Why successful black men are a$$holes

[philmonroe]

Black brehs that used to be broke/ unpopular that suddenly get rich, act like a$$holes because no one believed in them when they were down and out. When they get lots of $$$, they act like a$$holes because its a way of revenge for anyone and everyone that shytted on them and to haunt their memories.

I agree with all of this and you can tell by some of the stuff some of them say at times.

 

[Wild self]

I agree with all of this and you can tell by some of the stuff some of them say at times.

The fukked up part about it is that some brehs forget where they came from and refuse to drop game to the ones that are in the positions they were a few years ago.

 

[philmonroe]

The fukked up part about it is that some brehs forget where they came from and refuse to drop game to the ones that are in the positions they were a few years ago.

Honestly I don't know if you want some of,these dudes bitter game if you just talking about women. Otherwise a lot of people do give advice but some people don't want to really listen cause they see the final product and think its easy to get there. Others listen and people are more than willing to help but people also have to realize others have stuff to do to and may not be able to help like you want/need

 

[Wild self]

thats the problem though. MANY black girls will go for the 25 year old dude still aspiring to be a rapper rather than the university grad who just got a job working as an Accountant or something. That says more about the girl than anything. The accountant has to ask himself...besides being attracted to this female...why else would i wanna deal with her?

Its too many attractive, educated black women that go for the bum rapper than the accountant. Its an epidemic, but I have my fair share of success.

 

[Ohene]

The Black community, in general, doesn't hold our fukkups accountable. That includes Black men and women.

We celebrate the fukkups. That's our main problem. Severe social penalties should be levied on our fukkups the same way as in other cultures.

You're fathering children, but being a deadbeat.

You're spreading your legs and letting bums skeet and retreat

You're selling drugs in the community:

You're a pimp in the pulpit.

I think the reason we celebrate fukkups is because often times we understand the situations that people were in which led them to fukk up. Its a cycle.

If your you and your best friend grew up in poverty together but maybe you were a little bit smarter and used your brain to stay out of trouble, go through school and come up while your friend was maybe a bit of a knucklehead and had to sell drugs or commit robberies just to put food on the table and what not for he and some family members...you cant help but sympathize cause you know the factors that caused him to do those actions. That's still your homie at the end of the day.

That's what I was alluding to when I said:

essentially its not even about turning down goal oriented/smart men but moreso about the YOLO society that looks to live in the present. And truth be told men enable it. It's even more noticeable in the black community though because factors have caused certain men to partake in drastic measures ...sometimes even just to put food on their table whereas asian, white women etc have a much larger/eligible ppol

Girls know they by simply looking sexy, that when push comes to shove they can probably settle down with the Senior Financial Analyst, IT admin or Project Manager at age 30. It's just a matter of them wanting to lower their standards. It's up to the men to have an ego and strap up/fukk 'n' duck em instead of wifing the trophy

 

[Wild self]

I'm a nerdy black dude. Went to an HBCU too...

Black chicks was never checking for me. Not the cute ones, at least. Cute, nerdy white chicks was checking for me though.

'Shrug'

Black chicks don't really check for me now. I pull cute-ish white chicks and only "fat or below average" black chicks show me love.

Damn shame.

Why are these females quiet for?

 

[Wild self]

Black women do this....ALOT. Because smart nerdy nikka don't get the coochie wet. Bad boys with swag do (yes, Bad boys can have 9-to-5s and degrees too). A lot of things that's corny to black women aren't corny to white chicks, so those smart nerdy nikkas get in where they fit in. When that smart nerdy nikka get a nonblack woman, nikkas say "you a lame/ugly, can't pull a black chick" not realizing that saying someone is too lame to get a black woman kinda corrobates the fact that most young black woman want a swagger up playa type, Trey Songz basically. The fact that these guys who were SO lame can go and all of sudden find willing non-black women means they must not be THAT ugly or THAT lame. They just were to black chicks.

 

[mamba]

I think the reason we celebrate fukkups is because often times we understand the situations that people were in which led them to fukk up. Its a cycle.

If your you and your best friend grew up in poverty together but maybe you were a little bit smarter and used your brain to stay out of trouble, go through school and come up while your friend was maybe a bit of a knucklehead and had to sell drugs or commit robberies just to put food on the table and what not for he and some family members...you cant help but sympathize cause you know the factors that caused him to do those actions. That's still your homie at the end of the day.

That's what I was alluding to when I said:

Breh, I get that. I know nikkas just like that. But, let's be real, most Black men aren't out here selling drugs or committing robberies because they're hungry. Most of them are doing so because they want money to be able to flex and impress chicks.

I've got no respect for nikkas like that and they shouldn't be celebrated in the Black community at all. They are no better than racist cacs in my opinion, as they're doing the work the racist cacs really want to do--undermine the Black community's viability.

 

[Ohene]

Breh, I get that. I know nikkas just like that. But, let's be real, most Black men aren't out here selling drugs or committing robberies because they're hungry. Most of them are doing so because they want money to be able to flex and impress chicks.

I've got no respect for nikkas like that and they shouldn't be celebrated in the Black community at all. They are no better than racist cacs in my opinion, as they're doing the work the racist cacs really want to do--undermine the Black community's viability.

lol you right

 

[Wild self]

@Reality hit it on the head

A lot of young black women....at least majority of the attractive ones have a type....the same way men like pretty girls with curves, breasts and booty....they like bad boys/swagged up dudes. I have a theory that BW don't care for the middle guys. They want one end or the other end. Extreme polarity. On one end is the rich ballers. They can be rappers, athletes, actors, doctors, lawyers, the lames they dissed before who are now successful. Any black dude with money. On the other end are the broke dudes. They broke as fukk but, they fulfill a physical requirement they crave. They have a big dikk. They're a bad boy. They have the arrogant swag they love. They're handsome. These dudes are broke but, fulfill one of those requirements. BW deal in polarity....rich nikka or poor bad boy. Now........the middle guys. The average guys. The nikkas who don't fit the status quo for what a black man is supposed to be is shyt out of luck. He's a lame. He doesn't have the natural physical qualities black women crave (thugs, bad boys, pretty boys, swag boys). The only chance he has is to come up financially but, that's years away. My theory is ALOT of black men fall into "the middle guy" zone which is why you hear so many successful black guys say the same story.

As others have said, it's much much easier for that average middle guy to get a woman of another race. She sees your potential. She's not tryna to date the next Wiz Khalifa. A lot of things that's lame to our women is normal to them. I'm rambling now but, I want to add this, I remember one of my roommates had a girl. Let's call him Lamont. The girl he was seeing looked like Victoria Allure (porn broad). My roommate was the kinda cat a lot chicks would love. Player. Arrogant. Swag. Anyway, girl was head over heels for him. She'd come over and cook all us (4 suite mates) dinner. She'd vacuum clean the spot. She'd buy that nikka shiit all the time. I remember asking him where his girl was at once and he was like "don't call that bytch my girl nikka We just cool". This broad would bend over backward for duke and obviously thought they were in a relationship while this nikka could care less. I looked at her with disgust eventually cuz I know she gonna be that chick that says nikkas ain't shyt or there's no good men 10 years from now when she spent her prime chasing dudes like him. No shade being thrown at my roommate. I ain't want her. I forgot her name already. It just made me disgusted nonetheless. And I hate when chicks lie online like we don't be around y'all everyday and see how y'all move.

That is life for the average black male. The media done fukked it up for the average black man and duped many women into thinking that we are only good if we are swagged out or have money.

 

[Wild self]

Breh, I get that. I know nikkas just like that. But, let's be real, most Black men aren't out here selling drugs or committing robberies because they're hungry. Most of them are doing so because they want money to be able to flex and impress chicks.

I've got no respect for nikkas like that and they shouldn't be celebrated in the Black community at all. They are no better than racist cacs in my opinion, as they're doing the work the racist cacs really want to do--undermine the Black community's viability.

Real talk. I see that shyt too. Compromising their entire existence just for hoes tto for them.

 

[mamba]

lol you right

The fact that nikkas poisoning the community get celebrated in our culture by other Black men and are at the top of the totem pole in terms of dating by a lot of Black women is downright crazy. Show me any other community where a man who actually preys on the community is regarded highly. In Iran, such a man would be hung by his neck in public. In Saudi Arabia, he'd be beheaded.

We are too easy on the fukkups in the Black community, which is why our community is fukked up.

 

[Wild self]

Even my family ain't immune my little cuz is 21 years old.....NO JOB.....hasn't had one since he dropped out of college two years ago. What he does with his time I don't know In these 2 years....he's made 3 kids. All by the same chick. The girl is bad too....cute thing. But she works, supports herself while my little cousin is a bum. She knew my little cousin wasn't doing shyt when she had his first kid. Yet she gave him newborn twins last week NO JOB breh....10 years from now....she'll be complaining all black men ain't shyt.....he does have swag though

bytches love swag and a tight mouthpiece.

 

[mamba]

That is life for the average black male. The media done fukked it up for the average black man and duped many women into thinking that we are only good if we are swagged out or have money.

It's a dirty game.

Media creates an image of basic manhood and then creates barriers for Black men to attain the things needed to satisfy that image.

Media then promotes an image of Black manhood that is a the image of basic manhood on steroids. Most nikkas cannot attain the basic image of manhood, let alone the image on steroids.

The image on steroids is fed to our women and they eat it up.

When they cannot find a man who satisfies the "steroid" image, they claim there are no good Black men or they're all with non-Black women.

They overlook all the Black men who meet the basic idea of manhood in the process. Which is why Black men call them on their bullshyt when they say that. There are enough good Black men to match the number of good Black women. Good Black women are just looking for that "steroid" image. There are only a few of those nikkas around.

 

[Wild self]

The fact that nikkas poisoning the community get celebrated in our culture by other Black men and are at the top of the totem pole in terms of dating by a lot of Black women is downright crazy. Show me any other community where a man who actually preys on the community is regarded highly. In Iran, such a man would be hung by his neck in public. In Saudi Arabia, he'd be beheaded.

We are too easy on the fukkups in the Black community, which is why our community is fukked up.

Its like being a goon killer or a drug dealer will get you all kinds of recognition and p*ssy, but the hard working black man without much words and a good heart gets shytted on.