in their 30's wondering why nobody put a ring on their finger. They make $15 an hour and want their man making 6 figures. They can't afford a proven BMW.

I would love to be the big breadwinner/spoil my partner type cause I do believe in that for a worthy woman. But realistically I and many others are in situations where financial shyt falls on both man and woman who live together, want to survive and do extra.

You can afford that proven BMW and I can only respect your honesty for not wanting less. But I think this mentality hinders relationships for women who CAN'T afford the BMW.

Champagne tastes but got beer money.

9 times out of 10 if they are dating men making $10-$15 those men probably couldn't afford a damn ring!

Marriage is a wealth building institution....get married breh (assuming you are not)....don't just shack up.

Apparently she only meets the 6 certs black men out there
Be a feminist who has to have her man make more money then her brehettes

Be a broke ninja mad as hell because chicks are doing exactly what they are supposed to do: Seeking men who can support and provide.

This is a valid concern, but easily answered. Hospitals have payment plans available so $15/hr. will be fine. There is also something called 'Charity Care' which offsets the costs of medical care for those who can't afford procedures that are necessary. An on-the-job injury calls for 'Workmen's Compensation'........http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Workers'_compensation#Statutory_compensation_law
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No problem........http://www.njfamilycare.org/what_cover.aspx

Woman at my last job covered herself and her 2 sons for $12/pay-period and was making about $13/hr.

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So it's better to go into debt and struggle rather than be in a position where you can handle your business without all the headaches, loans, and handouts?

I learn something new everyday I'm here on thecoli.

The funny thing is, I know a lot of female posters agree with this post but refuse to dap it because it's basically radioactive.

Question, do you believe in a prenup?

Depends on the situation. Broke ninjas have no business even thinking about prenups.

A man here called me a "gold digger" despite the reality that I make good money my damn self. According to him black women are gold diggers. If this were true black women wouldn't fukk around with black men. Y'all don't have any gold. Broke dudes are more afraid of gold diggers taking their $10-$15 an hour than the few rich black men in this world.

 

[iceberg_is_on_fire]

I disagree the last point money needs to be factored in a relationship its it's unrealistic to think otherwise. Many marriages fail due to people not discussing finances. Guys need to be realistic and understand thay money is important.

I didn't say disregarded though breh. I can't eat 'love' but I'm just saying it doesn't need to be upfront as for as the pecking order of priorities. Good mother, good wife comes before that stuff.

 

[HookersandIceCream]

@ people justifying making $10 in hour and not being in college or high school

 

[MurderSheWrote]

@ people justifying making $10 in hour and not being in college or high school

And then expecting women to stick with them while they are stacking cans at Wal-Mart.

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

So it's better to go into debt and struggle rather than be in a position where you can handle your business without all the headaches, loans, and handouts?

If your finances don't allow you to pay the entire fee at once, yes. For instance, the average cost of a bone marrow transplant is about $600,000.

A heart transplant is averaging about $1,000,000.

A kidney transplant is about $250,000.

If you can pay that right then and there, more power to you.

Can't handle too much business if you're dead.



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[Youseenmywork]

I guess I'm the exception to the rule. Just a average breh and currently mingling with a legit model making 6 figures .

Not true breh i make 10.60 an hour. But remember this isnt what makes you a man. I dont believe in letting a woman bring my manhood down to how much money i make and what i look like it deeper than that. Its more to being a man that WOMEN dont get. So a man thinketh ...so is he. In your mind you may fell you deserve models . Nothing wrong wit that its also about how you carry yourself as
well.

 

[Yup]

I didn't say disregarded though breh. I can't eat 'love' but I'm just saying it doesn't need to be upfront as for as the pecking order of priorities. Good mother, good wife comes before that stuff.

I am brehrette and I totally agree with you. Money should not matter more than human traits but it does matter.

 

[the cac mamba]

Men want beautiful women....women want successful men. Don't bytch about it. Get up and make some moves.

fair enough

 

[MikelArteta]

Stfu troll

This damn thread has turned into broke ninjas anonymous.



9 times out of 10 if they are dating men making $10-$15 those men probably couldn't afford a damn ring!

Marriage is a wealth building institution....get married breh (assuming you are not)....don't just shack up.



Be a broke ninja mad as hell because chicks are doing exactly what they are supposed to do: Seeking men who can support and provide.



So it's better to go into debt and struggle rather than be in a position where you can handle your business without all the headaches, loans, and handouts?

I learn something new everyday I'm here on thecoli.







Depends on the situation. Broke ninjas have no business even thinking about prenups.

A man here called me a "gold digger" despite the reality that I make good money my damn self. According to him black women are gold diggers. If this were true black women wouldn't fukk around with black men. Y'all don't have any gold. Broke dudes are more afraid of gold diggers taking their $10-$15 an hour than the few rich black men in this world.