Why do college educated black women seemingly, immediately write off blue collar black men?

[Coco Loco]

Did yall queens speak on. The topic @HarlemHottie @Gloxina @Coco Loco

No, most of the things I wanted to say have been said

My overwhelming opinion is it depends on the woman. I know women who've never been interested in blue collar men. I know women who've dated both

Also, I was born and raised in DC. I've seen all kinds of relationship dynamics. Therefore, I don't put people in boxes based on their income/profession

 

[Rekkapryde]

Yeah I know a recently retired Longshoreman who’s son is trying to get into the game.

Hours are based on senority so a newbie is getting short hours and busting ass while doing it.

Yup, getting picked is hard. But if you do and get dem hours.

 

[Fanservice]

Where are you getting this information from? There are loads of black nurses taking care of bum nikkas and getting seeded up by them, instead of Urkel with a STEM degree.

Don’t believe that “Tupac in a Business Suit” fantasy on social media. Women say a lot of shyt online and do the opposite irl

 

[Wiseborn]

No, most of the things I wanted to say have been said

My overwhelming opinion is it depends on the woman. I know women who've never been interested in blue collar men. I know women who've dated both

Also, I was born and raised in DC. I've seen all kinds of relationship dynamics. Therefore, I don't put people in boxes based on their income/profession

Yeah even I’m Generalizing to make a point and using personal examples.

Seriously shout out to Coli brehettes they kinda seem to understand that a lot of shyt is hyperbole.

I watch a fair amount Divestor promotion and said several times that most Black women will deal with a cac.

But it could be like @DrexlersFade talking about Pawgset while damn near every women he’s ever seen as been Black.

 

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

exactly.

The Black woman rattled off her accomplishments to flex but the point of her Tik Tok was her crying in the car.

Imagine a Man rattling off his resume when meeting a bytch saying in the Club that he made partner of his firm at 30 or something she’d say Good for you nikka do you need a holiday in your honor?

None of anyone’s accomplishments means that they’re a good person or a good partner or that they’ll even keep their good job.

But most black men are not offering the option of their wives staying home, regardless of income. So if the woman is expected to work full time, and contribute to the bills, she’s not going to be as focused on recipes and childcare books. This is where black men can be delusional. We want the housewife who works. Even white women who stay home have said it feels like their husband is another child, and they have to do all the housework, and childcare alone, and clean up after the man.

But I’m seeing a lot of women of all races talking about regretting having children, and a lot of couples are choosing to go childfree. I think the pushing of feminism has women thinking they’re wrong to want to be wives and mothers. Women get shamed for wanting to be stay at home moms and homemakers. Now, every woman needs to be a boss bytch, and a CEO.

 

[HabitualChiller]

For some, it’s not just a money thing, it’s socio-cultural. Going to college changed me and opened me up to a lot of new people, places and things. I was a very different person leaving Stanford than I was entering as a 18 yr old from Oakland. Blue collar workers don’t often have that exposure and it leads to being incompatible beyond surface topics.


Additionally, regardless of education, most women want to marry up, or at least at par, most wouldn’t feel they are doing that by marrying a blue collar dude

Great post.

 

[Dallas' 4 Eva]

What does that have to do with getting married? You can be an active and involved father and still not be married to the child’s mother.

Most blue collar black men are not thinking about getting married in their 20s.

All the black electricians on my job site are or were married before they were 30 and paid most if not all the bills. You be posting some wild shyt bro, blue collar men are more likely to marry younger than white collar men I can almost guarantee that is a fact.

 

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

Yeah even I’m Generalizing to make a point and using personal examples.

Seriously shout out to Coli brehettes they kinda seem to understand that a lot of shyt is hyperbole.

I watch a fair amount Divestor promotion and said several times that most Black women will deal with a cac.

But it could be like @DrexlersFade talking about Pawgset while damn near every women he’s ever seen as been Black.

I’m not seeing a lot of young black woman, white male couples when I’m out locally. Most of those couples are middle aged. It’s usually a couple who both had kids by their own races, and are divorced. I had two friends in elementary school whose mother’s married white men, and “saved them”. But they weren’t poor. We went to Catholic school.

 

[The_Sheff]

Because they listening to some sheister telling them they need to be “equally yoked” in a relationship and they take that as in formal education as well.

 

[Wiseborn]

But most black men are not offering the option of their wives staying home, regardless of income. So if the woman is expected to work full time, and contribute to the bills, she’s not going to be as focused on recipes and childcare books. This is where black men can be delusional. We want the housewife who works. Even white women who stay home have said it feels like their husband is another child, and they have to do all the housework, and childcare alone, and clean up after the man.

But I’m seeing a lot of women of all races talking about regretting having children, and a lot of couples are choosing to go childfree. I think the pushing of feminism has women thinking they’re wrong to want to be wives and mothers. Women get shamed for wanting to be stay at home moms and homemakers. Now, every woman needs to be a boss bytch, and a CEO.

Damn homie Miss Ann sydndrome all over this motherfukker.

Women worked since WWI and massive inflation in the 60’s deaded the stay at home wife for middle class Men.

Men ain’t trying to keep women in the crib and women don’t want to be in the crib so what’s the problem?

Middle class women aint buying dikk from Blue collar or white collar Men generally speaking and if they divorce if the woman wants a payout she can activate that.

Why all the criticism for Black Men specifically? We got a case where a cracker might have clapped a Indian chick and or left her to drown but Black Men are seen as monsters by you.

 

[Wiseborn]

Great post.

I’ll admit that culture matters.

 

[RedCloakBlackWraithe]

perceived class differences. women are crazy. they care more about what their friends think of you than your character and way you treat them. shyt is annoying. so yeah when dealing with em always hide any clues to your pocket's health they will key in on it and partially make their decision based on it. wickedness.

 

[Wiseborn]

All the black electricians on my job site are or were married before they were 30 and paid most if not all the bills. You be posting some wild shyt bro, blue collar men are more likely to marry younger than white collar men I can almost guarantee that is a fact.

Blue collar Men of all races are more traditional.

Someone has to work the weird hours most women would rather focus on kids rather than work 80 hour weeks all things being considered.

 

[Wiseborn]

I’m not seeing a lot of young black woman, white male couples when I’m out locally. Most of those couples are middle aged. It’s usually a couple who both had kids by their own races, and are divorced. I had two friends in elementary school whose mother’s married white men, and “saved them”. But they weren’t poor. We went to Catholic school.

I thought you said in another thread that Black women were bushing Black Men now it’s old women and white boys playing simp step daddy?

I’d say most Men draw the line at selecting simp daddy status for children of other races. That one breh who shyts on Black single mothers being the exception.

 

[horizon]

This is a crazy statement I know plenty of sisters that bust their ass in school and went on to do white collar work

Especially millennial black women as they’re were an abundance of grants available to them to use for college

You think every black woman at college comes from a 2 parent household?

Or perhaps you think people from broken homes are lesser than or something huh ?

You can take your hurt feelings and shove them up your ass