"You ain't grown until you become a parent"

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andre patton said:
obviously you didnt say all that in your initial post but whatever.

your definition of "grown" is just completely off base. you define someone as grown only if they care of a child...which is silly.

everyone else considers a person "grown" once they can fully take care of themselves. everyone is trying to tell you there are millions of women in this country taking care of kids...when they arent even taking care of their damn selves properly. so how could you say a person like that more grown than the rest of us?
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Obviously other factors are involved, brother. If you read my posts rather than choosing to selectively read parts you find easy to critique, you'd realize that those women (being careless with their children) are not the ones i was referring to. Being able to care for yourself only makes you independent. Personally, that's not equivalent to being completely grown, imo. I regard being 'grown' has something that requires not only financial freedom but also spiritual growth. You can have a 6 figure salary and still not be 'grown'. Granted, there are people who are not good parents out there, but I still feel that parenthood can have a positive change on your personal growth if you allow it to do so.
 
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TheFemalePerspective said:
Obviously other factors are involved, brother. If you read my posts rather than choosing to selectively read parts you find easy to critique, you'd realize that those women (being careless with their children) are not the ones i was referring to. Being able to care for yourself only makes you independent. Personally, that's not equivalent to being completely grown, imo. I regard being 'grown' has something that requires not only financial freedom but also spiritual growth. You can have a 6 figure salary and still not be 'grown'. Granted, there are people who are not good parents out there, but I still feel that parenthood can have a positive change on your personal growth if you allow it to do so.
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I only critique the parts that needed criticism, sister.

Going to prison can have a positive change on your personal growth. So can going to college. Or living as a monk. But you would look at me crazy if I sat up here and said I dont think someone is grown until they did a bid for about 2-3 years.

Again, our definitions of "grown" are different. I pretty much see the term as synonymous with being independent. I put no stock in all that spiritual stuff...because its not tangible. Who are you to tell me I can grow spiritually from having kids when you dont know my spirit? Maybe I experienced all that from taking care of a dying grandparent? Or raising a puppy? You see what I'm saying?

But clearly I agree being a parent makes you a more well rounded individual. More grown? No.
 
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aRoMaN21 said:
the bible says that sins of the parents fall on the children. meaning that families can have bad habits that will always be in their blood.
break that cycle. dont be like your grandfather. :usure:
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My father also..I just found out I had a 17 year old sister and a 16 year old brother 3 years ago..still haven't seen them yet..but it's not a sin..it's just some international player shyt..just cuz American society says it's wrong...than again I don't agree with American society
 
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observe said:
My father also..I just found out I had a 17 year old sister and a 16 year old brother 3 years ago..still haven't seen them yet..but it's not a sin..it's just some international player shyt..just cuz American society says it's wrong...than again I don't agree with American society
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its a sin :usure:
 
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andre patton said:
I only critique the parts that needed criticism, sister.

Going to prison can have a positive change on your personal growth. So can going to college. Or living as a monk. But you would look at me crazy if I sat up here and said I dont think someone is grown until they did a bid for about 2-3 years.

Again, our definitions of "grown" are different. I pretty much see the term as synonymous with being independent. I put no stock in all that spiritual stuff...because its not tangible. Who are you to tell me I can grow spiritually from having kids when you dont know my spirit? Maybe I experienced all that from taking care of a dying grandparent? Or raising a puppy? You see what I'm saying?

But clearly I agree being a parent makes you a more well rounded individual. More grown? No.
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I agree with that, of course, different things will contribute to our 'growth'. We grow every day, brother. I guess what I was trying to say was that one of the main milestones of growth can come from raising a child. However, I agree it's not the only thing. We're all different beings & what i need for growth, may be different to what you need. Thank you for being respectful whilst disagreeing with me. I appreciate it.
 
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Non Sequitur said:
@TheFemalePerspective That was some real shyt, but you're talking to a bunch of college kids who think they're grown and have life figured out already.

Once you have a family depending on you, life isn't a game anymore. One bad choice could fukk up a few lives, not just your own :whew:
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Bruh, you don't have to hve kids in order to have a family. I kno dudes who don't have any kids, but take on the role as provider, protector and as the leader of the family.

Havin kids doesn't solidify ones status as being grown
 
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