The reason this sentiment is so heavily stated, and has been for decades, is the dichotomy of "Blackness" perpetuated by African-Americans.
As a basketball wife, she's still just as heavily surrounded by the "poverty-culture" aspects of "Blackness" as she would be if she were a Black woman in the hood, most of the AA basketball players are income-wise wealthy, but social-class-wise, haven't left the hood they're from.
It sounds like she wants Black petty-bourgeois culture, but since she wasn't raised in it, she's not going to find it. She's a Canadian actress, not a fourth-generation Spelmanite that spends her summer's in Camp Atwater with her other Jack & Jill of America friends.
She also is attributing aspects of poverty-culture to aspects of Black culture, which is a tricky thing.
Overall, she needs to stop making public statements for a few weeks.