"You find him Attractive..but his NICENESS...BORES YOU"- Female Spoken Word artist

[Gold]

With bold is where there is a disconnect IMO. I don't have platonic female friends (outside of a few exceptions I always mention on them type of threads) either so we are basically the same in that aspect. Its just you were raised in a way different way than me on this issue. That's ok its what makes life life. Just for me telling a chick how to lift some weights ain't a platonic friend or chit chat. That's why I say its egotistical or a$$hole like behavior. I feel people with limited "friendly" interactions with the other sex seem to do that more often than those that do in my limited unscientific research lol. Id do the same to a dude give him some pointers or advice where to look and keep it moving. End of the day we both do it our own way this just Internet agree/disagree stuff right here that won't affect how either one of us conduct business IRL.

I feel you, but what you see as egotistical a$$holeness coming from me, is actually weakness.

Sometimes women excuse themselves from seemingly "friendly" interactions with us and we think "damn she full of herself"

But we never think "she might be feeling tempted and needs to get away for the sake of her relationship?"

 

[philmonroe]

Breh, I know what you said. Repeating yourself won't do any difference, nor will getting the last word lol. I just gave my two cents.

Honestly what are you talking about? I just said what I said to be clear nothing more nothing less. Please don't turn something into something its not. Just like I told the wave I don't care if we don't agree its just back and forth that's been civil don't switch that direction cause you misunderstanding something. If its something you need clarification on just ask nobody trying to get the last anything I'm just responding to your post.

I'm not disagreeing with you....I just don't care if I'm perceived that way.
Besides its not just about the women... its about me too.

I slip up, I make mistakes too, i'm FAAR from perfect (as the wedding thread opened my eyes to)

Say the girl is super attractive (dime status) and i'm giving her tips.
Then she says something and pushes the boundaries a bit
and then a bit more
and then a bit more

What you're not talking about is how much harder it gets to shut it down if you entertain it to begin with.

Before we know it we are having a friendly convo at the gym and my girl is watching.

Then she will be wondering "Why is he talking to this random girl?"

That's where shyt starts breh

I know we aren't disagreeing just look at handling it in different ways. That's why I said to somebody else we mainly agree its just how we'd get to the same place that's different. I honestly can't talk about how hard it is to shut it down if I entertain it because I don't entertain it if I'm with somebody. That question from my girl will get easily squashed cause I'd just let her know whats good or if the girl gone next time we all together let her see its not anything besides gym shyt. I need any girl I'm with to trust me and know even if I did make a move it wouldn't be that blatant. shyt I'd have to ask her who she been dating if she think I'd fukk with somebody that close lol.

Like I said in my post before to you even if I disagree you gotta do what works for you so I understand from that aspect. This was just some back and forth and from the few times we've replied to each other in the past I know you cool on that front. Respect fam.

 

[Lo-Co]

Meditate.
Basically your train of thought is like a traffic jam on a freeway. Everything is trying to get out or get your attention. Meditation, taking quiet time to focus on your thoughts without judgement, releases resistance and allows your thoughts to get acknowledged and allows room to breathe in your mind.

Most people sit in a quiet room, you can work out, shoot a basketball, take a walk, take a bath, free write in a journal, etc. Just take some time out in your day, to clear your thoughts and focus on you.

This is what I've been needing to do for the longest time. I've been just thinking about it but I never did it. I used to do it though early in the morning. But I never bothered lately. I'm gonna commit to it again.

 

[philmonroe]

I feel you, but what you see as egotistical a$$holeness coming from me, is actually weakness.

Sometimes women excuse themselves from seemingly "friendly" interactions with us and we think "damn she full of herself"

But we never think "she might be feeling tempted and needs to get away for the sake of her relationship?"

To be honest I thought of it as weakness but like I said to someone else I gave you credit that it wasn't weakness that's why I said it was the other stuff. I gave you credit for being tougher than that in that situation but guess I was wrong. I understand we are humans though its me personally I don't want to hurt somebody I'm with so that's why I don't make that mistake no matter how bad a chick is. I just use the golden rule and,its worked so far but as we agree we are all different with different lives so do what works for you my man.

 

[MidniteJay]

this is the hardest thing. And just finding new ways to challenge myself, like learning things and just getting out there. I believe in myself but I just need to get out of my head. because its just becoming stressful. My mental place of solace is becoming chaotic. But I believe I can accomplish things. If I lose weight first. That's the biggest thing that is bugging me.

Losing weight is easier for me, I'm actually making good progress on that. But getting out of my head is probably never gonna happen. I've always been an assuming, over thinking, day dreaming ass dude from the jump. I hate it but whatever, I'd rather lose the weight first.

 

[Lo-Co]

Losing weight is easier for me, I'm actually making good progress on that. But getting out of my head is probably never gonna happen. I've always been an assuming, over thinking, day dreaming ass dude from the jump. I hate it but whatever, I'd rather lose the weight first.

I'm always writing some type of story in my head. I just need to start writing these things down.i always feel like its a party in my head at times. Its like a book people couldn't understand if you showed it to them.
i feel like I can lose weight. I'm trying new vegetables. I just blend them with fruit and drink them. Once class starts the plan is to hit the gym for an hour minimum every day.

 

[Giselle]

See this that shyt I'm talking about, it's always the worst looking ppl complaining. Biggie with earrings on over (what she rocking, Coogie too?) here needs to lose a ton before she starts complaining about men's choices. How dare she?!

Edit: And why her name Ms. Wallace?

She's not attractive to you, but she's attractive to some other men.
Do you really think that all of the guys complaining about women's choices are attractive?

 

[Chelsea Bridge]

bytch stop lying as soon as you figure out you can walk all over that nikka you gonna be resenting him

I've never attempted to walk all over someone and I never would. Plus I'm sure any guy I'm with wouldn't allow that either. Being nice doesn't equal being a pushover.

And watch who you're calling a bytch

 

[Gold]

I've never attempted to walk all over someone and I never would. Plus I'm sure any guy I'm with wouldn't allow that either. Being nice doesn't equal being a pushover.

And watch who you're calling a bytch

Nope sorry... according to TheColi you're tellin

You probably ask to see a breh's rap sheet before you'll even talk to him


And if he opens the door for you, you probably laugh in his face

 

[Lo-Co]

I used to feel like the shyt I talk about wouldn't interest a woman. But I'm willing to try. I just need to feel better about myself.

 

[Gold]

I used to feel like the shyt I talk about wouldn't interest a woman. But I'm willing to try. I just need to feel better about myself.

With all the brehs that simply don't talk to women period, you might be surprised

 

[Boy Wonder]

not at all Bren

Facial attractiveness » money/status » height

If you really want to believe that facial features is more important that money then...

 

[Wild self]

All these bytchs lyin in this thread, aint no woman(of any race) want no nice man, they all want a thug psychopath nikka that will knock them upside the head, threaten them constantly, shyt talk them, force sex with them, and treat them like pure garbage. You see these hoes crying about criminals more than hardworking black men smh.

Hard working black men don't exist in their mind. it's the thugged out dude or the balling ass nikka with mad social validation

Really, it gets easier as time goes on (after 25) it's just going through the garbage since you were younger that holds some dudes back.

 

[Lo-Co]

With all the brehs that simply don't talk to women period, you might be surprised

I feel like I would be. I just don't think they'd be receptive to someone of my size.

 

[GoPro]

She's not attractive to you, but she's attractive to some other men.

Yea, bottom rung dudes with mental problems and glaucoma.

Do you really think that all of the guys complaining about women's choices are attractive?

You got me twisted. I know they're not. Only time attractive dudes complain about women is about their materialism or when child support is due