CreepyMcCreeperson
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Yes and no tho. The key phrase isnt "physically atractive", just "atractive" in general. I get what @Braman is saying.
You are focusing on one specific kind of atraction, and a lot of woman arent in the market for it. Physical atraction isnt the only factor. Its not even the most important one for many women.
As an analogy, compare the dating matket to vehicle market . If men were cars and you are gauging what makes a buyer atracted to them, yes how they look is one factor, particularly for young buyers. But many buyers are ambivalent to the look and instead prefer performance or safety or trendiness or long term reliability or even just a specific color. By this , i mean that Yes a landrover or porche is physically atractive, but many people that are equally eligible for the good looking cars are more drawn to the corrola for reliability or a jeep for performance or just really like orange jags or the fuel economy of a prius or an f150 for tow capacity or a BYD for technical features.
Women have a very similar market for men. The nerdy girl doesnt want flashy, but wants technical. The heart broken girl wants reliable. The corporate climber doesnt want the good looking, but is atracted to a high performing social peer. The gold digger doesnt want handsome joe, but wants the receding hairline lawyer. Single mother isnt hunting for atractive, but wants a man with the capacity to care for her brood.
Only extremely young women in college or highschool value physical atractiveness to the extent you describe because they havent developed as people yet.
2 things.
First) do you see my last paragraph above about age? This is a huge issue in biological, and psychological research because the most readily accesible study participants tend to be the students of the universities doing the research. This biases a lot of their data when the pool consists almost entirely of 18-23 yr olds.
This is The exact group that values atractiveness because of them being undeveloped post highschool.
Second)
scientific studies on physical atractiveness dont prove anything about the supremacy of good looks because by their nature they can only test one variable at a time. Even if you dealt with age bias, Women are drawn to multiple variables, but the inclusion of them in a single study makes the statistical correlation faulty between individual variables. So you tend to get studies on a specific factor like facial atractiveness. But that one factor is divorced from other variables .
There are other factors covered in seperate papers. For example , i can post any number of R1 research articles on women being drawn to a man's scent (yes you heard me). Or R1 journal entries the atraction of men's voices . Or soceoeconomic atraction to men.
But You would need a wide reaching meta analysis of these variables to claim physical atractiveness is more important than the other factors.
So basically, you’re saying it’s fine for men to approach, and pursue women based on their looks, but women should be open to dating any man, regardless of his looks, as long as he is polite in his approach. Men can be interested based on looks, but a woman who rejects based on looks is wrong, and deserves to be alone. That’s really what y’all want to say in these threads.