Why successful black men are a$$holes

[mamba]

I agree with bold and is mainly a sign a person has had limited experience with other groups and I really dislike that stuff. That's a people thing we might do it a little different culturally but we have a lot of similarities esp on stuff like that.

I have more interaction with other cultures on a daily basis than you've probably had in a lifetime, breh.

The Black community's culture isn't like that of other groups of people. Men doing productive things are valued early on, encouraged and invested in. So, they feel obligated to return the favor once they gain resources and attain a measure of success.

It's the opposite for the Black community. We reward and celebrate people who are doing non-productive things. Rappers, dope boys, nikkas with hoop dreams, etc. We invest heavily in those types. A young Black dude who is trying to be a software engineer or a medical doctor, we don't celebrate or invest as much. Black women aren't checking for those types until they start making $$$$$. That's when they want to take interest, and then complain when he doesn't want to share the fruits of his hard work with her.

The young Black dude who went against the grain and attained success feels no obligation to the Black community in terms of investing in it. He also feels no obligation to the Black woman, in general. She's just one type of woman among many he has to choose from.

 

[mamba]

So your solution is to encourage black men to share their wealth with the race of women who continue to disenfranchise black people as a whole. Seems counter productive.

The Black man is free to do whatever he pleases.

It's also counterproductive for Black women to continue to lay up with bums and create children who will ultimately be a burden to the community.

But, when I say that's counterproductive, it's an issue.

 

[Yup]

I have more interaction with other cultures on a daily basis than you've probably had in a lifetime, breh.

The Black community's culture isn't like that of other groups of people. Men doing productive things are valued early on, encouraged and invested in. So, they feel obligated to return the favor once they gain resources and attain a measure of success.

It's the opposite for the Black community. We reward and celebrate people who are doing non-productive things. Rappers, dope boys, nikkas with hoop dreams, etc. We invest heavily in those types. A young Black dude who is trying to be a software engineer or a medical doctor, we don't celebrate or invest as much. Black women aren't checking for those types until they start making $$$$$. That's when they want to take interest, and then complain when he doesn't want to share the fruits of his hard work with her.

The young Black dude who went against the grain and attained success feels no obligation to the Black community in terms of investing in it. He also feels no obligation to the Black woman, in general. She's just one type of woman among many he has to choose from.

Ok. Yes other races will always chummy up to the people who they have an interest on 'using'. I agree that black people often lack foresight. But if blacks think that going to others is their solution then they are in for an awakening. I am quite familiar with what you are talking about. Other races tend to gravitate to blacks they preceive as 'exceptional' to further take from them because they are never satisfied with what they have and always want more. They are plenty of likeminded blacks who will support you, associate with them.

 

[Yup]

The Black man is free to do whatever he pleases.

It's also counterproductive for Black women to continue to lay up with bums and create children who will ultimately be a burden to the community.

But, when I say that's counterproductive, it's an issue.

As long as we havr an understanding that the black woman is free to go where she pleases as well.

No black woman is holding black men with a leash. ..they have always done what they wanted. Some black women may whine but what more can they do or have they done?

 

[mamba]

As long as we havr an understanding that the black woman is free to go where she pleases as well.

No black woman is holding black men with a leash. ..they have always done what they wanted. Some black women may whine but what more can they do or have they done?

I don't have a problem with a Black woman doing what she pleases, so long as she's not throwing Black men or the Black community under the bus. I've said that a million times.

 

[mamba]

Ok. Yes other races will always chummy up to the people who they have an interest on 'using'. I agree that black people often lack foresight. But if blacks think that going to others is their solution then they are in for an awakening. I am quite familiar with what you are talking about. Other races tend to gravitate to blacks they preceive as 'exceptional' to further take from them because they are never satisfied with what they have and always want more. They are plenty of likeminded blacks who will support you, associate with them.

LOL! Ok! What does this have with finding a solution?

Again, when Black women see a successful Black man with a non-Black woman, they aren't thinking about the greater good of the Black community and how his resources could be used to better the community.

Those Black women are thinking about themselves and the money (his money) they didn't get to spend on themselves.

 

[Opus]

It's not even about dating out brehs. These chicks are really mad that the successful brehs aren't peeping for them. They say there are no good men but real talk beckys not your competition. Your competition is the 25-27 year old you that is smart enough to hop off the fun train early and really try to reel a nikka in. They really mad at biology

 

[Yup]

LOL! Ok! What does this have with finding a solution?

Again, when Black women see a successful Black man with a non-Black woman, they aren't thinking about the greater good of the Black community and how his resources could be used to better the community.

Those Black women are thinking about themselves and the money (his money) they didn't get to spend on themselves.

I disagree...I belive black women want to see wealthy black men create wealthy black families moreso. That is why black women like to see the obama family, the smiths, etc...

 

[philmonroe]

I have more interaction with other cultures on a daily basis than you've probably had in a lifetime, breh.

The Black community's culture isn't like that of other groups of people. Men doing productive things are valued early on, encouraged and invested in. So, they feel obligated to return the favor once they gain resources and attain a measure of success.

It's the opposite for the Black community. We reward and celebrate people who are doing non-productive things. Rappers, dope boys, nikkas with hoop dreams, etc. We invest heavily in those types. A young Black dude who is trying to be a software engineer or a medical doctor, we don't celebrate or invest as much. Black women aren't checking for those types until they start making $$$$$. That's when they want to take interest, and then complain when he doesn't want to share the fruits of his hard work with her.

The young Black dude who went against the grain and attained success feels no obligation to the Black community in terms of investing in it. He also feels no obligation to the Black woman, in general. She's just one type of woman among many he has to choose from.

The first part sounds good and even if you do its not consistent of those that do so I'm throwing out the challenge flag on that claim. I don't know a person that actually has diverse friends not a hi/bye relationship like you probably have say such romanticizing stuff about other groups .

As for the other stuff you sound crazy but I'm pretty sure dudes on here will co sign that madness. Obviously I don't know people personally but I just want y'all to know some of y'all have stories that are consistent with cats that were corny and got some money and acting brand new. Its too much we reward atheletes, dummies, and silliness talk. Are y'all all from the hood because that's the only place where this is even done like that and even there it isn't as drastic as some on here portray it. Nobody cares for doctors, engineers, other nice legal jobs now in the black community? Women wouldn't give you no play when you were younger but it was ONLY because you wasn't a thug? It wouldn't be because of anything on your part though? Smh you and your co signers a funny crew. Even if the chick are a few chicks you were lusting after back in the day didn't fukk with you back then fukk em but most black women nah son stop it. I feel sad for you and dudes like you for one reason or another y'all seem to have had these lives where y'all feel like this. Hope I'm wrong (not that you'd tell me if I was right anyway) but if not let that shyt go fam its over.

 

[Yup]

It's not even about dating out brehs. These chicks are really mad that the successful brehs aren't peeping for them. They say there are no good men but real talk beckys not your competition. Your competition is the 25-27 year old you that is smart enough to hop off the fun train early and really try to reel a nikka in. They really mad at biology

Here we go...lol

 

[Ronnie Lott]

I believe a lot of successful black men are a$$holes because when they were broke or average most black women never gave them the time of day and looked at them in disgust. But now that they're successful these same women come in flocks. They didn't want to build a future with these men, they wanted the finished product. It's kind of like payback for black men and plus black men have way more options when they're successful.

You jacked this idea from this broad

 

[Yup]

At the end of the day black men will do what they want. So
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I.don't know why create a topic to justify being an arsehole. Of you want to be an arsehole embtace it without any apologies
The justifications given here are very empty.

 

[Ronnie Lott]

It's not even about dating out brehs. These chicks are really mad that the successful brehs aren't peeping for them. They say there are no good men but real talk beckys not your competition. Your competition is the 25-27 year old you that is smart enough to hop off the fun train early and really try to reel a nikka in. They really mad at biology

 

[Ronnie Lott]

At the end of the day black men will do what they want. So
...
I.don't know why create a topic to justify being an arsehole. Of you want to be an arsehole embtace it without any apologies
The justifications given here are very empty.

Black women do what they want too

 

[Opus]

Black women do what they want too

We all do. nikkas can't even relish brehs. They trying to steal our God damn relishments.

I won't be relish shamed.