These nikkas gotta go man
Yes, wanting to see children raised in a two parent household is all about controlling women.
40+ Successful professional black women are getting in vitro to be "single mothers by choice"
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Ezekiel 25:17
Veteran
So what did nature intend for human beings? Should men go around impregnating women then leaving because she has the funds to raise the kid on her own? Should women have kids by different men?
The most successful societies have 2 parent homes.
bubba scotch
All Star
These threads live in an alternate universe where step dads don't exist...
Ezekiel 25:17
Veteran
-Women don't respect step dads.
-Kids may not accept the step dad
-Dealing with the Ex husband who the wife might still have feelings for.
So what you're saying is another man must fix the damage done
dora_da_destroyer
Master Baker
Please back this up - ancient Egypt, Rome, the Mayans and Persia were highly successful - child rearing wasn’t about a two parent home, how did they come out ok?So what did nature intend for human beings? Should men go around impregnating women then leaving because she has the funds to raise the kid on her own?
The most successful societies have 2 parent homes.
And men absolutely impregnated multiple women - early days it was about the best genes, then early society had polygamy.
And I just added an edit to speak to the modern 2 parent societies doing well - they have free communal resources.
That isn't a "loving home" if the mom did what was best for her over what's best for the kid. "I am having this kid because I want to be happy." By definition she is a selfish mother only concerned with her wants vs what that kid would need to thrive.
And if a woman can't find a man/partner to build a relationship with, then she has far greater issues that she needs to work out. She shouldn't be trying to bring a human into the world she can hold captive to build some faux relationship with because every other one failed.
Also, the 2nd paragraph isn't true.
Are Children Raised With Absent Fathers Worse Off?
Isabel Sawhill explains why children raised by single mothers are more likely to fare worse in a number of areas.
www.brookings.edu
You also have to consider how Black people are treated in this country. Less resources, more stigmatized, and facing greater mental health, and overall health crisis, in a country that is currently stripping Black people of the meager resources we have.
Ezekiel 25:17
Veteran
Can you go in more detail in the bold. How does that work exactly? I don't know anything about those days.
It sounds like you're saying the community raises the kid, e.a. the grandmother/grand father and uncles.
What about cost of living today? Are the grand parents helping towards funds?
Brolic
High Value Poster
That’s a terrible argument. They still had a man as the centerpiece and women who listened to the man back in those times.It wasn’t a bunch of belligerent women running around in some village raising bad ass kids. The male elders or leader of that family instilled discipline and order, which is usually absent in the modern single mother household.
Notice @King Sun has avoided this thread since I asked him if both his parents raised him?
Because its stupid to assume that I don't think its "natural" I didn't come up with 2 parents
.Why do you care about what other non black women are doing unless you view them an example of being "natural"What races of women think like this? Are White, Asian, Hispanic, and Indian women running with this same trope?
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ThrobbingHood
Breh&Breh Associates™
I didn’t assume, I asked you a question which you have still yet to answer. So, for the third time, were you raised by both your mother and father in the same household?Because its stupid to assume that I don't think its "natural" I didn't come up with 2 parents
Ezekiel 25:17
Veteran
Why do you care about what other non black women are doing unless you view them an example of being "natural"
I asked because I'm looking at successful examples. Yes, Whites and Asians are largely successful. Are those women also opting to be single mothers?
dora_da_destroyer
Master Baker
Back then a group of women would tend the kids…men were working. Hell, even slave days kids were dropped together with 1-2 older female slaves while everyone else went out working. There was not a house with just kids mom and dad, it was who ever they felt like shoving in a cabin, mom and dad could be sold or killed at any time, and thru all that, people successfully raised kids.
And what does COL have to do with this? The critique of this thread is that even tho they have the means to raise a kid, they shouldn’t do it alone…so they don’t need other people’s money.
dora_da_destroyer
Master Baker
This is a whole bunch of projection. So enjoy your views of what every single mom must be/be doing
It wasn’t a bunch of belligerent women running around in some village raising bad ass kids. The male elders or leader of that family instilled discipline and order, which is usually absent in the modern single mother household.