Why Isn't Your FWB or Casual Sex Partner Your Girlfriend?

[Givethanks]

The elephant in the room is a lot of us are having sex with woman to feed our egos.

So many of us lie to ourselves and mess around with women we say we're not attracted to then make excuse after excuse.

I know a few guys like this, but one of my closest friend for example has never had a girlfriend, but in the last 7 years he's been interested in 12 women. 5/12 we're friends with benefits and it's the same story.

FWB-> they catch feelings, he's happy -> he catches feelings -> they play too much, he's not happy -> they catch feelings, they leave him because he doesn't wanna date... And they're never his type apparently, and only messes with them because that's all he can get at the moment


Then the other 7 he says he likes and are his type. Never like him back, and it always crushes him.

1. Sexy Caribbean girl he lost his v to, when you read between the lines she just wanted to fukk but he thinks women fukk to date or some bs lol.
2. Fat white girl, FWB situ
3. Fat white girl with kids, FWB situ
4. Fat east African girl with kids, FWB situ
5. Sexy Indian, his type but she didn't like him back
6. Sexy Asian, his type but didn't like him back
7. Sexy west African girl, his type but didn't like him back
8. Currently a fat south African girl with kids and a husband, FWB situ
9. Sexy north African, his type but didn't like him back
10. A white grandma, FWB situ
11. Currently Sexy east African girl, his type...that lives in another city lol
12. Currently a Sexy Caribbean girl who's engaged... His type but doesn't like him back.

My guys not a ugly dude by any means since he's always pulling women. His ego's telling him he needs an IG baddy when he's been his happiest with the FWB girls he's messed around with.

 

[#1 pick]

Because men's biological purposes is to fukk as much as possible. So if you're an easy layup they save their energy that he doesn't have to spend on you on the next one who makes him actually work for it.

I don't like to spend my energy on any woman. Just my time and that's important to me so you better be important to me

 

[#1 pick]

The elephant in the room is a lot of us are having sex with woman to feed our egos.

So many of us lie to ourselves and mess around with women we say we're not attracted to then make excuse after excuse.

I know a few guys like this, but one of my closest friend for example has never had a girlfriend, but in the last 7 years he's been interested in 12 women. 5/12 we're friends with benefits and it's the same story.

FWB-> they catch feelings, he's happy -> he catches feelings -> they play too much, he's not happy -> they catch feelings, they leave him because he doesn't wanna date... And they're never his type apparently, and only messes with them because that's all he can get at the moment


Then the other 7 he says he likes and are his type. Never like him back, and it always crushes him.

1. Sexy Caribbean girl he lost his v to, when you read between the lines she just wanted to fukk but he thinks women fukk to date or some bs lol.
2. Fat white girl, FWB situ
3. Fat white girl with kids, FWB situ
4. Fat east African girl with kids, FWB situ
5. Sexy Indian, his type but she didn't like him back
6. Sexy Asian, his type but didn't like him back
7. Sexy west African girl, his type but didn't like him back
8. Currently a fat south African girl with kids and a husband, FWB situ
9. Sexy north African, his type but didn't like him back
10. A white grandma, FWB situ
11. Currently Sexy east African girl, his type...that lives in another city lol
12. Currently a Sexy Caribbean girl who's engaged... His type but doesn't like him back.

My guys not a ugly dude by any means since he's always pulling women. His ego's telling him he needs an IG baddy when he's been his happiest with the FWB girls he's messed around with.

His game is weak. That's why he keeps dealing with low quality women who don't have many quality options.

Men with naturally weak game need to say less or know what you, see if what you want, wants you and let her know where you stand and that you are best decision she will make in her life and actually mean it too. Don't just say it.

 

[Digital Omen]

I bushed 2 FWBs cuz one got too clingy on some let's date and I was like let's not. I've been down that road and it didn't end well so I deaded that. Told her I'm on my own trip after coming back from Europe, FOH in so many words.
The other one was more a mutual parting of the ways. Last time we fukked was about 3 months ago and she told me she had started messing with some Arab dude. I instantly had visions of Dubai shyt trips so I was out.

Now I'm just fukkin my ex, on some FWB shyt. The game is the game...

 

[ItsPeople]

The elephant in the room is a lot of us are having sex with woman to feed our egos.

So many of us lie to ourselves and mess around with women we say we're not attracted to then make excuse after excuse.

I know a few guys like this, but one of my closest friend for example has never had a girlfriend, but in the last 7 years he's been interested in 12 women. 5/12 we're friends with benefits and it's the same story.

FWB-> they catch feelings, he's happy -> he catches feelings -> they play too much, he's not happy -> they catch feelings, they leave him because he doesn't wanna date... And they're never his type apparently, and only messes with them because that's all he can get at the moment


Then the other 7 he says he likes and are his type. Never like him back, and it always crushes him.

1. Sexy Caribbean girl he lost his v to, when you read between the lines she just wanted to fukk but he thinks women fukk to date or some bs lol.
2. Fat white girl, FWB situ
3. Fat white girl with kids, FWB situ
4. Fat east African girl with kids, FWB situ
5. Sexy Indian, his type but she didn't like him back
6. Sexy Asian, his type but didn't like him back
7. Sexy west African girl, his type but didn't like him back
8. Currently a fat south African girl with kids and a husband, FWB situ
9. Sexy north African, his type but didn't like him back
10. A white grandma, FWB situ
11. Currently Sexy east African girl, his type...that lives in another city lol
12. Currently a Sexy Caribbean girl who's engaged... His type but doesn't like him back.

My guys not a ugly dude by any means since he's always pulling women. His ego's telling him he needs an IG baddy when he's been his happiest with the FWB girls he's messed around with.

No 8. and 10.

Now he blasts off in one of them and now them other brehs are raising kids that’s not theirs.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

The elephant in the room is a lot of us are having sex with woman to feed our egos.

So many of us lie to ourselves and mess around with women we say we're not attracted to then make excuse after excuse.

I know a few guys like this, but one of my closest friend for example has never had a girlfriend, but in the last 7 years he's been interested in 12 women. 5/12 we're friends with benefits and it's the same story.

FWB-> they catch feelings, he's happy -> he catches feelings -> they play too much, he's not happy -> they catch feelings, they leave him because he doesn't wanna date... And they're never his type apparently, and only messes with them because that's all he can get at the moment


Then the other 7 he says he likes and are his type. Never like him back, and it always crushes him.

1. Sexy Caribbean girl he lost his v to, when you read between the lines she just wanted to fukk but he thinks women fukk to date or some bs lol.
2. Fat white girl, FWB situ
3. Fat white girl with kids, FWB situ
4. Fat east African girl with kids, FWB situ
5. Sexy Indian, his type but she didn't like him back
6. Sexy Asian, his type but didn't like him back
7. Sexy west African girl, his type but didn't like him back
8. Currently a fat south African girl with kids and a husband, FWB situ
9. Sexy north African, his type but didn't like him back
10. A white grandma, FWB situ
11. Currently Sexy east African girl, his type...that lives in another city lol
12. Currently a Sexy Caribbean girl who's engaged... His type but doesn't like him back.

My guys not a ugly dude by any means since he's always pulling women. His ego's telling him he needs an IG baddy when he's been his happiest with the FWB girls he's messed around with.

Damn… seems like his real type is Fat

 

[shopthatwrecks]

We like to keep it cordial :.. been like that for 10yrs

 

[Sleepy Floyd]

You don't want to work for anything which is why you try to sell women the "love connection" fantasy and "mutually beneficial" BS that you just tried to sell me.

Yes you take the easy route when available. But you all are looking for more than sex, correct? Men use women for tons of reasons.

So when a woman can't provide you with anything beyond sex you use her for that especially when it's easy and then use the rest of your energy to find women you can use in multiple ways or just keep the seperate women for different objectives.

So to expound on my original statement, men will use women for sex because it is easy (and ya'll need sex in ways that women don’t) but if he is having casual sex with her he's already determined that that is all he can use her for and therefore will use her to get that need met while he attempts to find a better deal or different traits in another woman/other women.

Ah now it makes sense. You just told on yourself.

YOU allow men to use YOU for sex, then you get mad when he dumps you for a woman he actually wants to be in a relationship with. It's clear that you allow men to use you and you stay quiet hoping that it turns into a serious relationship.

You need therapy but you also need to learn how to communicate clearly, and have more self-esteem. If you're interested in pursuing a serious relationship then that's a conversation you need to have with a man before you have sex with him

 

[re'up]

The validation thing is apart of it. My friends go out 5X a week to try and meet women, but once they do, they have no idea where to go from there.

They treat the one night stands with contempt, they treat the ones they actually go on a date with as disposable, and complain and say they have no women in their lives

and then go out and repeat the same cycle.

For me, I know at least 3-5 to hit up at any given time, I may not get exactly what I want, but I can at least hit someone up.

 

[Givethanks]

His game is weak. That's why he keeps dealing with low quality women who don't have many quality options.

Men with naturally weak game need to say less or know what you, see if what you want, wants you and let her know where you stand and that you are best decision she will make in her life and actually mean it too. Don't just say it.

I wouldn't say his game is weak, he's getting women he likes, it's just he "thinks" he needs some glamourous woman to make him happy.

There's something for everyone, I knew dope boys/scammers who only date exotic strippers, that's their lane right.

No 8. and 10.

Now he blasts off in one of them and now them other brehs are raising kids that’s not theirs.

I'm saying man, but what's fukked up is no.8 kind of bushed him and wants to work things out apparently with her "bum ass husband that doesn't do anything around the house or work a full-time job"... Mind you she gave him kids, currently married and lives in the same house with that bum ass man that doesn't do anything around the house or work a full-time job

Damn… seems like his real type is Fat

It is, and that what he likes and makes him happy but he feels like he needs something that he never had in his life.

 

[maxamusa]

The elephant in the room is a lot of us are having sex with woman to feed our egos.

So many of us lie to ourselves and mess around with women we say we're not attracted to then make excuse after excuse.

I know a few guys like this, but one of my closest friend for example has never had a girlfriend, but in the last 7 years he's been interested in 12 women. 5/12 we're friends with benefits and it's the same story.

FWB-> they catch feelings, he's happy -> he catches feelings -> they play too much, he's not happy -> they catch feelings, they leave him because he doesn't wanna date... And they're never his type apparently, and only messes with them because that's all he can get at the moment


Then the other 7 he says he likes and are his type. Never like him back, and it always crushes him.

1. Sexy Caribbean girl he lost his v to, when you read between the lines she just wanted to fukk but he thinks women fukk to date or some bs lol.
2. Fat white girl, FWB situ
3. Fat white girl with kids, FWB situ
4. Fat east African girl with kids, FWB situ
5. Sexy Indian, his type but she didn't like him back
6. Sexy Asian, his type but didn't like him back
7. Sexy west African girl, his type but didn't like him back
8. Currently a fat south African girl with kids and a husband, FWB situ
9. Sexy north African, his type but didn't like him back
10. A white grandma, FWB situ
11. Currently Sexy east African girl, his type...that lives in another city lol
12. Currently a Sexy Caribbean girl who's engaged... His type but doesn't like him back.

My guys not a ugly dude by any means since he's always pulling women. His ego's telling him he needs an IG baddy when he's been his happiest with the FWB girls he's messed around with.

a lot of people use sex as a vice. straight up. people who are provocative like that usually have deep emotional trauma.

 

[Denzel_Saucegton]

The elephant in the room is a lot of us are having sex with woman to feed our egos.

So many of us lie to ourselves and mess around with women we say we're not attracted to then make excuse after excuse.

I know a few guys like this, but one of my closest friend for example has never had a girlfriend, but in the last 7 years he's been interested in 12 women. 5/12 we're friends with benefits and it's the same story.

FWB-> they catch feelings, he's happy -> he catches feelings -> they play too much, he's not happy -> they catch feelings, they leave him because he doesn't wanna date... And they're never his type apparently, and only messes with them because that's all he can get at the moment


Then the other 7 he says he likes and are his type. Never like him back, and it always crushes him.

1. Sexy Caribbean girl he lost his v to, when you read between the lines she just wanted to fukk but he thinks women fukk to date or some bs lol.
2. Fat white girl, FWB situ
3. Fat white girl with kids, FWB situ
4. Fat east African girl with kids, FWB situ
5. Sexy Indian, his type but she didn't like him back
6. Sexy Asian, his type but didn't like him back
7. Sexy west African girl, his type but didn't like him back
8. Currently a fat south African girl with kids and a husband, FWB situ
9. Sexy north African, his type but didn't like him back
10. A white grandma, FWB situ
11. Currently Sexy east African girl, his type...that lives in another city lol
12. Currently a Sexy Caribbean girl who's engaged... His type but doesn't like him back.

My guys not a ugly dude by any means since he's always pulling women. His ego's telling him he needs an IG baddy when he's been his happiest with the FWB girls he's messed around with.

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

You don't want to work for anything which is why you try to sell women the "love connection" fantasy and "mutually beneficial" BS that you just tried to sell me.

Yes you take the easy route when available. But you all are looking for more than sex, correct? Men use women for tons of reasons.

So when a woman can't provide you with anything beyond sex you use her for that especially when it's easy and then use the rest of your energy to find women you can use in multiple ways or just keep the seperate women for different objectives.

So to expound on my original statement, men will use women for sex because it is easy (and ya'll need sex in ways that women don’t) but if he is having casual sex with her he's already determined that that is all he can use her for and therefore will use her to get that need met while he attempts to find a better deal or different traits in another woman/other women.

You're absolutely right but here's the thing.... She's a grown ass woman herself. Unless you flat out lying to her and promising her more, she's staying for some reason? All the sex can't be more beneficial to the man. Some of these women having the squirts of their lives.. Some is enjoying the companionship.. Some are waiting for him to change his mind...


But we gotta get off this notion that women are helpless or dumb, and don't know and accept exactly what's going on for their own benefit as well

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

The elephant in the room is a lot of us are having sex with woman to feed our egos.

So many of us lie to ourselves and mess around with women we say we're not attracted to then make excuse after excuse.

I know a few guys like this, but one of my closest friend for example has never had a girlfriend, but in the last 7 years he's been interested in 12 women. 5/12 we're friends with benefits and it's the same story.

FWB-> they catch feelings, he's happy -> he catches feelings -> they play too much, he's not happy -> they catch feelings, they leave him because he doesn't wanna date... And they're never his type apparently, and only messes with them because that's all he can get at the moment


Then the other 7 he says he likes and are his type. Never like him back, and it always crushes him.

1. Sexy Caribbean girl he lost his v to, when you read between the lines she just wanted to fukk but he thinks women fukk to date or some bs lol.
2. Fat white girl, FWB situ
3. Fat white girl with kids, FWB situ
4. Fat east African girl with kids, FWB situ
5. Sexy Indian, his type but she didn't like him back
6. Sexy Asian, his type but didn't like him back
7. Sexy west African girl, his type but didn't like him back
8. Currently a fat south African girl with kids and a husband, FWB situ
9. Sexy north African, his type but didn't like him back
10. A white grandma, FWB situ
11. Currently Sexy east African girl, his type...that lives in another city lol
12. Currently a Sexy Caribbean girl who's engaged... His type but doesn't like him back.

My guys not a ugly dude by any means since he's always pulling women. His ego's telling him he needs an IG baddy when he's been his happiest with the FWB girls he's messed around with.

Holding onto a 5 while searching for a 10 is a key part of a man's fukkup in life.. Eventually he'll open his eyes and see his happiest moments aren't with the best looking ones... And 90% of couples aren't two 10's together.. It's regular ass average people. Those people you look and say "what are they doing together" are happy as fukk and don't care about what you think

When you find THAT... You'll realize looks don't matter as long as YOU like how she looks

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

You're absolutely right but here's the thing.... She's a grown ass woman herself. Unless you flat out lying to her and promising her more, she's staying for some reason? All the sex can't be more beneficial to the man. Some of these women having the squirts of their lives.. Some is enjoying the companionship.. Some are waiting for him to change his mind...


But we gotta get off this notion that women are helpless or dumb, and don't know and accept exactly what's going on for their own benefit as well

You could make the same arguement for a lot of different people who get the short end of the stick, no? If that's the case then no adult could ever be a victim of anything if no one "forced" them, right?

If women actually understood the nature of men the world would look completely different, which is why as women gain their independence all over the world, they're moving further and further away from men. It's a global trend.

So while I won't say women are "helpless and dumb" most are extremely delusional and limited in their understanding of the world because we are force fed that men are somehow better than us or something to aspire to have from birth. Both are complete lies.

Even the benefits you posted aren't real benefits. Women don't need men to squirt nor for companionship. Those are 2 things you can get without the additional burdens of having to expose yourself to pregnancy, diseases and the drama that comes with coupling with men.

And yes the "waiting" is part of the delusion. But you already know this. If the woman waiting wasn't brainwashed into thinking a man choosing her would validate her then she wouldn't wait.

The only way most of ya'll get sex or even chose is because you play into the societal delusion of women and ya'll know that shyt. Take away the delusion of romance and most men would die virgins.

People should be held independently accountable, yes, but for a societal POV, most women are completely in the dark. Men too really but we're talking about women.