Would You Seriously Date and/or Marry A "Pick Me?"

[Dwolf]

So, let me first visually show an example of a classic "Pick Me:"



- typically overweight
- typically just cute
- typically low standards and lack of self-love/esteem.

The Coli's Definition of a "Pick Me:" A Black woman or woman who takes up or supports Black men.

The Real Definition or MY Definition of a "Pick Me:"
- a black woman or woman who wants a man so bad ; or is invested in keeping her man from stepping out - due to her "basic" homely status. A chosen "Pick Me" lives in fear that her man/husband and relationship can be taken away at any time - more so than the average woman.

- a trained mouthpiece for repeating the same ish she hears some Black men say about Black women.

- no matter what "A Pick Me" will side with a man even when other Black men don't agree with them. Her goal is male acknowledgment/validation, a compliment, her beloved "it's still good Black women out here" label --- and the BIG payoff -- that DM/Message leading to that late night call.

"A Pick Me" go-to tactic is called:

The Sleuthing Thirst Trap: she investigates the Black man, takes on/adapts his views on "females" and" "bytches" then she waits for her turn or hopes a BM will see "she's a great catch." Usually, a Black men likes her comments + viewpoints so he responds/reaches out -- she smiles ... then she makes her move.

Note: "A Pick Me" success rate is interestingly really low - because men are visual - so her personality may be what some men would like.... cause they feel like they are with their homie -- but when they see pictures or her in-person -- a friendship is the only thing entered into -- or a "inside only" Friends with Benefits situationship. She usually agrees - but she wants more - so the "Pick Me" is back on the prowl.​

Lastly, my view on dating: I date a lot. Every relationship I have even been in - I go/went through the dating phase -- 5-8 + dates - doing all types of stuff (events/concerts, cooking classes, working out together, museums, biking, parties, dinner, etc) - free and paid. I usually prefer the man to choose the date. I like surprises. They usually are creative dates where we get to know each other well. I only date those who enjoy and understand why dating and going out on date(s) are a mandatory step in getting to know someone who you are interested in.

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So, I really wanna know - is a woman like the one in the video really attractive to you? Meaning her personality and her views? Do you think it's ok for a woman to act like that - using "nikka" and "bytch" every other word? Though a lot of you seem to like and take up for "Pick Me's" - would you really be with one?

Be nice please and leave my reps alone

I aint read none of that shyt you typed but if the girl you describing is the one in that vid then hell yeah I would date her.

 

[Hoodoo Child]

How is she a "Pick Me" and how is standing up for Black Men and decoding things from our perspective, considered bad? smh Damn if we Do,Damn if we Don't.

 

[BrokePhiBroke]

bytch i been fukking y'all my whole life, I can speak on who I please.
You don't bring that same energy to the black women literally spite fukking cracker men for social advancement and "gotcha" points.
Bringing this dumb college dyke bullshyt in here to penetration test nikkas minds like some type of cac psychologist.
Weak bytch you are no different than a white jawn to me and maybe more dangerous, due to the blind loyalty of most black men.
bytch you are not an African, you are westernized and used to henpecking black men with impunity, under the guise of concern and love.
The nerve of you goofy watered down media brainwashed hoes, straightening your hair, affecting white speech...and getting upset at white women seeking out nikkas, like you're not in virtual cac face to get ahead in life...miss me with the bullshyt if you're natural: that's a signal too. I know the game.
The chick chose. You still trying to get attention from these corny leftover college nikkas online because you're a loser bytch who can't compete off of face value. Y'all gotta browbeat nikkas into rocking with you because you can't control your image. Calling black men trash, yet bringing up being underappreciated aesthetically in an atmosphere charged with BLACK MAN'S DEATH. bytches like you are poison and worse than full c00n wenches. Manipulative snakes.
Opportunist herd of guilt free whores. Type of bytches who would stop a slave rebellion.
You know what you're doing and this shyt ain't a game.

 

[Critical Distance]

there might be a thing to black folk being overly "superficial" based on this thread.

 

[mrfortune]

youd be lucky to find a partner that can cook good.

 

[Neuromancer]

@xoxodede are black women who put on for white men also "pick me's" ?

 

[Neuromancer]

bytch i been fukking y'all my whole life, I can speak on who I please.
You don't bring that same energy to the black women literally spite fukking cracker men for social advancement and "gotcha" points.
Bringing this dumb college dyke bullshyt in here to penetration test nikkas minds like some type of cac psychologist.
Weak bytch you are no different than a white jawn to me and maybe more dangerous, due to the blind loyalty of most black men.
bytch you are not an African, you are westernized and used to henpecking black men with impunity, under the guise of concern and love.
The nerve of you goofy watered down media brainwashed hoes, straightening your hair, affecting white speech...and getting upset at white women seeking out nikkas, like you're not in virtual cac face to get ahead in life...miss me with the bullshyt if you're natural: that's a signal too. I know the game.
The chick chose. You still trying to get attention from these corny leftover college nikkas online because you're a loser bytch who can't compete off of face value. Y'all gotta browbeat nikkas into rocking with you because you can't control your image. Calling black men trash, yet bringing up being underappreciated aesthetically in an atmosphere charged with BLACK MAN'S DEATH. bytches like you are poison and worse than full c00n wenches. Manipulative snakes.
Opportunist herd of guilt free whores. Type of bytches who would stop a slave rebellion.
You know what you're doing and this shyt ain't a game.

Damn Meta.

 

[xoxodede]

@xoxodede are black women who put on for white men also "pick me's" ?

I guess. You would have to ask them. I don't concern myself with their affairs. Not my story.

 

[Neuromancer]

I guess. You would have to ask them. I don't concern myself with their affairs. Not my story.

So these uh "pick me's" are your story? Are you one of them?

 

[xoxodede]

So these uh "pick me's" are your story? Are you one of them?

I have already informed you it was a question.

I'm Black - I only date Black men. So, why would what IR do or what Black women or Black men who date out - concern me? It doesn't.

My story is Black.

 

[Neuromancer]

I have already informed you it was a question.

I'm Black - I only date Black men. So, why would IR or what Black women or Black men who date out - concern me? It doesn't.

I didn't ask you that. Now. Are. You. A. Pick. Me.

 

[xoxodede]

I didn't ask you that. Now. Are. You. A. Pick. Me.

Did you read my initial post? What you think? You are wasting your time.

 

[Tetsuo]

Not riding blindy for your gender on contentious issues seems to get confused with pandering.

 

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bytch i been fukking y'all my whole life, I can speak on who I please.
You don't bring that same energy to the black women literally spite fukking cracker men for social advancement and "gotcha" points.
Bringing this dumb college dyke bullshyt in here to penetration test nikkas minds like some type of cac psychologist.
Weak bytch you are no different than a white jawn to me and maybe more dangerous, due to the blind loyalty of most black men.
bytch you are not an African, you are westernized and used to henpecking black men with impunity, under the guise of concern and love.
The nerve of you goofy watered down media brainwashed hoes, straightening your hair, affecting white speech...and getting upset at white women seeking out nikkas, like you're not in virtual cac face to get ahead in life...miss me with the bullshyt if you're natural: that's a signal too. I know the game.
The chick chose. You still trying to get attention from these corny leftover college nikkas online because you're a loser bytch who can't compete off of face value. Y'all gotta browbeat nikkas into rocking with you because you can't control your image. Calling black men trash, yet bringing up being underappreciated aesthetically in an atmosphere charged with BLACK MAN'S DEATH. bytches like you are poison and worse than full c00n wenches. Manipulative snakes.
Opportunist herd of guilt free whores. Type of bytches who would stop a slave rebellion.
You know what you're doing and this shyt ain't a game.

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[Hoodoo Child]

I guess. You would have to ask them. I don't concern myself with their affairs. Not my story.

"I guess" ? Maaaaaaaan