Why Does the Group w/ the Least Assets List Asset Forfeiture as the Main Reason not to Marry?

[Queen]

Who posted disparaging remarks about black women?

tr.v. dis·par·aged, dis·par·ag·ing, dis·par·ag·es
1. To speak of in a slighting or disrespectful way.
2. To reduce in esteem or rank.

Did you post in this thread to affirm the desirability, femininity, and excellence of the black woman, or was your intention the opposite?

Or will you argue that you are just stating "facts" but then get mad when "facts" are posted that don't work in the black mans favor?

 

[bcrusaderw]

How about those broke nuhs who use RELIGION to try to have more than one wife????

I'm like YOU CAN'T EVEN SUPPORT YOURSELF, But you want multiple wives and kids??? #HowSway

Or they'll say, "It's the African way..."

#StopItSlime

I know men from Africa making $200K who will tell you anything more than one wife is .

#BrokeNuhLogic

Do you think that it's all just a cover for black males not being interested in monogamy, and with marriage being the ultimate form of monogamy their apprehension to it is understandable?

 

[bcrusaderw]

tr.v. dis·par·aged, dis·par·ag·ing, dis·par·ag·es
1. To speak of in a slighting or disrespectful way.
2. To reduce in esteem or rank.

Did you post in this thread to affirm the desirability, femininity, and excellence of the black woman, or was your intention the opposite?

Or will you argue that you are just stating "facts" but then get mad when "facts" are posted that don't work in the black mans favor?

 

[William F. Russell]

tr.v. dis·par·aged, dis·par·ag·ing, dis·par·ag·es
1. To speak of in a slighting or disrespectful way.
2. To reduce in esteem or rank.

Did you post in this thread to affirm the desirability, femininity, and excellence of the black woman, or was your intention the opposite?

Or will you argue that you are just stating "facts" but then get mad when "facts" are posted that don't work in the black mans favor?

Again, direct me to a post of mine in this thread that disparaged black women in general. :ghostfacestare:

 

[bcrusaderw]

Of course you would word it like that

I'm not against marriage but at the end of the day it's a billion dollar business with less than successful results.. I can't fault someone for being skeptical about wanting to be married for more reasons than just monetary concerns

The results portion is subjective. Every modern successful society was built on an intact family unit. Why is it that black males want to emulate the male-female power dynamics of white patriarchy, but not the family unit portion of it?

 

[Spatial Paradox]

It was made by a lady and the salon is their section.

I know both those things breh

I'm just asking, if this was posed as an honest question, why here? Hell, even if it's just meant to get a rise out of certain people, why here? I mean, if it's meant to be a circle jerk type of topic for the ladies, then it makes sense

But I'm assuming it isn't

For what it's worth, is the topic question mentioned in a study somewhere as the main reason black men give for not getting married?

 

[Queen]

Again, direct me to a post of mine in this thread that disparaged black women in general. :ghostfacestare:

So now it goes from "who posted disparaging remarks about black women" to "where did I disparage black women in general" as if adding those last two words changes the intention of your posts. Any reasonable person above the age of 5 would deduce that the intention of your posts was to be slighting. However, if you disagree, then please address what I asked you which was

tr.v. dis·par·aged, dis·par·ag·ing, dis·par·ag·es
1. To speak of in a slighting or disrespectful way.
2. To reduce in esteem or rank.

Did you post in this thread to affirm the desirability, femininity, and excellence of the black woman, or was your intention the opposite?

Or will you argue that you are just stating "facts" but then get mad when "facts" are posted that don't work in the black mans favor?

 

[.༼-◕_◕-༽.]

Do you think that it's all just a cover for black males not being interested in monogamy, and with marriage being the ultimate form of monogamy their apprehension to it is understandable?

No I don't, I know PLENTY of Black men who are positive towards marriage and family vs. just a handful who are not.

The mature, logical and intelligent man (who has something to offer) is going to realize the cost/benefit analysis of multiple partners (polygamy) is NOT in his favor. That man is not going to recklessly scatter his seed or expose himself to disease. He realizes that there's no winning in roaming around aimlessly.
The intelligent man with something to offer will invest in one set of children with one wife that he's carefully selected for desirability, loyalty and other good qualities.

I don't know too many well accomplished, wealthy, educated men with multiple women... too much headache and risk to his reputation and well being. He understands the importance of BEING a good father and spouse, usually because HIS father was a good father and spouse.

But this is the norm for my world. This is how the men in my circles (family, friends, etc.) operate.

If a man has substantial assets, it's pretty easy to "hide" them in the case of divorce, but a reasonable man doesn't select a woman who he plans to divorce OR who'd take him to the cleaners in the case of divorce.

In order to win in life, one must BE reasonable and even tempered and select partners, associates who are like-minded.

I know a LOT of Black men 30s and up who are high earners, educated and prominent who avoid a perilous lifestyle because it just makes life EASIER to have genial relationships. They don't have random seeds running around and do not expose themselves to situations where they can be destroyed by some random hit & quit situation where the woman caught feelings, etc. They are extremely mindful and cautious about their inner circle.

 

[William F. Russell]

So now it goes from "who posted disparaging remarks about black women" to "where did I disparage black women in general" as if adding those last two words changes the intention of your posts. Any reasonable person above the age of 5 would deduce that the intention of your posts was to be slighting. However, if you disagree, then please address what I asked you which was

I posted multiple sources (upon request) that provided statistics and expounded on how black women are the least likely group of women to be married. Hence, I was posting facts. My intention was to provide context to an otherwise lopsided topic.

 

[bcrusaderw]

No I don't, I know PLENTY of Black men who are positive towards marriage and family vs. just a handful who are not.

The mature, logical and intelligent man (who has something to offer) is going to realize the cost/benefit analysis of multiple partners (polygamy) is NOT in his favor. That man is not going to recklessly scatter his seed or expose himself to disease. He realizes that there's no winning in roaming around aimlessly.
The intelligent man with something to offer will invest in one set of children with one wife that he's carefully selected for desirability, loyalty and other good qualities.

I don't know too many well accomplished, wealthy, educated men with multiple women... too much headache and risk to his reputation and well being. He understands the importance of BEING a good father and spouse, usually because HIS father was a good father and spouse.

But this is the norm for my world. This is how the men in my circles (family, friends, etc.) operate.

If a man has substantial assets, it's pretty easy to "hide" them in the case of divorce, but a reasonable man doesn't select a woman who he plans to divorce OR who'd take him to the cleaners in the case of divorce.

In order to win in life, one must BE reasonable and even tempered and select partners, associates who are like-minded.

I know a LOT of Black men 30s and up who are high earners, educated and prominent who avoid a perilous lifestyle because it just makes life EASIER to have genial relationships. They don't have random seeds running around and do not expose themselves to situations where they can be destroyed by some random hit & quit situation where the woman caught feelings, etc. They are extremely mindful and cautious about their inner circle.

Thank you for actually responding with nonemotional response.

 

[thewiz]

The results portion is subjective. Every modern successful society was built on an intact family unit. Why is it that black males want to emulate the male-female power dynamics of white patriarchy, but not the family unit portion of it?

I know it's subjective, that's why I said for more reasons than monetary concerns but in this day and age marriage is damn near considered a joke and just a business contract... people don't even attempt to work marital problems out and there's people getting married 3, 4 times. Not even about to go in depth but the socio economic conditions of blacks is the cause of limited family unity.. you tend to only look at the effects of things rather than the cause

 

[bcrusaderw]

I know it's subjective, that's why I said for more reasons than monetary concerns but in this day and age marriage is damn near considered a joke and just a business contract... people don't even attempt to work marital problems out and there's people getting married 3, 4 times. Not even about to go in depth but the socio economic conditions of blacks is the cause of limited family unity.. you tend to only look at the effects of things rather than the cause

Blacks were poorer when they had higher rates of marriage though, so perhaps you aren't determining the right causes for things.

 

[Queen]

I posted multiple sources (upon request) that provided statistics and expounded on how black women are the least likely group of women to be married. Hence, I was posting facts. My intention was to provide context to an otherwise lopsided topic.

So the answer is essentially option 2.

Or will you argue that you are just stating "facts" but then get mad when "facts" are posted that don't work in the black mans favor?

You and @bcrusaderw should get along perfectly because she does an excellent job of posting facts about black men on this lopsided forum that seeks to blame black women for all the ills of the world.

I hope you strongly defend her right to post these facts when posters accuse her of being disparaging towards black men. I think there may have even been in a post in this very thread that alluded to her style. You should really tell that poster to stop being so emotional because the only purpose of her posting facts is to provide context.

 

[bcrusaderw]

I know both those things breh

I'm just asking, if this was posed as an honest question, why here? Hell, even if it's just meant to get a rise out of certain people, why here? I mean, if it's meant to be a circle jerk type of topic for the ladies, then it makes sense

But I'm assuming it isn't

For what it's worth, is the topic question mentioned in a study somewhere as the main reason black men give for not getting married?

Why not here?

 

[thewiz]

Blacks were poorer when they had higher rates of marriage though, so perhaps you aren't determining the right causes for things.

Socio economics deals with more than just wealth...