Why do a lot of married men seem so miserable?

[Tribal Outkast]

Poor judgement. If you're not having fun in your marriage, it's prolly your own fault. Some spouses don't know how to spend time together while also spending time doing their own things.
Can't always be up under a mf and can't always do what you wanna do when you wanna do it. Can't always expect them to do what you want them to do. Can't kill yourself tryna do everything to please them, that's more stressful than helpful. Can't get mad when you don't get your way, that's childish. Gotta realize the difference between mad and upset/sad and tired and know how to convey and receive emotions accurately. Etc.

That's only a portion of the basic things you learn about each other over time, ideally without having to talk about em. The quicker you learn how to make sacrifices and meet in the middle, the smoother it will be years down the line.

Real talk. People make it seem like marriage is so hard. It’s really not if you find the right person. The hard part is finding the person you described in your post.. .Lord knows I went through a rough one before I found my wife I’m thankful everyday that I dodged that bullet.

 

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

Look.
I've been married TWICE. and DIVORCED TWICE.

This is my advice. Do with it what you will.

Take love and all that nonsense out of it. Let women make decisions like that. As a man you can not afford to.

Ask yourself is this woman really compatible with me? Can I stand to talk to her when she's not nekkid? Does she have anything beyond gossip and tv shows to talk about? What does she want out of life? Whatever your sex life is LIKE NOW...understand that it WILL slow down once she has you committed. I don't know why women do this but they do. This is not a myth.

I repeat. Do NOT get married for love. You will lose.

That's all I have for you.

 

[The ADD]

Look.
I've been married TWICE. and DIVORCED TWICE.

This is my advice. Do with it what you will.

Take love and all that nonsense out of it. Let women make decisions like that. As a man you can not afford to.

Ask yourself is this woman really compatible with me? Can I stand to talk to her when she's not nekkid? Does she have anything beyond gossip and tv shows to talk about? What does she want out of life? Whatever your sex life is LIKE NOW...understand that it WILL slow down once she has you committed. I don't know why women do this but they do. This is not a myth.

I repeat. Do NOT get married for love. You will lose.

That's all I have for you.

 

[l3lackstarr]

The healthiest relationship I know of, is of a good friend of mine. The thing is.. they aren't married and don't plan on it. They have been together for 7 years, live together, and have a child. They take care of each other and keep it pushing. Now of course I don't know all of what happens behind closed doors, but anytime I've seen things possibly get heated, they handle it swiftly. It seems that it only gets there because of their family and other friends STILL pressuring them about marriage. It's pretty stupid.

It's very interesting to see how they maneuver. It's an actual level of mental maturity I don't see often. I also don't see them as a one off. I feel like it could be like this...but how things are now, it may be impossible for most to even fathom a long lasting relationship that doesn't include marriage. I'm happy for them.

 

[africngiant]

she belawns to the strEetz !

 

[Shadow King]

Happy wife happy life says nothing about a happy husband.

 

[trap101-ETHout-Allegri-In]

They feel trapped. The grass isn't greener on the other side. It's greener where you water it.

 

[Caponeflowers]

It's because majority of married men focus on other people's happiness but their own.... men deserve happiness too but somehow society is against that smh

 

[Dallas' 4 Eva]

Happy wife happy life says nothing about a happy husband.

This is the most toxic mindset to have regarding marriage. Happy wife, happy life will make everyone miserable.

 

[Serious]

Look.
I've been married TWICE. and DIVORCED TWICE.

This is my advice. Do with it what you will.

Take love and all that nonsense out of it. Let women make decisions like that. As a man you can not afford to.

Ask yourself is this woman really compatible with me? Can I stand to talk to her when she's not nekkid? Does she have anything beyond gossip and tv shows to talk about? What does she want out of life? Whatever your sex life is LIKE NOW...understand that it WILL slow down once she has you committed. I don't know why women do this but they do. This is not a myth.

I repeat. Do NOT get married for love. You will lose.

That's all I have for you.

@CarmelBarbie @Pseudonym @Hazel Brown @Ashley Banks care to explain


Women slow down sex but then get mad when a dude steps out or cheats….

 

[LowkeyD]

I love being married and I love my life. I like and love my Wife and kids. Been together for 20 years and Married for 14.

 

[ba'al]

I love being married and I love my life. I like and love my Wife and kids.

That's good and I hope it stay like that for you brotha.

 

[Shadow King]

I work in construction and 90% of married dudes I work with talk about their wife like she’s an enemy combatant. Dudes getting married just to be married and not even liking the lady

There's people on here who think if you don't to sign a contract with a woman you're gay. Imagine cats not thinking on a deeper level facing that pressure.

 

[Dallas' 4 Eva]

@CarmelBarbie @Pseudonym @Hazel Brown @Ashley Banks care to explain


Women slow down sex but then get mad when a dude steps out or cheats….

I actually didn't have that problem out of my ex wife. Looking back she's probably a nympho, she wanted to fukk all the time which despite what you think is not a good problem to have.

 

[MajesticLion]

That "suck it up" mentality that's been preached for however long by bird-babble types and their religious co-consipirators has taken it's toll.