I swear I’m not trying to be divisive when I say this

but coming from an African home and seeing how heavy “ADOS” are on that ‘break generational curses” vibe it’s startling
Like of course I get it but…gotdamn EVERYBODY gotta start from scratch and disavow your folks?!
And while that’s happening, the culture is aiding and abetting, giving a false sense of security and unity among ‘everybody black’, as if that can replace family. Even if only on a subconscious level: Shaderoom referring to each other as ‘rooomates’, ‘the cookout’, referring to strangers as ‘family’ just bc they black, celebs completely b*stardizing ‘my brother’

, black women calling each other ‘sis’
Like that’s cool and all but that is NOT the same as real family… but for a younger generation and some older, I really think that subconsciously gives a false sense of security. And of course that security will not be there in real life long term