It's just one of those double standards breh. Nothing to really worry about.
Why are people harsher on men for our dating choices/history than they are on women?
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MajesticLion
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Because infantilizing women and telling them they're more "in control" because of it is profitable.
What do you mean by “people”?
The dominant political movement in this country (MAGA) is oriented around misogyny. Female traffickers like Andrew Tate and large communities like MGTOW are wildly popular in the manosphere.
If you reject sexism being an issue in America, I’m also guessing you reject anti-black racism being a thing as well.
The dominant political movement in this country (MAGA) is oriented around misogyny. Female traffickers like Andrew Tate and large communities like MGTOW are wildly popular in the manosphere.
If you reject sexism being an issue in America, I’m also guessing you reject anti-black racism being a thing as well.
Chrishaune
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Because women run American men.
Imma be honest mayne people ain't really too hard on my dating choices personally.
And men not really hard on other men choices from what I see in real life outside of maybe your family.
Only single bitter women and family complain about men dating choices. Learning to ignore both will save you a lot of headaches.
And men not really hard on other men choices from what I see in real life outside of maybe your family.
Only single bitter women and family complain about men dating choices. Learning to ignore both will save you a lot of headaches.
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Womb Raider
sigh….*unzips pants*
Double standards
Men are seen as having more agency. Women are seen as being victims of dating in that they don't get to choose who they are with...
CreepyMcCreeperson
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Women are more emotional, and think they can fix men. Once they sleep with you, they feel like they need to make it work, because that’s adding another number, and they don’t want to be alone, and don’t want to find someone else. And you know once people feel comfortable, or get what they want, their true colors come out. Most men aren’t leading with, “I’m broke, or I’m a cheater.” They fake it until she develops feelings, then she doesn’t want to leave, so she thinks if she “builds” with him, he’ll make something of himself, or he’ll change. And don’t y’all get on women for wanting men with money?
With men, we play captain save a ho too, but it’s because she’s usually freaky in bed. We’ve all seen brehs with women who disrespect them, yet they treat her like a queen, and let that woman run his pockets despite her horrible attitude. As for other criticisms, you’ll have a guy who looks like Anthony Anderson, fat Anthony Anderson, but he’ll only want a Meghan Goode. Then when women who look like that reject him, she gets called shallow, and told she’s going to be alone forever, and she deserves to get her heart broken because she wants the man she may sleep with for the rest of her life to be someone she’s attracted to. People usually date on the same level of attractiveness. Nobody is telling gym brehs to date a fat girl, and help her lose weight, or get to know her to see if feelings develop. Meanwhile, attractive women are told to give any man who is nice to her a chance, regardless of his appearance, as if ugly guys have better character.
There’s also that segment of women who are told we don’t want anything serious, but she sticks around anyway as a FWB. In her mind, you’re her man. Sometimes, months later, she’ll freak out, and you have to remind her you’re not in a relationship. This also proves that spending time with someone doesn’t always lead to developing feelings. There has only been one FWB I even considered upgrading to girlfriend, and that was only because I didn’t think anyone else was out there. Then I started dating my wife, and it was a wrap.
Someone can have lots of great qualities, that doesn’t mean you will be attracted to them, or want to be in a relationship. And I think we as men understand that from our perspective, if you’ve ever had a FWB that you didn’t quite want to commit to, despite nothing being wrong with her. It just wasn’t there. On the other hand, y’all get on here every day, and expect women to somehow muster up feelings and attraction to a man, just because he’s nice. At least we experience pleasure every time. They don’t.
With men, we play captain save a ho too, but it’s because she’s usually freaky in bed. We’ve all seen brehs with women who disrespect them, yet they treat her like a queen, and let that woman run his pockets despite her horrible attitude. As for other criticisms, you’ll have a guy who looks like Anthony Anderson, fat Anthony Anderson, but he’ll only want a Meghan Goode. Then when women who look like that reject him, she gets called shallow, and told she’s going to be alone forever, and she deserves to get her heart broken because she wants the man she may sleep with for the rest of her life to be someone she’s attracted to. People usually date on the same level of attractiveness. Nobody is telling gym brehs to date a fat girl, and help her lose weight, or get to know her to see if feelings develop. Meanwhile, attractive women are told to give any man who is nice to her a chance, regardless of his appearance, as if ugly guys have better character.
There’s also that segment of women who are told we don’t want anything serious, but she sticks around anyway as a FWB. In her mind, you’re her man. Sometimes, months later, she’ll freak out, and you have to remind her you’re not in a relationship. This also proves that spending time with someone doesn’t always lead to developing feelings. There has only been one FWB I even considered upgrading to girlfriend, and that was only because I didn’t think anyone else was out there. Then I started dating my wife, and it was a wrap.
Someone can have lots of great qualities, that doesn’t mean you will be attracted to them, or want to be in a relationship. And I think we as men understand that from our perspective, if you’ve ever had a FWB that you didn’t quite want to commit to, despite nothing being wrong with her. It just wasn’t there. On the other hand, y’all get on here every day, and expect women to somehow muster up feelings and attraction to a man, just because he’s nice. At least we experience pleasure every time. They don’t.