Vodun
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What's crazy she should be resentful and Disrespectful to the men who SHE is attracted to who don't find her attractive. Human nature is fukked up fr fr
why do women punish the men they settle for?
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There's a concept that humans are very naturally pulled to, where your brain gets so used to something, it stops being grateful in a sense.
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the concept is called hedonic adaptation. I think this much more applicable than who s"settled" and attraction and all that. Because probably all of us have experienced this, even if we aren't married.
Hedonic adaptation is an adaptation-level phenomenon, which is a term that describes how humans become insensitive to new stimuli, and quickly readjust to an emotional baseline. Therefore, the stimulus needed to create an emotion—like happiness or excitement—needs to be more intense than the last stimulus in order for someone to feel its effects
Defining the Hedonic Treadmill
Hedonic adaptation or “the hedonic treadmill” are terms that define how people generally return to the same level of happiness despite their circumstances.
the concept is called hedonic adaptation. I think this much more applicable than who s"settled" and attraction and all that. Because probably all of us have experienced this, even if we aren't married.
Hedonic adaptation is an adaptation-level phenomenon, which is a term that describes how humans become insensitive to new stimuli, and quickly readjust to an emotional baseline. Therefore, the stimulus needed to create an emotion—like happiness or excitement—needs to be more intense than the last stimulus in order for someone to feel its effects
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What's crazy she should be resentful and Disrespectful to the men who SHE is attracted to who don't find her attractive. Human nature is fukked up fr fr
Lol the men find her attractive enough to smash. They’re just not willing and/or able to commit. She should really be resentful to her parents and older relatives who didn’t put her on game when she was young.
And this is why divorce rates be high especially in the our community
How many of these dudes sold dreams, sent their representative, and pretended to be a diamond but was actually a cubic zirconia? When the woman realized what is actually what, could resentment set in then? I would imagine that it would.
Just wondering about other angles...
Hell, I want Denzel Washington but he's married. I have sense not resent a man [good man] that isn't him though. I chose.
Just wondering about other angles...
Hell, I want Denzel Washington but he's married. I have sense not resent a man [good man] that isn't him though. I chose.
I think this thread is referring to the men that a lot of women settle for when they get older and stop dealing with the dudes who sold them dreams. The trade off is usually the types of men they “settle” for are honest and decent men but they aren’t their type as far as physical attraction.
That's ridiculous, unless they only dated for a few months I don't see how a women wouldn't know what type of dude she's with by the time they married.
I agree with whoever said that both men and women settle, women just tend to be more resentful about it if they feel they could've done better. Women tend to spend their whole lives dreaming about their wedding and future family, so when that doesn't work out the way they imagined it's easy to see where the resentment comes from. Men just aren't as invested in the concept to start with and usually just get pressured into it.
It's kind of why women initiate most divorces.
That could be the case for a few, indeed.
But for sweeping generalizations, that would mean the women had arrested development, never matured / grew mentally, or has no emotional intelligence...
UnQuantized
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It's 2024 if you are not aware of female nature, you can't be helped. It's either truly ignorant men or men who are aware but have a saviour complex. Many breh's have guil tripped and gaslighted into dveloping a saviour complex. Decades of criticism has pushed those not strong enough to not care into a corner to gain approval.
And you are ridiculous if you think that people don't front, lie, and pretend for...years.
Don't let it be lost on you that it is a fact that you never really know a person.
But keep your narrative if it works for you.
cyndaquil
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This is true if they were happy I'm the first place and lost it. These women were never happy. It explains why some people are married happily for 20 years then cheat out of nowhere tho. We gotta practice gratitude everyday for realThere's a concept that humans are very naturally pulled to, where your brain gets so used to something, it stops being grateful in a sense.
Defining the Hedonic Treadmill
Hedonic adaptation or “the hedonic treadmill” are terms that define how people generally return to the same level of happiness despite their circumstances.
the concept is called hedonic adaptation. I think this much more applicable than who s"settled" and attraction and all that. Because probably all of us have experienced this, even if we aren't married.
Hedonic adaptation is an adaptation-level phenomenon, which is a term that describes how humans become insensitive to new stimuli, and quickly readjust to an emotional baseline. Therefore, the stimulus needed to create an emotion—like happiness or excitement—needs to be more intense than the last stimulus in order for someone to feel its effects
Cause she knows she didn’t “settle”. She found her real level