Ya'll think a lot of women today will end up single at an old age?

[getmoney310cpt]

I'm no swirler/divestor/PAWGER/whatever the fukk, but the older I get the more I get it. Men go where they're desired/where the women make things easy. You'd be a liar if you said the bulk of American black woman make it easy for their aesthetic, financial, and intellectual counterparts. That doesn't mean they don't make it easy for ALL black men just the majority

Yeah but the grass really ain’t greener with a white bytch they just as devious and conniving and even colder when the love gone..they lowkey the coldest ones when it come to fukking men over but everyone puts them on a pedestal

 

[filial_piety]

it aint equal ...most men are use to going through times of isolation and invisibility...most women aren't...say what you want, but i think women deal with being 30+,40+ and 50+ much harder than single men do.

you literlly deal with getting catcalled for the first 35 years of your life...to not having anyone know you exist anymore

 

[SNG]

Yeah but the grass really ain’t greener with a white bytch they just as devious and conniving and even colder when the love gone..they lowkey the coldest ones when it come to fukking men over but everyone puts them on a pedestal

Black women are more forgiving if you make a mistake but make a mistake with a white women they are less forgiving and can get real cut throat. I seen some white women do nikkaz dirty outchea.

 

[Bossino]

Breh I just got into it with one of my homegirls who said that a nikka she was talking to had good quality's to be a good father and that she would have a baby with him but wouldn't live with him until he got where she financially wanted him to be. You can't make this shyt up.

There's probably books on this but once black women chose government aid over black fathers in the home and picked up the white woman's cause (3rd wave feminism) when the structures of the community are vastly different (matriachy vs. patriachy), the black community had dirt thrown on the casket.

A black coworker woman (with a BEVY of issues to the point where she had a breakdown out work) told me verbatim when I had thought we were having a civil conversation about our shared community,

"Just because, you don't date out doesn't make you better than nikkas that do" then in the same breath "I date white men and I don't care about the history because their willing to spend some money"

Black women are increasingly just cogs in the system of white supremacy. To be fair all women chase money/financial security but sans yellow cacs most will try to find something with their community first.

At this point I'm apathetic on that #SYSBM, because as my coworker said doing everything right doesn't matter because that's never what is was about/what is valued so.

When you see people in aggregate moving in what your morals tell you is the wrong, you don't try to change their minds, you just pack up and go your own way.

 

[Bossino]

Yeah but the grass really ain’t greener with a white bytch they just as devious and conniving and even colder when the love gone..they lowkey the coldest ones when it come to fukking men over but everyone puts them on a pedestal

I know, that plus RACISM, SLAVERY, AND WHITE SUPREMACY is why I couldn't date out, but I also know white woman know how to catch flies using honey, meanwhile black women assume they are the best shyt, so dudes will naturally come to them regardless, or worse you vinegar (having a kid, bad attitude, etc.)

 

[getmoney310cpt]

Black women are more forgiving if you make a mistake but make a mistake with a white women they are less forgiving and can get real cut throat. I seen some white women do nikkaz dirty outchea.

 

[SNG]

There's probably books on this but once black women chose government aid over black fathers in the home and picked up the white woman's cause (3rd wave feminism) when the structures of the community are vastly different (matriachy vs. patriachy), the black community had dirt thrown on the casket.

A black coworker woman (with a BEVY of issues to the point where she had a breakdown out work) told me verbatim when I had thought we were having a civil conversation about our shared community,

"Just because, you don't date out doesn't make you better than nikkas that do" then in the same breath "I date white men and I don't care about the history because their willing to spend some money"

Black women are increasingly just cogs in the system of white supremacy. To be fair all women chase money/financial security but sans yellow cacs most will try to find something with their community first.

At this point I'm apathetic on that #SYSBM, because as my coworker said doing everything right doesn't matter because that's never what is was about/what is valued so.

When you see people in aggregate moving in what your morals tell you is the wrong, you don't try to change their minds, you just pack up and go your own way.

Sounds exactly like my homegirl lol. When they think like this you just gotta move on and not exhaust yourself with that conversation.

 

[Bossino]

Just let my girl go in dec


Every somali girl i meet wants to get married after 2 months of meeting

And what's wrong with that are you not a marriage-minded man? Seems like your part of the problem

But seriously why'd you cut her loose?

 

[Bossino]

Sounds exactly like my homegirl lol. When they think like this you just gotta move on and not exhaust yourself with that conversation.

Honestly that's what I did and outside of the older latina I mess with every now and again. I don't have intellectual discussions with women because stats, logic, and facts aren't relevant to them, and I'm no one's parent or significant other, so how they feel vs. how it is something I wouldn't get paid to listen to.

Black women like that full disclosure make just deal with all black women and women en masse. I'd rather not here you speak and wonder/gauge your intelligence/personality, than hear you speak and confirm my suspicions that you're a lost cause black only in skin.

Honestly it these type of interactions which if incurred on regular basis make black men that black women don't really value lose familiarity/obligation to black women. When someone constantly shyts on you at minimal you stop checking for them, but many including myself won't just automatically protect them, especially if you can deduce they placed themselves in said dangerous situation.

I'm not a fukking superhero. Then nikkas and bytches cry in threads about why didn't one the brehs standing around do something? For what? Just to be told that what you supposed to do? Literally incur a risk when a thank you may not be rendered at the least or worse you get told to mind your own.

Then the same spawn of dysfunction talk about what if that was your mom? My mom doesn't and HAS NEVER moved that sloppy. She doesn't go out alone at night, she only goes places she's been before/knows are legit before, she doesn't associate too deeply/closely with people who aren't family. I could go on but essentially 80% of the time the broad was on goofy time but somehow it's black mens short coming when the woman wouldn't listen to God himself.

shyt just makes you comfortable isolated/insulated from all the fukkery. Peace of mind at the price a solitude is the best deal, but it's damn sure the best deal available for a lot of men, particularly black men

 

[SNG]

Honestly that's what I did and outside of the older latina I mess with every now and again. I don't have intellectual discussions with women because stats, logic, and facts aren't relevant to them, and I'm no one's parent or significant other, so how they feel vs. how it is something I wouldn't get paid to listen to.

Black women like that full disclosure make just deal with all black women and women en masse. I'd rather not here you speak and wonder/gauge your intelligence/personality, than hear you speak and confirm my suspicions that you're a lost cause black only in skin.

Honestly it these type of interactions which if incurred on regular basis make black men that black women don't really value lose familiarity/obligation to black women. When someone constantly shyts on you at minimal you stop checking for them, but many including myself won't just automatically protect them, especially if you can deduce they placed themselves in said dangerous situation.

I'm not a fukking superhero. Then nikkas and bytches cry in threads about why didn't one the brehs standing around do something? For what? Just to be told that what you supposed to do? Literally incur a risk when a thank you may not be rendered at the least or worse you get told to mind your own.

Then the same spawn of dysfunction talk about what if that was your mom? My mom doesn't and HAS NEVER moved that sloppy. She doesn't go out alone at night, she only goes places she's been before/knows are legit before, she doesn't associate too deeply/closely with people who aren't family. I could go on but essentially 80% of the time the broad was on goofy time but somehow it's black mens short coming when the woman wouldn't listen to God himself.

shyt just makes you comfortable isolated/insulated from all the fukkery. Peace of mind at the price a solitude is the best deal, but it's damn sure the best deal available for a lot of men, particularly black men

Honestly I understand usually women feel this why because of there Daddy issues or some nikka might have treated them dirty. But my issue is when they talk like black men as a whole are like this. Like even with this whole ASAP and Rihanna situation they calling the nikka dusty because he's not a billionaire but at he same time he makes alot more money then most of these birds are making. Like if someone is happy why it can't be just that. Guess misery loves company.

 

[AsTheWorldBurns]

it aint equal ...most men are use to going through times of isolation and invisibility...most women aren't...say what you want, but i think women deal with being 30+,40+ and 50+ much harder than single men do.

you literlly deal with getting catcalled for the first 35 years of your life...to not having anyone know you exist anymore

Y’all love saying this but my aunts get hit on every time we go out, and they in their 70’s.


OP actually called it out himself. Men aren’t picky enough to just stop hitting on an entire demographic of women.

 

[CarmelBarbie]

Honestly I understand usually women feel this why because of there Daddy issues or some nikka might have treated them dirty. But my issue is when they talk like black men as a whole are like this. Like even with this whole ASAP and Rihanna situation they calling the nikka dusty because he's not a billionaire but at he same time he makes alot more money then most of these birds are making. Like if someone is happy why it can't be just that. Guess misery loves company.

Who’s been saying that? Rocky is a millionaire. I remember people making fun of him for his sex video (and I’m sure some still are) but he models and raps, so he’s not unemployed. On top of that, he and Rihanna been on and off for years. People outraged at Rihanna for choosing rocky are low key insulting her, because she and Rocky l
obviously keep winding up together for a reason.

my thing is that yes there are a lot bitter Brehettes who do blame Brehs for everything and generalize based on a handful of negative experiences. It’s stupid because guarantee they’re taking L’s with whites boys too. If you always have poor experiences your the common denominator.

but black peoples do have unique issues that contribute to some of our romantic challenges—from the lack of fathers in households, less resources and power, racism and how it shapes our mindsets, how we feel about ourselves, our opportunities, representation, social perception, and even our romantic situations. That’s why we tend to have more issues than other groups even in areas like marriage, family, etc. both groups need to be aware of that. But instead we tend to take it out on each other.

and I see just as many Brehs negatively generalizing bw based on their experiences with bw too. Both groups do the same things when it comes to dating, where they focus on the negatives of the opposite gender, while putting whites or other groups on pedestals even when they have limited experience dating said group and don’t truly know what it’s like and are not even really attracted to that group but just want to put their own down. And then both groups compete with each other—so you have men hoping that women they don’t even know end up alone, fat and with cats. And you have women roasting men for not getting the women they want or women at all and both groups are struggling with similar dating dynamics. If one group is mostly single then the other group is too.

the problem with these threads is that people focus a lot on one group while excluding how it impacts their own. Bw having a low marriage rate, means bm do too. And stats confirm that. Bm having less wealth, means bw do too. And stats confirm that too. Yet both groups pretend that one has a leg up on each other and it’s not true.

If Brehs think all these single older bw will stay that way, then ultimately that also means a surplus of older men not married either. And while some will go for younger women or IR, according to stats most people marry their own race and most people marry those within a similar age bracket, so again if one group is facing an issue, that other group is too.

 

[SNG]

Who’s been saying that? Rocky is a millionaire. I remember people making fun of him for his sex video (and I’m sure some still are) but he models and raps, so he’s not unemployed. On top of that, he and Rihanna been on and off for years. People outraged at Rihanna for choosing rocky are low key insulting her, because she and Rocky l
obviously keep winding up together for a reason.

my thing is that yes there are a lot bitter Brehettes who do blame Brehs for everything and generalize based on a handful of negative experiences. It’s stupid because guarantee they’re taking L’s with whites boys too. If you always have poor experiences your the common denominator.

but black peoples do have unique issues that contribute to some of our romantic challenges—from the lack of fathers in households, less resources and power, racism and how it shapes our mindsets, how we feel about ourselves, our opportunities, representation, social perception, and even our romantic situations. That’s why we tend to have more issues than other groups even in areas like marriage, family, etc. both groups need to be aware of that. But instead we tend to take it out on each other.

and I see just as many Brehs negatively generalizing bw based on their experiences with bw too. Both groups do the same things when it comes to dating, where they focus on the negatives of the opposite gender, while putting whites or other groups on pedestals even when they have limited experience dating said group and don’t truly know what it’s like and are not even really attracted to that group but just want to put their own down. And then both groups compete with each other—so you have men hoping that women they don’t even know end up alone, fat and with cats. And you have women roasting men for not getting the women they want or women at all and both groups are struggling with similar dating dynamics. If one group is mostly single then the other group is too.

the problem with these threads is that people focus a lot on one group while excluding how it impacts their own. Bw having a low marriage rate, means bm do too. And stats confirm that. Bm having less wealth, means bw do too. And stats confirm that too. Yet both groups pretend that one has a leg up on each other and it’s not true.

If Brehs think all these single older bw will stay that way, then ultimately that also means a surplus of older men not married either. And while some will go for younger women or IR, according to stats most people marry their own race and most people marry those within a similar age bracket, so again if one group is facing an issue, that other group is too.

I just had a conversation with one of my home girls and she was that ASAP is an average nikka compared to Beyonce who's a billionaire. But your post I agree with both genders focus on the negatives too much.

 

[Cloutius Maximus]

Americans will be lucky if relationships are their biggest worry in 20-30 years.

If I end up lonely I'm on the Smith and Wesson retirement plan.

 

[filial_piety]

Y’all love saying this but my aunts get hit on every time we go out, and they in their 70’s.


OP actually called it out himself. Men aren’t picky enough to just stop hitting on an entire demographic of women.

It's true ...women become less noticable the older that they get...and men are less visible when they are young and broke...the trends reverse with age

and I have never seen men actually hit on a 70+ woman...most will hold open the door for them but smash nope...a lot of women have a problem coping with the fact that beauty has diminishing value