It’s not about LEAVING the man who takes care of you. It’s about spending your life with a man who has the intention and has made the effort to do so.
The same way y’all don’t want older women, babymommas, etc and your family tells you to avoid them is the same way families are supposed to tell girls to avoid dudes with nothing much going on.
No man on this forum who has a daughter wants her to align herself with a man who isn’t out here striving for the damn best. Please.
There’s a reason why men who are super successful usually want attractive, relatively young fit women. ARE THOSE MEN ONLY LOOKING FOR LOVE?????! Or are we going to keep it and acknowledge what the sexes want from each other.
When y’all have money and success you are pickier with the women you select. W
A woman’s youth and beauty allow her to be selective. That’s the exact time to be looking for more than just love.
TO KEEP IT REAL THIS IS THE EXACT SHYT I WAS REFERENCING EARLIER HAPPENING IN REAL TIME:
Telling Black women to ignore the resources conversation. This is the shyt young women are told in our community, so girls go for love and personality and 10yrs down the road everyone’s asking you why you had a kid with that guy.
If more girls had the resources talk less of the wrong type of guys would be getting play. This is something Coli brehs been saying and you know what- y’all dudes were right!
My only point has been that Black girls don’t get this conversation in our community until it’s too late!
AND THE PURPOSE OF MY LIFE BESIDES JUST TAKING?
Negro what?
Bearing and REARING children, taking care of the household a husband provides, nurturing a family. TF?
You go conquer your piece of the world so you can choose the girl you want, and marry her when she has displayed desirable traits and the ability to do what I described above.
It’s cool. The only man who would ask something like that is a dude who wasn’t raised with a provider mindset/someone who was raised to value “women’s work” <— which is family/household.
Good day.