This is an interesting perspective. Never thought about it like this. From a “save me from my mistake” perspective.
Everyone should have a mentor / coach from a professional standpoint tho.
This.
“Black men, please be a mentor. These boys out here are hurting. They need you.”
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This is an interesting perspective. Never thought about it like this. From a “save me from my mistake” perspective.
Everyone should have a mentor / coach from a professional standpoint tho.
This.
I agree. From the home to an expert in their “profession”
Honestly there's a difference between mentoring a child and a young adult.
Framing this as mentoring a child does give off big ain't shyt female energy. The responsibility of mentoring a child or finding mentors for a child is the family's responsibility in any respectable community and you should rightfully be shamed for proposing this idea in a public forum. You and your family's history should be rightfully dug up and poked at. It's pathetic and weak, you can't mentor your kids? Y'all don't have a social circle of responsible adults for the kid to be around and absorb that energy? Those are you issues.
As far as mentoring young 20 year old men, I definitely think that's something we can work on collectively and a much better framing of this idea. But even then proposing that idea is crazy because being a upwardly mobile black professional is draining to the point where you might be doing more harm than help by trying to be a mentor. Folks would be mentors if they could, but they clearly can't be that so they don't.
Framing this as mentoring a child does give off big ain't shyt female energy. The responsibility of mentoring a child or finding mentors for a child is the family's responsibility in any respectable community and you should rightfully be shamed for proposing this idea in a public forum. You and your family's history should be rightfully dug up and poked at. It's pathetic and weak, you can't mentor your kids? Y'all don't have a social circle of responsible adults for the kid to be around and absorb that energy? Those are you issues.
As far as mentoring young 20 year old men, I definitely think that's something we can work on collectively and a much better framing of this idea. But even then proposing that idea is crazy because being a upwardly mobile black professional is draining to the point where you might be doing more harm than help by trying to be a mentor. Folks would be mentors if they could, but they clearly can't be that so they don't.
Absolute garbage
I have cac associates get hired for roles as younglins just because an older cac was looking to take them under their wing.
posting these accounts is sucker shyt, no offense.
A glance at that profile gives it away that its not a black man running that twitter account
xXMASHERXx
Superstar
Being a mentor is not easy, it requires a lot of effort. I know folks want to make it seem like it's only time but it's much more than that and even if it wasn't time isn't an infinite resource, we all only have so much. I did it before and eventually realized that I could not dedicate the proper amount of time and effort needed to make the difference I wanted to. I will try again once I've retired but I hate how so many people try to shame others for not wanting or being able to do it. Yes there is a desperate need for mentors in our community but there is also a desperate need to change the behavior that is leading to some many lost youths in out community.
dora_da_destroyer
Master Baker
You can die in the class you are born in at 20 or 67…being mentored to make better choices can be the difference between dying before you can legally drink and dying of general old age shyt.
Do you think what the account quoted was written by people in digital black face as well?
theGoldmangod
All Star
The amount of racist shyt you c00ns will support and big up just because you think it hurts black women is wild.
You could find white supremacist posts with less comments dripping with disdain for the black community than those twitter replies. Disgusting.
You could find white supremacist posts with less comments dripping with disdain for the black community than those twitter replies. Disgusting.
A grown black man on his square isnt engaging in a low brow conversation about sexual access regarding this topic
Do you think what the account quoted was written by people in digital black face as well?
<<TheStandard>>
I Am A God
I had to figure out everything for myself.
I was in the music industry for the longest but if I didn't create my own lane in sports gambling before legalization, I would have starved.
I've had college kids reach out to me telling me they admire my sports media work and I've taken the time to talk with with them, give them game, provide advice and if they need recommendations, opportunities for jobs and to make money and I've passed off those opportunities but I'm not outright mentoring anyone. I've gotten at least a half dozen people jobs in sports betting media.
If you're hungry I'll put you in position and provide opportunities to make money if I can but ultimately you're on your own. I'm not holding anyone's hand through anything. It's up to you to have the vision for what you want to do and figure out how to make it happen. If you need me to introduce you to people or opportunities I'll do that.
I was in the music industry for the longest but if I didn't create my own lane in sports gambling before legalization, I would have starved.
I've had college kids reach out to me telling me they admire my sports media work and I've taken the time to talk with with them, give them game, provide advice and if they need recommendations, opportunities for jobs and to make money and I've passed off those opportunities but I'm not outright mentoring anyone. I've gotten at least a half dozen people jobs in sports betting media.
If you're hungry I'll put you in position and provide opportunities to make money if I can but ultimately you're on your own. I'm not holding anyone's hand through anything. It's up to you to have the vision for what you want to do and figure out how to make it happen. If you need me to introduce you to people or opportunities I'll do that.
RaspberryFitted
Boyz In Motion Member
Black Men need to start tellin’ folks to shut the fukk up when they’re babbling rather than listening to these disingenuous, non nuanced, generic ass retorts.Quite the contrary too. My Brothers Keeper going down wasn’t because of black men hating black women. Word to Kimberle Crenshaw
Maybe things would be different.
If we hated them all these “activists” and “film makers” wouldn’t be allowed to start careers off of our corpses
In this thread and on Twitter, BM have articulated why “mentoring” often fails due to a lack of a home foundation and mentoring being a two way street (the mentee has to also put in effort) but folks are purposely avoiding these points and going after these weirdos who completely don’t fw young black men or use p*ssy as a bargaining chip.
theGoldmangod
All Star
Word, I did it myself too. But mentoring does not have to be this blood oath or extremely taxing activity like brehs are making it. I been helping young black men learn about and get into finance and investment banking for 2 decades at this point. And brehs who were already in the field to navigate their career. Most of these kids do have fathers, but still need guidance. You can help by just basically spending extra time doing shyt you'd already be doing.
I gotta call cap.
For starters thats a little too on the nose. Thats either a woman joking or a man/agent trying to stir the pot.
Secondly its not true. Chicks be wanting their kid to be like his dad...or what they think he is. When the nikka turns out to be a deadbeat this changes. Or she was enjoying the dikk and never thought about him being her chillds father.