I hear you. I know Africans in denmark raised on code. But its few and far between.
Told my wife about this situation and the "layers" to the whole ordeal, and she damn near sounded like a Coli Breh . Like the sucky part about the argument of code is odd because you got to break down stereotypes and look at people as a selective view. For all we know, ole girl with the white husband needed to see what's real from all of this foolishness. Just because you on some "I'ma black chick with a white man Tikywak" shyt, doesn't mean that the devil is not into details.
For one African dude that gave me the , there were a few that knew the deal that black is beautiful.