I'm not even going to touch that "the concept of gender is oppressive" nonsense.
The belief in the idea that black women have it harder than black men is important to this discussion because that's what black feminism movement is based on. Black feminism started in the 70's when some black women jumped ship from the civil rights/black power movements complaining about black men. White women got in some black women's ear which was all orchestrated by the government as a way to disrupt black unity/power. Again, black women face unfair treatment but not because they're women it's because they're black. Black women can't empower themselves without working to empower black people as a whole. Black men and women are connected at the hip, you can't have one without the other.
The fact that you believe black feminism is based on a pissing match between BW and BM goes to show that you don't know what the movement is truly about. Black feminism has existed way before the 70s, it's just that, in those times BW weren't calling themselves feminists. I would even go as far as to claim that BW are the original feminists.
As a BW, I have experienced first hand mistreatment because I am black and female. Many BW can and will attest to that so I'm not sure who you are trying to convince. You and several others keep going on about black feminism being divisive but pro feminism is not anti male just like pro black isn't anti white. Black feminists can and do support their community so I wonder who is really being divisive here? Anti black feminists or black feminists? If there is a movement that empowers women to take care of themselves, utilize their unique skills and talents and become good leaders in their community instead of allowing some ridiculous system to tell them otherwise just because they have two X chromosomes why not support it? Black feminism is not saying BM are useless and need to be replaced but that BW are just as capable as BM and vice versa.
The thing many people fail to understand is that BW are at the bottom in society therefore when we win, everyone wins.