Why do a lot of married men seem so miserable?

[Sonic Boom of the South]

I remember my senior year of high school
I worked the summer at the lumber mill my pops worked at

And all the married dudes kept giving me speeches about
Never getting married
And how the husband has to sacrifice his happiness just to keep the wife from being a bytch

1 nikka damm near had tears in his eyes talking to me


nikka was like
His wife a bytch even though he buy her everything
His kids was a$$holes cause he always at work to provide
So they constantly only with the wife and look at her for communication and emotional support

nikka said the only reason he aint killed himself or his wife was cause he was cheating

 

[Shadow King]

This is the most toxic mindset to have regarding marriage. Happy wife, happy life will make everyone miserable.

It's cultivated in society though.

 

[EffYou]

Look.
I've been married TWICE. and DIVORCED TWICE.

This is my advice. Do with it what you will.

Take love and all that nonsense out of it. Let women make decisions like that. As a man you can not afford to.

Ask yourself is this woman really compatible with me? Can I stand to talk to her when she's not nekkid? Does she have anything beyond gossip and tv shows to talk about? What does she want out of life? Whatever your sex life is LIKE NOW...understand that it WILL slow down once she has you committed. I don't know why women do this but they do. This is not a myth.

I repeat. Do NOT get married for love. You will lose.

That's all I have for you.

Third times the charm, try again

 

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

Third times the charm, try again

Maybe....

I'll never say never. But she will definitely be special....and it won't be because she got a plate ass....

 

[Paper Boi]

fukk

 

[ba'al]

 

[Stir Fry]

I'm 15 years deep and still happy. Wish I got laid a little more often, but it's still more than a lot of folks are getting these days. I still get my back and feet rubbed damn near everyday so it makes up for it in my eyes

 

[KBtheKey]

Look.
I've been married TWICE. and DIVORCED TWICE.

This is my advice. Do with it what you will.

Take love and all that nonsense out of it. Let women make decisions like that. As a man you can not afford to.

Ask yourself is this woman really compatible with me? Can I stand to talk to her when she's not nekkid? Does she have anything beyond gossip and tv shows to talk about? What does she want out of life? Whatever your sex life is LIKE NOW...understand that it WILL slow down once she has you committed. I don't know why women do this but they do. This is not a myth.

I repeat. Do NOT get married for love. You will lose.

That's all I have for you.

I disagree. Love is necessary in any relationship. The thing is love shouldn't blind you. Every what if is a very possible situation, and you have to be mentally and emotionally prepared for whatever comes, but not to the point that it has an effect on how you operate in the relationship. And there's nothing wrong with dropping hints that you not gone go for any mistreatment.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with loving your partner. I encourage it. shyt there's people that loved family members and those same family members did them the worst way with no type of reasonable cause

 

[YouMadd?]

they have regret… they didn’t get to soak their oats, their wives got fat, they aren’t allowed to do the hobbies that they love….

Basically they thought getting a wife would save them from something….

 

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

I disagree. Love is necessary in any relationship. The thing is love shouldn't blind you. Every what if is a very possible situation, and you have to be mentally and emotionally prepared for whatever comes, but not to the point that it has an effect on how you operate in the relationship. And there's nothing wrong with dropping hints that you not gone go for any mistreatment.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with loving your partner. I encourage it. shyt there's people that loved family members and those same family members did them the worst way with no type of reasonable cause

I didn't say to not love your partner.
I said that that shouldn't be the reason you get married

 

[Scustin Bieburr]

People get married for the wrong reasons. Most people do it because that's what you're 'supposed' to do and not because they feel they truly know the person and are on the same page about most things.

 

[Shadow King]

I wouldn't say miserable per se. But being a desirable, yet married man comes with a lot of temptation. Especially a black man.

Swear to God I'm not trying to boast, but being a handsome, 6 figure breh isn't the flex you think it is when you can't act on the attention. Women understandably hate to hear that shyt but being faithful when it's thrown at you constantly goes against everything your brain is telling you to do. It's not as simple as "Love shoulda brought you home."

Say you're not trying to boast while boasting, brehs.

You gave up that said freedom so pay the price

 

[Hagendas]

Can’t remember where I heard it but the quote goes

“ marriage was a good idea when the life expectancy was 30 years”

 

[AQz]

I think there are various reasons but it mostly boils down to

Getting married for the wrong reasons in the first place or wrong time.

 

[KBtheKey]

I didn't say to not love your partner.
I said that that shouldn't be the reason you get married

I kinda blanket everything under love, because in my opinion if you love someone then that means you appreciate everything about them and accept whatever flaws they have