"You find him Attractive..but his NICENESS...BORES YOU"- Female Spoken Word artist

[Gus Money]

Sounds like you know you are just spouting nonsense yet you don't want to face reality

I'm right, breh.

 

[StickStickly]

I meant thats a reference to the kenttv he's like 5'2 always says he's a nice guy and women only want thugs because they won't date him, but i digress. And skinny cats always have girls that like them took me awhile to understand that

But that's the thing- it's not because Kent is nice that women don't want him. It's because, and I hate to say this, but he comes off special. An average person isn't looking to date a special person. We teach each other that to do so is predatory and feels strange. I feel for Kent; he should find a therapist to help him be less awkward.

 

[AngryBaby]

Being honest most guys hell most people are genuinely base level nice to people so "nice guy" really is just a cop out IMO. These cats don't have no patents on niceness. That's why I feel most use it as an excuse mainly tied to what you mentioned earlier about going for girls that they aren't compatible with.

exactly because otherwise "nice" just means "not being shytty to me". Ive always considered myself pretty neutral, i dont go out of my way for anybody, and i'll speak my mind if needed, but i also wont treat anyone like shyt unless it's deserved.

now if im ever intepreted as not being "bad enough" because of this demeanor then people truly are on some fake shyt. Because my mentality on this pretty fukking logical.

These dudes that try to treat people like shyt blatantly off jump are some phony try bard nikkas.

 

[Trapperman Dave]

But that's the thing- it's not because Kent is nice that women don't want him. It's because, and I hate to say this, but he comes off special. An average person isn't looking to date a special person. We teach each other that to do so is predatory and feels strange. I feel for Kent; he should find a therapist to help him be less awkward.

Yea basically but he won't listen to anyone and now he won't post many vids because of the kiwi guys. He reminded me of myself when i was in high school if i didn't have the friends i did i'd probably killed myself

 

[BaggerofTea]

I'm right, breh.

Ask a woman what she thinks then breh

 

[Rick Fox at UNC]

gotta salute her for acknowledge the TRUTH...a lot of these women seek ENTERTAINMENT over RESPONSIBLITY

so the GOOD RESPONSIBLE dude gets fukked over.....cause she values the ENTERTAINMENT of the GOON, PLAYER..THUG etc.

but they will eventually learn....50 lbs later...3 kids later with no man in sight and debt up to their neck....

i used to overdo the niceness to cover up the fact that i was so awkward. and being awkward made me come off as boring when in real life im far from it when im comfortable enough. i just need to learn how not to fear showing my true self.

If you're awkward chances are you have something you subconsciously know you're lacking fam. Most people that I've run into that are awkward, shy, hesitant, and all them types of things around girls usually missing something and they know it.

im completely fine around family and friends. to be honest, i feel like i need to lose weight. thats THE MAIN thing. i was always awkward because i never had anyone to teach me about women.

You mean 75% of American women under the age of 25 then

Yea. Women are emotionally drawn to nice guys. They listen to their problems, actually care about what they have to say. They give them the emotional intimacy they need. Her mind is telling her that's who she should be with. Yet her body craves Tyrone. And that thug dikk. The nikka that gorilla fukks her and never calls afterward. It's a perfect combination really. She gets the simp to listen to her problems during the day, and the playa to wear her vagina out at night.

All women aren't all like this but, you're very delusional if you think this doesn't apply to a WIDE majority of the female population today.

Hey man look, a lot of guys out here are stuck with a feminine mindset and it's to your detriment. I always say most women have:

1. A sense of entitlement (ego)
2. A superiority complex
3. Low self-esteem (because the first two are based on looks and attention, not actual accomplishment)

Normally this is a pretty trash combination but it works for women because they have a bargaining chip and we all want to get in it.

Unfortunately, we now have a bunch of cats out here with the same mentality but without the bargaining chip. Men can't live off of their body the way women can so it's imperative you lose that mindset.

Stop Counting Another Dude's Money
When a dude gets a promotion at work, his wife thinks, "we got a promotion." When a girl gets a promotion, her husband thinks, "she got a promotion."

Women think in terms of *we* because their traditional way of coming up is to associate with a man who is a winner. Men think in terms of *me* because their way of coming up is to become the winner. So when a 9/10 stripper checks balleralert or BSO and sees Cam Newton received a $100 Million dollar contract she realizes that if she links up with him, "we got $100 Million."

A lot of y'all new dudes out here think in the same terms but don't have the p*ssy power to back it up. Your energy and focus can only go in so many directions and if it's devoted to counting another dudes money, envying another man, and focusing on what that man should be doing, *you* are losing.

So stop with the:

"Oh this nikka 6'7" and that's why the hos like him" - You 5'10" playa
"Oh this nikka got $50 Million and that's why the hos like him" - You make 50K though
"Man, if I were Steph Curry, I would having all kinds of hos. This nikka a simp" - You not Steph
"This nikka got a bigger dikk then me" - You packing a solid 6 incher
"This nikka prettier than me" - Girls rate you a 6

You ain't them dudes and you never will be. Focus solely on yourself and what you bring. When you get into a situation, focus on your positives first then analyze where you fall short and figure out ways to overcome.

Stop playing the game as someone who you are not. Stop comparing yourself to others as a baseline.

Which leads to...

All I Have in this World


A lot of cats hear that clip and get caught up in the gangster bravado of it without really breaking down what it means. Put another way, as a man, your ambition (balls) and your integrity (word) are what you possess. That's it.

Even if you're an incredibly handsome man, you do not have the capital to live off of your body the rest of your life.

I could write more on this, but do I really need to?

What's In Your Head, Zombie, Zombie, Zombie, ei ei
"And you know why she doesn't have friends? Because she's not friendly!" -- Patrice O'Neal

Man, y'all discussing all this stuff about "nice guys" and not being able to attract women but the truth is a lot of you cats just don't have a personality. Honestly man, the internet and forums attract and give an outlet to dudes like this (no offense) so lets be real about what it is. A couple of dudes (@ThatGuyloco) are honest about their anxiety and confidence issues but a lot of y'all are living a fantasy through a computer screen.

I can bet a lot of you cats don't have good male friendships either. You're looking for women to feel some type of void and to fulfill some sort of unrealistic role in your lives but that's not reality.

Look in the mirror, break yourself down, be brutally honest without passing judgement. You are who you are.

Where do you wish to go, who do you wish to become, those are questions only you can answer, but they can only be answered after you're completely honest about who you are and where you're at in life.

Talk to people in general (without expectations of anything). Develop yourself, become the person you wish to attract. Stop trying to fill a void with some *dime* or some harem of women. It doesn't work.

Shut down the computer, get off the porn, and live life.

tl;dr...

You don't have a p*ssy, stop thinking like you do. fukk what your mom, grandma, and fourth grade teacher told you.

 

[CASHAPP]

It comes down to a very simple concept. Muscles If you are good looking you will eat no matter if your a$$hole in chief or the simp king.


Muscles are EVERYTHING to a woman, don't let these birds fool you into thinking otherwise

fixed

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

Be fly and confident. That's how I look at it. Don't sell ourselves short. I'm a reformed simp.

 

[GoPro]

Nice poem.

*goes to search for "you chose the wrong bytch" spoke word video*

found it

See this that shyt I'm talking about, it's always the worst looking ppl complaining. Biggie with earrings on over (what she rocking, Coogie too?) here needs to lose a ton before she starts complaining about men's choices. How dare she?!

Edit: And why her name Ms. Wallace?

 

[Rick Fox at UNC]

An ugly dude with social skills, a sense of humor, and confidence will have more success dating than the good looking guy who is awkward and can't hold a conversation.

We may have to just agree to disagree, which is fine.

@BaggerofTea

I tend to agree with this but I won't act like looks don't give an advantage, especially when you're younger.

Two of the closest people in my life are handsome 6'4"/6'5" thin mixed dudes (one might legit be male model status) who at some point were socially awkward "nice guys." Girls would look at them and possibly be attracted, but when they realized dudes had no game or social confidence, they immediately lost all respect. You could actually observe their interactions and see the point where girls would look at 'em like, "well ummm, ok."

Whenever they would get a girl, it would be the sweet girl who kind of stuck in there, usually as a friend first. A lot of folks just thought they were gay. Naw, they were just screwed in the head (no fathers, nerdy hobbies, no confidence).

Was the same for me.

 

[Lady.Libra.]

Both, I can give 3 examples just this week past week.

1. Working out together at the gym, she was on the treadmill and I was.... as far away from a treadmill as a can get . One girl came up to me and started asking me questions and I was just like.. "they have trainers here, you can ask them" and put on my headphones.

2. We went to a party Friday night and as soon as she went to take a seat, Throw Dat ass in a Circle came on and some random girl started throwing it on me. I just shook my head, backed away and went to her.

3. At the event we went to, some girl I knew came up to me and was like, "its been such a long time, are you going to introduce me". But I forgot her name, so I was pretended not to hear her


I'm just not friendly to women in public when I'm around my girl. It doesn't feel natural

Sounds like you have great boundaries which any woman in a relationship would appreciate...even more if you conduct yourself the same way when your honey isn't around.

 

[BaggerofTea]

@BaggerofTea

I tend to agree with this but I won't act like looks don't give an advantage, especially when you're younger.

Two of the closest people in my life are handsome 6'4"/6'5" thin mixed dudes (one might legit be male model status) who at some point were socially awkward "nice guys." Girls would look at them and possibly be attracted, but when they realized dudes had no game or social confidence, they immediately lost all respect. You could actually observe their interactions and see the point where girls would look at 'em like, "well ummm, ok."

Whenever they would get a girl, it would be the sweet girl who kind of stuck in there, usually as a friend first. A lot of folks just thought they were gay. Naw, they were just screwed in the head (no fathers, nerdy hobbies, no confidence).

Was the same for me.

Proves my point to a muthafukkin T

 

[Gold]

Sounds like you have great boundaries which any woman in a relationship would appreciate...even more if you conduct yourself the same way when your honey isn't around.

Thank you.
I feel like if you don't set those boundaries... you'll cross them. We're men, we have penises, and ladies give us attention. It's going to happen if you let it, 100%. Any guy who claims he has not had the opportunity to cheat, is lying. TheColi wants you to believe that women don't even give brehs the time of day . We all know that 1 chick at work who is one "Wyd?" away from sending you nudes.




My relationship is still new but I feel like if I don't treat it like I'm working towards marriage... I'll fukk it up.

 

[1thouwow]

The problem is people thinking love is a transaction and it comes from how one is raised. If you only received love respect and/or attention when you do something good. Then you believe love is conditional. In order to recieve love, I have to go above and beyond.

Yall do not not realize that the same things you say about the female is also reflected in the male. The nice guy wants love from a female who does not appreciate him, so he tries to win her love. The girl wants love from a "bad boy" who does not appreciate her, so she tries to win his love.

Because they do not believe love is easy. They've always had to pay and perform for love so if they get it without effort, it does not register as love, but "thirst".

There is also the issue of entitlement. If I give you all this love and attention (though unsolicited), you owe me. Which is not true at all.

You smart for a chick

 

[Lady.Libra.]

Thank you.
I feel like if you don't set those boundaries... you'll cross them. We're men, we have penises, and ladies give us attention. It's going to happen if you let it, 100%. Any guy who claims he has not had the opportunity to cheat, is lying. TheColi wants you to believe that women don't even give brehs the time of day . We all know that 1 chick at work who is one "Wyd?" away from sending you nudes.




My relationship is still new but I feel like if I don't treat it like I'm working towards marriage... I'll fukk it up.

Good head you have there, Gent
Some women are extremely competitive and will see those boundaries as something to be tested, not respected.
Nothing, and I mean nothing, is more satisfying than having a who does not hesitate with handling aggressors/come-on's/disrespectful advances from chics.