Y'all blame marriage but it's really kids that change relationships

[malbaker86]

Facts. As a happily married man, I have never disparaged against marriage but I always tell folks that "It ain't for everyone..." Shyt takes work.

you ain't never lied. everyday is a different day

 

[Diondon]

Some people have kids and suddenly nothing matters except the kids
Some people are like hey now, I still gotta have a life.
I think the perfect medium lies somewhere in between.

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

Kids should bring folks together in being mutual stans of their kids. However, folks forget to love each other and your spouse should come first because y’all are the models of a loving and stable relationship. Kids grow up and go their separate ways and start their own families so you gotta keep things tight with ya spouse. That’s what I learned from a pastor sermon. I agree with it. Take it how you wish.

 

[JLova]

I can see that happening if both sides don’t see the bigger picture. I’ll say. When the kid comes, your sex life is a wrap. Time to yourselves? A wrap. Completely different dynamic.

As a man, you are#2. The kid is the primary focus. If your kid has problems it just adds more stress.

 

[Primetime21]

Nah not even kids

Weight gain and the decision by the female to not blow cizock is the downfall of all marriages.

 

[Cel 510 kid ados forever]

Stop blaming the kids u chose to have them.

Marriage falls apart because of finance. Because people fall out of love, infidelity etc not because kids are born

 

[the bossman]

Having a kid and losing 2 kids was one of the best and worse things to happen to me and my wife.

Damn. Sorry to hear. How did you lose 2 kids?

 

[Sccit]

 

[zayk35]

It took a couple of yrs for my wife to get back to "herself" after our daughter. that first yr tho was hellish, we'd been together 11 yrs before she was born, so to say it was an adjustment is an understatement

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

Blaming the kids is a WEAK AZZ EXCUSE

and those that cosign that shouldn't have kids and if they do are idealisticly bad parents

Having a CHILD made me a better man

It made me respect my mate more and the appreciation of her delivering a healthy child and not become a murderer (Abortion)

And it made me grind harder

This is the longest I ever held a job and I also started a LLC and I owe it all to being movivated by my child

You could say that child changed you for the better..... But you can also ask why the fukk you wasn't doing all that for YOURSELF, prior to having that child...........


It goes both ways is what I'm saying. Just the way that child made you better... It might make a man who was doing all that before a child, into a worse man, because he feels the child is taking time away from all those things. There's others who are going to stay stagnant... And then others who gonna rise without that child regardless

Just because it made YOU be a better man, doesn't work for everyone.. Which is why everyone shouldn't be having kids. Cause some parents aren't shyt with or without them

 

[KENNY DA COOKER]

You could say that child changed you for the better..... But you can also ask why the fukk you wasn't doing all that for YOURSELF, prior to having that child...........


It goes both ways is what I'm saying. Just the way that child made you better... It might make a man who was doing all that before a child, into a worse man, because he feels the child is taking time away from all those things. There's others who are going to stay stagnant... And then others who gonna rise without that child regardless

Just because it made YOU be a better man, doesn't work for everyone.. Which is why everyone shouldn't be having kids. Cause some parents aren't shyt with or without them

Well I guess YOU are that Angry FUKK N1GGA who shouldn't be having Kids

 

[Loose]

Blaming the kids is a WEAK AZZ EXCUSE

and those that cosign that shouldn't have kids and if they do are idealisticly bad parents

Having a CHILD made me a better man

It made me respect my mate more and the appreciation of her delivering a healthy child and not become a murderer (Abortion)

And it made me grind harder

This is the longest I ever held a job and I also started a LLC and I owe it all to being movivated by my child

You don't need kids to be a better man, that's more of an indictment on you as a person

 

[Rocket Scientist]

A kid is like the ultimate cherry on top when it comes to a woman. She goes thru labor,pregnant for 9 months,trauma of giving birth the stretch marks ,Post Partum .When she has the baby she is changed forever not physically but emotionally that kid is her world .With us men we provide for them ,and want her to be happy . However in marriage problem lies when the couple focus on parent hood and forget about the marriage.As a married couple got to enjoy each other before the baby comes....

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

Well I guess YOU are that Angry FUKK N1GGA who shouldn't be having Kids

I have two kids and I was doing well before I had them... I didn't say a single word of anger and never once downed you for what you did... As a matter of fact, I spoke on OTHER parents who have kids and don't do shyt to improve... and for some reason, that got you upset and posting smilies

I don't know what your issue is.... But don't take that out on your kid homie

 

[Living Bait]

Social media doesn't help either... People flicking through their phones instead of being close to their family. . looking at how great everyone else's life is while they are grafting and coming to terms with the fact shyt will never be the same again