I live in reality where me and my ex-wife happily raise our kid together,idk what fantasy land youre living in but even when the man is obligated to pay child support a lot of the times they will attempt to dodge payments, lower them to almost nothing, avoid seeing their children, etc. countless stories from all walks of life with people who've said their fathers have done this.
so i dont expect all of these people who dont have the gov involved are just happily walking around perfect coparenting. cause if shyt goes sour and that man leaves, the woman is shyt out of luck. she has zero recourse. its incredibly irresponsible for any woman to not get the court involved if she's not married to the man she had a child with.
No need for child support or any bs you talking about. She's a doctor and i'm a CFO. we both capable of covering the finances on our own. and deal with whatever expenses we need to together. Not everyone is so petty and vindictive with each other that they need to be told what to do. You the one living in a fantasy if you think thats the case.