It's all about the money and status, breh.
Most Black women feel they are entitled to a Black man's success and money. If he chooses to exercise some freedom over his choices, he's betraying Black women and the women who "held him down" during his rise. The sense of entitlement is at the root of the matter.
Then, if you ask those women, "so what did you do to contribute to his rise? They have nothing to say. They start talking gibberish about Black women being strong during slavery, holding Black men down and some other historic shyt. I never hear shyt like, "Yeah. I bought him textbooks while he was in college, paid half his tuition that one semester when he was broke, let him crash in my off-campus apartment because he couldn't afford housing that semester. After all that, he tossed me in the bushes for a white girl after he made it."
Black men never feel entitled to the success and money of Black women.
Can you imagine average nikkas on some "we're responsible for your success, you owe us" shyt when Black women start talking about how they outnumber Black men in college and with degrees, how they're making money, and how they can't find suitable Black men on their level?
Successful Black men don't owe Black women anything in general. Successful Black women don't owe Black men anything in general.
That shyts funny, but real talk I wouldn't expect a peer to hold me down or help with anything. Women literally obstructed me. Lot of that was my fault. But whenever I found myself making a real run at some shyt, I'd find myself saying I have to leave these bytches alone.
There are a couple that even made shyt tough for me and tried to sabotage the breh. Most though just didn't understand the struggle and served as distractions or disincentives to do what needed to be done.
I think everybody would've loved Nia long in Boyz in the hood type shyt. But most of the chicks I knew just didn't really pay too much attention to what we were experiencing.
At my white high school all the smart black chick's dated white preppies and made efforts not to be racial. I didn't relate to that.
I remember I bumped into one of these black chick's at a lounge. She was fine back in the day and was cheerleader captain. Dated this blonde lacrosse player, super preppy. We never spoke in high school. Bump into her at the spot I catch her looking at me with this white girl that used to go to our school who was also a cheerleader back in the day. They were still rolling tight lol.
Anyway I'm like did you go to bla bla high school? She's like yea! And they both screamed my name and the black chick was trying to get at me. I was blown. 4 years never said shyt to me, now she trying to talk.
Of course, she still looked good for her age. For. Her. Age. So I won. And may have been a smug a$$hole about it. But even if we talked back in the day and shared racist experiences back at that school it would've been a different vibe if I saw her even with her dating cacs. Instead she steered clear.
I don't know. Looking back I was pretty selfish too. I can't think of any black chick's I really propped up. A couple told me sob stories about being raped or some other shyt and I was an ear. I guess that's something. As a guy we are conditioned not to get emotional so I didn't even get tgat.
I think as a people we probably should do a better job connecting early on. Listening to each other and being moral support even if we can't do some of the financial things for one another.