also agreed, which is because of a cultural problem that people ignore
you have a black male, and a black female. both are headed down the wrong path. she wants mr swagmatir, so he tries to mimic/become that person. she gets with the dudes she finds attractive, maybe gets pregnant, and decides to fix her life. get in college, get a nice job, etc -- the perfect educated hoodrat.
meanwhile, the guy who was never interested in school starts down the path towards death/jail. black male teens rarely rebound from their 'confused' phase.
Good point. That's why I laugh when I hear some women complain that there is a lack of "good" Black men available.
So many Black women reward irresponsible and "confused" Black males so much that they never break out of it. There comes a point when it's too late for a Black male to turn it around.
If a dude doesn't have his sh!t together by 21, chances are slim that he'll end up being a "good" Black man.
It's tough for brothas to reinvent themselves in this society. Once you're tatted up, got a few items on your record, etc., you're toast.
That's the hard truth.