Why successful black men are a$$holes

[Will Ross]

Day by day this forum turns into the male LSA

You are married to a white woman right?

 

[OatmealCreamPie]

And I don't understand feeling forced to deal with people within your own race. At the end of the day any wealthy/established man should know that a woman is seeking him partially because he has money but what is being implied is that non black women don't and singles out black women, when we all know it's a bunch of crock.
That aside, as I make more money and become successful I would want to have a black kids to pass on that legacy not non black ones. But again people have the right to choice it's the rationale that I don't agree with.

This is me right here. I'm married now, but even before that I knew that as a successful Black woman I would want a Black man on my arm. My husband knew he would want a Black woman on his arm as he became more successful. I want Black kids and want to strengthen the Black community in my own little way. This "as I get more successful I want to be around people who don't look like myself" crap is something I don't understand. But this mentality has been in effect since the push for integration so we're too far gone as a race. My husband and I already discussed that we will be mentally programming our kids to equate Black with success. These guy's parents failed them. It's crazy!

 

[philmonroe]

No. I've yet to be among other successful Black men and the conversation about what Black woman is dating non-Black men comes up. It just doesn't happen, breh. Successful Black men don't care who Black women are dating. Successful Black men get women. Our options grow, not dwindle--especially as we age. Greater pool of women to pick from as we age.

Women, on the other hand, successful or not don't have that luxury. Which is why they tend to have more of the "who's dating who" conversations.

I don't I type clear enough. I said dudes have conversations based on things that benefit them. I didn't say and if I did mean dudes having convos about who chicks dating unless we talking about online where that happens more often than IRL. Some successful black men get women the other ones are sounding like bytches talking about thugs so let's cut the bullshyt. I'm also a believer of people who are getting whatever it is not to be the main ones to go hard on that issue like they've been excluded on whatever it is. That's just me I can't really think a guy swimming in girls but consistently complaining about how the system fukked up. That's not my experience at least not offline. Online though pimps, ballers, seem to have as many consistent complaints as dudes deep in multiple friend zones and that shyt don't add up to me.

 

[philmonroe]

I heard you loud and clear and I said it makes sense that as some black men climb the ladder of success they feel tied down by their own and want to exercise their 'options'.These men tend to not be problack but be on that 'we are all one' shtick to justify marrying/dating other. The choice does not faze me, but I do see the forest from the trees. I am simply the rationale is shaky but anyway...
As for the stats, I'd like to see how many black men and women are married out of their population and how many are uppardly mobile professionals to wealthy. I think these percentages would give better context to thos discussion than just saying 90% black men marry black women.

Some of you chicks still trying to come up with some justification for y'all's ignorance on who people marry I see. It don't matter if you rich or poor the vast majority of black men marry black women. End of discussion and any ole google search can find this out so cut the bullshyt on this issue.

 

[Yup]

Some of you chicks still trying to come up with some justification for y'all's ignorance on who people marry I see. It don't matter if you rich or poor the vast majority of black men marry black women. End of discussion and any ole google search can find this out so cut the bullshyt on this issue.

Hey I didn't make the thread and if I disagree with the argumentsbi am going to explain why.

 

[ccna123]

More black women should be looking for nerds instead of thugs

 

[OatmealCreamPie]

More black women should be looking for nerds instead of thugs

It's funny when Black men say this when America considers Black men to be the epitome of a thug.

 

[philmonroe]

Hey I didn't make the thread and if I disagree with the argumentsbi am going to explain why.

Idgaf but when your wrong your wrong just like the issue we talking about. So save the smilies and just realize you wrong and a quick google search can show you that. You can't explain shyt that is 1000% wrong that's the problem some people have don't know when to take the L.

 

[mamba]

It's funny when Black men say this when America considers Black men to be the epitome of a thug.

Do you think most Black men are thugs?

 

[Yup]

I am wrong about what? The fact fact that throwing 90% of black men marry black women does not mean much unless these numbers are broken down? How many black meb get married? How many of them are young professionals to wealthy men ro black women? That's all asked...there's no l for me take. If I said most black mendont go to collegge I'm sure enquiring minds would want to know how that percentage came about. I am not saying or implying that blavk men do not choose black women to marry predominantly, I am saying are tgese percentages consistent for a select demographi of black men who are well off?

Idgaf but when your wrong your wrong just like the issue we talking about. So save the smilies and just realize you wrong and a quick google search can show you that. You can't explain shyt that is 1000% wrong that's the problem some people have don't know when to take the L.

 

[philmonroe]

I am wrong about what? The fact fact that throwing 90% of black men marry black women does not mean much unless these numbers are broken down? How many black meb get married? How many of them are young professionals to wealthy men ro black women? That's all asked...

You're wrong because like Ive told,you twice it don't matter if the dude broke or balling more than enough black men marry INTRAracially like any group where anybody saying otherwise looks like a fukking fool (yes I'm talking about you too in this instance lol). It takes a simple search to find that but you don't want to do that so you can keep spewing that wrongness. I'm mean hell if some of y'all go outside you'd see that just off looking at the avg couples. Where are all these BM/WW couples walking around where this is even worth speaking on? A few celebrities with white women does not make it an epidemic no matter how you slice it.

 

[Yup]

You're wrong because like Ive told,you twice it don't matter if the dude broke or balling more than enough black men marry INTRAracially like any group where anybody saying otherwise looks like a fukking fool (yes I'm talking about you too in this instance lol). It takes a simple search to find that but you don't want to do that so you can keep spewing that wrongness. I'm mean hell if some of y'all go outside you'd see that just off looking at the avg couples. Where are all these BM/WW couples walking around where this is even worth speaking on? A few celebrities with white women does not make it an epidemic no matter how you slice it.

I am not lazy with research, you mention the stats and so I asked you. Never implied there was an epidemic, the thread attempted to justify why well off black men will more likely marry non.bkack I framed mt replies within these constraints. Manynmale posters pointed out that according to their own circle many wealthy men in their own family have chosen non black wives. A national percentage means nothing if what people experience something different in their day to day lives.

 

[Kenny West]

Like I said earlier if I or anybody say something you don't agree with of course its going to be me being of base even if I was right (not saying I am). We all do it or done it and if I agreed it wouldn't be no off base talk lol but I do agree that's a done issue.

Second part about boy that's just what works for him but chicks that work on I think I'd be good on them regardless of how they look. That's like a white jawn calling you a nikka as a term of endearment but if it works for him more power to him.

Man real shyt I was done with this thread so I wasn't gonna bother with saying this but since my alerts and thread bumps brought me back here

The bolded is solidifying the throwing shyt against the wall feeling I had earlier. You've missed the point and substance of a lot of my replies and instead just tried to qualify whatever I said that doesn't align with your beliefs.


I write about how folks switch up. "It's just your circle" Even though it wasn't even about me


I make a post about the game as a whole, you don't reply to the dynamic I explained, instead "You only think that cause some girl is stalling you out" "doesn't sound like you're getting them like that"

I give an examples of dudes who talk about women negatively but still gets women like that. So now they're's something wrong with the women and you're good on them. I guess.

It's just telling that I spent most of these exchanges correcting you when neither my post nor this thread was about me in the first place. I still got respect for you for speaking your peace and being civil but it just feels like you on some passive aggressive bullshyt "and you can disagree because in all honesty who going to co sign something that they think makes them look bad?"

Third the definition of hypergamy is about moving up in class. I said class when I could have used a different term. Simply all I was saying was we all want the best we can get so why should I fault a chick. As far as cuckolding and stuff lets be real for a second. How many boys you know willingly cuckolding? How about getting divorced for their bread? That don't affect 90%+ of dues on here but they talking like they victims. I don't know a dude willingly cuckolding in my life and I'd say neither do the vast majority on this site either. That's some porn weirdo stuff that isn't really part of our lives just like the divorce stuff. I'm not telling you how to think but just saying most of,this stuff like you said earlier is the game that is played and you know how to avoid that anyway. Also like you said its things that benefit us that I'm pretty sure if you take advantage of like side jawns and the like you not trying to give that up. I look it at like we have to take the good with the bad.

So because it hasn't happened to me, I shouldn't feel any type of way about it.

Ok. Like, do you accept a black celebrity laughing off institutionalized racism because he himself is successful and not in jail?

And also our definitions of hypergamy are probably very different too

 

[OatmealCreamPie]

Do you think most Black men are thugs?

Do you think most Black women want thugs?

 

[philmonroe]

I am not lazy with research, you mention the stats and so I asked you. Never implied there was an epidemic, the thread attempted to justify why well off black men will more likely marry non.bkack I framed mt replies within these constraints. Manynmale posters pointed out that according to their own circle many wealthy men in their own family have chosen non black wives. A national percentage means nothing if what people experience something different in their day to day lives.

I take what dudes say with a mountain of salt for the most part online in general. Dudes say things that don't add up too often honestly. One post dudes ballers getting women by the truckload, next post whining how the game is hard and women are horrible. How can you take that seriously? I'm asking you personally do you see a whole gang of BM/WW where you'd think its a problem? I sure don't even though I don't have a problem with it either