Why successful black men are a$$holes

[Opus]

I agree. Connecting early on is the best bet for both sides.


Difference with men is we're always looking for the next one. We aren't really checking for chicks in the past like that, because there are new ones coming off the assembly line on the reg. Especially if a man has his life in order.

It's these old chicks, facing dwindling options, that start flipping through their yearbooks, Facebook and other shyt trying to find nikkas to latch on to. They see a few nikkas they curved back in the day doing well for themselves and just so happen to be with non-Black women. Then, they want to get on the "Black men prefer non-Black women once they make it" shyt. You didn't want that nikka in the first place. Why does it matter to you where he's sticking his dikk, now?

Only thing about him that has changed is his success and money.

I agree. It doesn't matter for me. I took my lumps as a young man and let it mold me. Give me character. But as an adult, I have my pick. I'm just looking in retrospect like damn I wonder why we are so dysfunctional? But practically it doesn't matter. I will get mine. By and large, black women are the ones complaining about this.

I also think it's odd people in this thread think it's pathetic to draw on high school experiences. We didn't just end up here! Unless the plan is to talk in circles forever, it's useful to understand what led us here so future generations are better equipped.

Imo it's very peculiar to hear people express what seems an awful lot like a sense of entitlement over another person's wealth because they share the same race. This oddness is compounded by the fact it's out the blue. In other words, it's not like there was some "same race" mechanism in place operating as support to gain this wealth. In fact, the common thread seems to be this wealth was gained in spite of our race. I think this sense of entitlement should be expanded into formative years and manifest as support networks. We can't be enemies dissing, hating on, and ignoring one another's struggles throughout life and expect brehs to look out at the end once the power balance shifts. At that point we are going to go for ours.

If it makes you feel better you can characterize it as bitterness. To me, it's enjoying the fruits of labor. No successful black man had an easy go at it. No one gave us shyt. A lot of women of all races get gifted opportunity based on looks. The ones who dont, they are the bitter ones. No one gave them shyt and at the end they look up and are alone a lot of the time. That's unfortunate, but life's made me too shallow to do anything for them companion wise.

 

[Yup]

So you be on that bougie tip when a man talks to you? or on that straightforward tip?

I am very approachable and I am open. If I am not interested I thank them and day I am not interested.

 

[mamba]

I agree. It doesn't matter for me. I took my lumps as a young man and let it mold me. Give me character. But as an adult, I have my pick. I'm just looking in retrospect like damn I wonder why we are so dysfunctional? But practically it doesn't matter. I will get mine. By and large, black women are the ones complaining about this.

I also think it's odd people in this thread think it's pathetic to draw on high school experiences. We didn't just end up here! Unless the plan is to talk in circles forever, it's useful to understand what led us here so future generations are better equipped.

Imo it's very peculiar to hear people express what seems an awful lot like a sense of entitlement over another person's wealth because they share the same race. This oddness is compounded by the fact it's out the blue. In other words, it's not like there was some "same race" mechanism in place operating as support to gain this wealth. In fact, the common thread seems to be this wealth was gained in spite of our race. I think this sense of entitlement should be expanded into formative years and manifest as support networks. We can't be enemies dissing, hating on, and ignoring one another's struggles throughout life and expect brehs to look out at the end once the power balance shifts. At that point we are going to go for ours.

If it makes you feel better you can characterize it as bitterness. To me, it's enjoying the fruits of labor. No successful black man had an easy go at it. No one gave us shyt. A lot of women of all races get gifted opportunity based on looks. The ones who dont, they are the bitter ones. No one gave them shyt and at the end they look up and are alone a lot of the time. That's unfortunate, but life's made me too shallow to do anything for them companion wise.

I agree, breh. If Black women were up in arms because they were missing out on men who have great character, would make great husbands, fathers, etc., I'd empathize with their plight more. Non-Black women "stealing" those type of men left and right would be something worth talking about.

But, when they talk about Black men dating out, the focus is always on the "successful" ones. In other words, the Black men of means--those with above average assets. We hear nothing about those men and why they're such great catches other than their "success."

To me, that signals that those women just see $$$ that they are unable to enjoy and, because they feel entitled to the Black man's wealth, they are bitter about it.

If Black women were just honest about it, the conversation would be more productive.

They should just come out and say it: There aren't enough wealthy Black men in the community to go around and it bothers us when we see them sharing their wealth with non-Black women.

 

[Mr.Forte]

I was making $500/wk in high school in the late 90s, always been a get money type of dude Went to prom with a black chick. I'm still an azzhole Some of the azzhole sh*t of done (including the race)

- stood up a white chick at her sorority dance after she told her friends I was her man just 'cause she blew me

-kicking a white farm chick out my crib after she broke down to me after blowing me about how her man was abusive and was looking for a change in her life. Didn't even allow her to stay for breakfast

-picking up a new chick in front of my viet main, then breaking up with here while she was trying to save the relationship

-f*cking a chick right after f*cking my dominican main the same night, and do my best Eddie Murphy impression the next day when she saw the condoms in the whip

-kicking out a dominican steady (not my main, but a regular) because she gained approximately 15 pounds since the previous time I f*cked her, and this is her in doggy with the panties pulled down

I could go on and on. It's not about payback, it's just too many options. It makes you not give a f*ck. I regret all of it, especially with the Viet main, she was a good one. But at times I was f*cking 3-4 chicks on rotation a week, I be randomly remembering one night stands I've had Especially as a black male, when you're at the top, all the women you come across at your level generally has flirted with the idea of being with a black man, and all the black chicks at your level want you because there aren't too many brothers at your level that aren't entertainers/pro athletes (talking six figures, not millions). So like the saying goes, power corrupts, and absolute power corrupts absolutely. The more options a dude has, generally the more of an azzhole he usually is

Correctamundo

 

[Yup]

I agree, breh. If Black women were up in arms because they were missing out on men who have great character, would make great husbands, fathers, etc., I'd empathize with their plight more. Non-Black women "stealing" those type of men left and right would be something worth talking about.

But, when they talk about Black men dating out, the focus is always on the "successful" ones. In other words, the Black men of means--those with above average assets. We hear nothing about those men and why they're such great catches other than their "success."

To me, that signals that those women just see $$$ that they are unable to enjoy and, because they feel entitled to the Black man's wealth, they are bitter about it.

If Black women were just honest about it, the conversation would be more productive.

They should just come out and say it: There aren't enough wealthy Black men in the community to go around and it bothers us when we see them sharing their wealth with non-Black women.

@mamba should they happy? I fail ti see what's wring with what you bolded. And many black women have expressed just that.

 

[kayslay]

@mamba should they happy? I fail ti see what's wring with what you bolded. And many black women have expressed just that.

what really perplexes me about the bolded it alot of them seem to take solace and relish in that fact.

 

[Opus]

what really perplexes me about the bolded it alot of them seem to take solace and relish in that fact.

I find no solace, but there is a lot of relishing

 

[kayslay]

I find no solace, but there is a lot of relishing

You can be proud of your success and enjoy the fruits of your labor with out relishing in the fact that you are one of few professional/economically successful BM.
I guess SanKofa means nothing to some of the BM on this site.
That whole talent tenth ideology is how NEW blacks and c00ns are created.

 

[Opus]

You can be proud of your success and enjoy the fruits of your labor with out relishing in the fact that you are one of few professional/economically successful BM.
I guess SanKofa means nothing to some of the BM on this site.
That whole talent tenth ideology is how NEW blacks and c00ns are created.

Sometimes I feel like about it

Sometimes I be like

Brehs is complex. Im not gonna be out here like tho. Not ever

 

[Yup]

what really perplexes me about the bolded it alot of them seem to take solace and relish in that fact.

Not to mention it is contradictory to the problack shpiel that the men on this site like to go on.

 

[Yup]

Sometimes I feel like about it

Sometimes I be like

Brehs is complex. Im not gonna be out here like tho. Not ever

I can never relish on being one of the few when in other communities it is standard.

 

[philmonroe]

I can never relish on being one of the few when in other communities it is standard.

Not the romanticizing of other groups again. I swear online you get so much of this from black people its so sad. If your successful regardless of,the race you are one of the few or else every group wouldn't have more than its fair share of people with reasons why things aren't going right for them.

 

[kayslay]

Not to mention it is contradictory to the problack shpiel that the men on this site like to go on.

Exactly!
Some of these dudes loathe woman so much and are so bust cheering on the fact that someone is out to get us they fail to realize that these does loathe BM as well. e.i. Charles Barkley and his recent comments on BM.
These dudes hate BW and they HATE other BM who they feel had an easier time getting women, hence their obsession with calling them "thugs" and trying to demonize them.
That's are just as happy to shyt on those dudes that were "popular" in HS as they are are the women.
THey are happy as hell to be that token Black guy, trust!
They don't realize how they are adding to the problems that they complain about.

How the hell can you be "Pro black" and hate BW? They create Black people!

 

[philmonroe]

Exactly!
Some of these dudes loathe woman so much and are so bust cheering on the fact that someone is out to get us they fail to realize that these does loathe BM as well. e.i. Charles Barkley and his recent comments on BM.
These dudes hate BW and they HATE other BM who they feel had an easier time getting women, hence their obsession with calling them "thugs" and trying to demonize them.
That's are just as happy to shyt on those dudes that were "popular" in HS as they are are the women.
THey are happy as hell to be that token Black guy, trust!
They don't realize how they are adding to the problems that they complain about.

How the hell can you be "Pro black" and hate BW? They create Black people!

I agree with everything outside the last sentence because we all create black people since we are black. Y'all just do more of the heavy lifting lol. We still have to work together though don't forget that because without a black dudes sperm there is no black people and the same without a black egg.

 

[Yup]

Not the romanticizing of other groups again. I swear online you get so much of this from black people its so sad. If your successful regardless of,the race you are one of the few or else every group wouldn't have more than its fair share of people with reasons why things aren't going right for them.

I am not romanticizing. I am pointing the obvious...if you are used to be the token black person in an environment that should tell you something on how far black communities have to go. I like seeing black people in many different position/high positions. Tokenism will be death of blacks we embrace it too much.