Y’all should be concerned about single men. Not single women.

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A big part of it is that it's also easier for women to get a partner to sleep with them or be in a relationship with them.

I've heard many women - even average women - say they could easily get into a relationship as long as they just lower their standards. As where for an average man it's less easy. Most men aren't as desirable like that to most women, or at least not inherently, you gotta impress them first.

And a loud and vocal minority of men hate having to process any sort of sadness so they get angry, instead of just being stoic and aloof about the whole thing.

As for being lonely, that's because men usually have an incentive to not be emotionally intimate. It requires a certain level of softness that fukks you over in life as a man I guess :manny:
 
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OP trust me I’ve mentioned similar studies and gotten cursed out for fact checking this shyt for years. In fact, most of the stuff you read about women on this site doesn’t correlate to reality and when you literally bring years of studies out refuting it, some get defensive and start insulting you personally.

“Feminist, man-hating, asian fukking, black bytch!”:mjlol:
But…BUT what you’ll find is that it actually isn’t most posters. Just the miserable ones.
The real answer as to why some men in society are are preoccupied with the fearmongering “old cat lady” scare tactic is because for many that’s the last dying bastion of hope they have of scaring chicks into getting with them or getting revenge if chicks . COURSE women deal with being single better than men.
Since the beginning of time. Since women were left during warfare. Since dudes went to the store for cigarettes. Since nunneries. Since becoming widowers. Since forever. Why? Because as countless studies have demonstrated, we tend to be a bit better at forming social bonds beyond just sexual ones than men do. It’s key for our survival.:yeshrug:

But instead of acknowledging that fact, some men take any admission of women’s ability to not commit that if they don’t marry anybody as an indictment of marriage and relationships.:mjlol:

It’s the weirdest shyt in the world and it’s just plain silly. Great relationships are great but not every chick has to be in one to live a fulfilling life. And you need be comfortable with yourself whether you are single or in a relationship. But some dudes NEED women to feel some kinda way, especially as they confront their own vulnerability b/c some hope that women will finally get punished for the dubious crime of not wanting one of them growing up.

People gotta stop wanting women to be punished in their twilight years for not falling in line with somebody else’s plan for their lives. :mjlol:

“Oh I hopin them twerking bytches die alone!”

Why?:dahell: Besides which, there are shyt tons of widowers with kids in old folk homes right next to those never married ones…
They gotta stop it with the copium. :manny:


Since you wanna go back to the "beginning of time"

It was also key for a female to get with the strongest said male
And Have offspring with said male

Because said male offered the most protection
And resources.

Since the " Beginning of time " a woman always needed a males presence, because no woman wanted to live alone , have to provide for herself and protect herself.
:ld:


And those social bonds you speak of, will be irrelevant after a certain age. Let's see if Tamara from the beauty salon is gonna be there for you
When you sick, weak, can barely get outta bed, Some creep tries to follow u home, etc.



A Male can live alone (usually by choice) and Be good. He can provide and protect himself.

But go ahead, keep Thinking single women live better and more fulfilling lives alone.

Even though you have RICH female celebs still crying saying "men ain't no good" then in the next breath "I just need a man"
 

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Your personal feelings mean nothing against hard facts. Single women do much better in life than single men. They are healthier, live much longer, happier, and are more content with their social circle than men. Several studies report this and I posted a couple in the OP.

Presenting your perspective as facts doesn’t make it true.

I would agree with you if it were maybe 50 years ago, but single women of today are by and large choosing to be. They see men as burdens, which is unfortunate. But again, the studies support this.

And you don’t see women buying sex and companionship at the rates men do at all.
I've seen studies that suggest the opposite though - that generally speaking, married couples (both men and women) are happier than single people.
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This article disputes the op I think
A new book says married women are miserable. Don’t believe it.
 

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Your personal feelings mean nothing against hard facts. Single women do much better in life than single men. They are healthier, live much longer, happier, and are more content with their social circle than men. Several studies report this and I posted a couple in the OP.

Presenting your perspective as facts doesn’t make it true.

I would agree with you if it were maybe 50 years ago, but single women of today are by and large choosing to be. They see men as burdens, which is unfortunate. But again, the studies support this.

And you don’t see women buying sex and companionship at the rates men do at all.
Men have created a world where it’s so comfortable that women have the option of being alone, men have to build value, that comes with more work and less leisure, which means more wear and tear/neglect of physical/mental health, no one is coming to save us and we know that.

So women should be doing better despite how much they claim society is against them
 

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I'm upset this wasn't a 'single men become radicalized and act out terrorist attacks thread
 

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These studies are on an entirely different generation and based on a survey of a little under 3000.

What would help your mudslinging is a study on millennial men that reported dissatisfaction with friendships and loneliness.

The average 65 year old isn't living a bifurcated social life, half of it on social media. Millennials have grown up on the internet, they have YouTube and Xbox. Are those real friendships? Whose to say but if you're looking for an argument that's where you'll have to put the work in.

You can't extrapolate boomer studies and say to millennial men "this is your future." Remote work is here, people are working out of airbnb on a work-cation.

We have no idea what kind of 65 year Olds millennial and gen z men are going to turn into but I'd venture to guess not like boomers.
 

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I don't think the concern is fake. They're just expressing it differently than women would. And I think they've actually figured out a possible way to combat it.

The jokes are cope, much like the modern western woman's wine addiction. :francis:

I'm tired of the gender wars, but I can see why the OP and others felt the way they did about that thread. It was an echo chamber of brehs saying the same things they always say in those threads. And a variation of that thread is made every other week, with the same comments every time. It does come off as if some brehs have weird obsession/fantasy of "modern women" being miserable and depressed over 40, because she doesn't have a man (and I'm not saying that there aren't women in that exact position because there are, but there are women who aren't too and it's something that some brehs just have a hard time acknowledging). But rarely in those threads do brehs talk about what it means for them, and about the fact that they are in the same boat as those women. It's as if it ruins the fantasy to talk about that.

What I do agree with is that it does feel like those threads are the ways some brehs cope. We're in an era where a lot of men don't feel wanted or needed by women, marriage is on the decline, cost of living is increasing and making it hard on both groups to live their lives, let alone date, and where there are less relationships and less sex being had (well that one I guess pertains more to men but still), where dating has become increasingly more difficult, where people are more socially awkward than ever, and where people are also relying too much on social media and the internet for social skills and to form opinions, learn and get advice--it's not healthy. All of it combined is breeding insecurities and frustrations and that's mostly the tone I get in those threads, I feel that there are brehs that are trying to cope with a world where genuine relationships feel less accessible and where they feel there's more challenges dating women than in the past.

I think women cope with dating challenges by getting sex toys, friends, traveling, drinking and saying fukk men. at some point when they recognize that they can't find the man of their dreams, they either will settle, or they won't and will eventually make peace with it (or try to anyway). Women are able to express their emotions and vent about it with each other though--and I don't know that men are able to do that. So I think some just turn what they're feeling inside on to women and go into tirades or make threads asking about women's fate and what not and it's not exactly healthy but I do get that it's a way of coping.

I said this in the other thread, but both groups are going to have similar fates, unless they work on getting the relationships, friendships, network needed to avoid it.
The OP came through with sources and reports to back up her points, and there are even brehs in here acknowledging that her points are valid too. I'm not seeing anyone counter what she said with evidence. So now we can all admit that things are not looking great for men in the future either.


so I guess the question at this point is now that that we're talking about this issue and what it means for BOTH groups, what now? I'm interested in what you said in the bolded.
 

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I'm tired of the gender wars, but I can see why the OP and others felt the way they did about that thread. It was an echo chamber of brehs saying the same things they always say in those threads. And a variation of that thread is made every other week, with the same comments every time. It does come off as if some brehs have weird obsession/fantasy of "modern women" being miserable and depressed over 40, because she doesn't have a man (and I'm not saying that there aren't women in that exact position because there are, but there are women who aren't too and it's something that some brehs just have a hard time acknowledging). But rarely in those threads do brehs talk about what it means for them, and about the fact that they are in the same boat as those women. It's as if it ruins the fantasy to talk about that.

What I do agree with is that it does feel like those threads are the ways some brehs cope. We're in an era where a lot of men don't feel wanted or needed by women, marriage is on the decline, cost of living is increasing and making it hard on both groups to live their lives, let alone date, and where there are less relationships and less sex being had (well that one I guess pertains more to men but still), where dating has become increasingly more difficult, where people are more socially awkward than ever, and where people are also relying too much on social media and the internet for social skills and to form opinions, learn and get advice--it's not healthy. All of it combined is breeding insecurities and frustrations and that's mostly the tone I get in those threads, I feel that there are brehs that are trying to cope with a world where genuine relationships feel less accessible and where they feel there's more challenges dating women than in the past.

I think women cope with dating challenges by getting sex toys, friends, traveling, drinking and saying fukk men. at some point when they recognize that they can't find the man of their dreams, they either will settle, or they won't and will eventually make peace with it (or try to anyway). Women are able to express their emotions and vent about it with each other though--and I don't know that men are able to do that. So I think some just turn what they're feeling inside on to women and go into tirades or make threads asking about women's fate and what not and it's not exactly healthy but I do get that it's a way of coping.

I said this in the other thread, but both groups are going to have similar fates, unless they work on getting the relationships, friendships, network needed to avoid it.
The OP came through with sources and reports to back up her points, and there are even brehs in here acknowledging that her points are valid too. I'm not seeing anyone counter what she said with evidence. So now we can all admit that things are not looking great for men in the future either.


so I guess the question at this point is now that that we're talking about this issue and what it means for BOTH groups, what now? I'm interested in what you said in the bolded.
It’s 100 percent how we cope, when you see other dudes experiencing the same thing it makes us feel like we ain’t crazy, it is what is tho so you gotta adapt:yeshrug:
 

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I'm upset this wasn't a 'single men become radicalized and act out terrorist attacks thread

this is what I expected after reading the title and it's definitely worth discussing.

:hubie:
 

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It’s 100 percent how we cope, when you see other dudes experiencing the same thing it makes us feel like we ain’t crazy, it is what is tho so you gotta adapt:yeshrug:
I know it is. I honestly do feel sad for both groups, because desiring human companionship is natural--wanting to be with someone and be in love and feel valued by that person is natural. I don't think it's natural for us to be alone. I think we're in a strange place in society right now--where a lot of things are being challenged and where people are really isolated and don't know what to do. I'm just wondering if we're headed in the same direction as Japan. I've said before but I've seen shows where people start to have relationships with avatars and AI/robots. You get people desperate and lonely enough lol and I see people embracing that.


Speaking of that, if any of yall are super smart and good with technology and science it's time to invest in developing robot dating prototypes. Let people customize how the robot looks so now women can get those 6 foot attractive brehs they didn't get and brehs to get the big booty females that they always wanted. People can customize personalities. Responsibilities--like what the robot needs to do around the house. Let the female robots have the fleshlite pussies, the male robots have dildo/vibrator dikks LMAO. People can go to sperm banks, get surrogates, or adoption agencies for babies. Robots help them raise the babies. I see this for the future. :francis:
 

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All these studies are weird. We can’t accurately drill down an entire population to statistical happiness. That goes for men and women. Look how small the sample sizes are on those studies. They’re tiny and aren’t representative of any full population.

Do what makes you happy, and keep on living.
 

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Some of this is likely true but I'm not sure where the homelessness angle came from. It doesn't even try to know why men are more homeless than women.

though at the same time, I believe op picked the wrong studies because it does show that women older than 65 are the majority of Americans living alone, not men. that percentage of men is increasing but women are still far ahead (18% of men, 32% of women)
 
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