When your Parents Pass Away and You don't have the LOVE of your own Family... It's going to be UNBEARABLE.

[NoirDynosaur]

A wise man once said "blood doesn't define family" family is based on familial bonds, loyalty and trust.

There's a difference between family and distance relatives.

Not everyone is lucky to have a nurturing family that will care for them. Hence, why they create their own families or seek friends that act as family.

At the end of the day, love yourselves brehs and brehettes

 

[Wild self]

I think men get it, it’s women that are in for a rude awakening.

And guess what, they got something for that too. ‘Break generatioanl curses’ culture, ‘just bc somebody blood don’t mean you have to let them inconvenience you’ culture which is essenty code for ‘don’t let that pesky lil ‘family’ thing stop you from trips and brunches’.

And they don’t gaf about other folk family either. There’s a growing sense of vitriol for men’s mothers, they mad they ‘baby’ them and didn’t stop him from being a player

So I co-sign OP but boy that shyt gon get harder and harder. A lot of women want no parts of what REAL life looks like. To get that you may have to settle in other (looks)departments.

Tell that to the female posters in here that hate the idea of a traditional family structure and living with a man.

 

[CouldntBeMeTho]

T
hats really sad when you think about it.

It's going to be real chaotic for Black people in 20 years when the fatherless generation are the elders.

Look at this shyt. A man froze to death in his car because he had nowhere to go, then his fukking family gets on the news and acts like they're so shocked.

 

[Elim Garak]

I'm sorry but I'm not getting married or having kids just so I have someone to burden lmao.

 

[TheGreatMTB]

I think men get it, it’s women that are in for a rude awakening.

And guess what, they got something for that too. ‘Break generatioanl curses’ culture, ‘just bc somebody blood don’t mean you have to let them inconvenience you’ culture which is essenty code for ‘don’t let that pesky lil ‘family’ thing stop you from trips and brunches’.

And they don’t gaf about other folk family either. There’s a growing sense of vitriol for men’s mothers, they mad they ‘baby’ them and didn’t stop him from being a player

So I co-sign OP but boy that shyt gon get harder and harder. A lot of women want no parts of what REAL life looks like. To get that you may have to settle in other (looks)departments.

not really. the world is a lot kinder to women than to men. If they break down and start crying, people will forget everything they did in the past and move mountains to comfort them. Also, there will always be a lonely man out there willing to take them in. It doesn't really work like that the other way around. It's just the nature of the game. Women and men experience two different definitions of loneliness.

 

[Cryptocurrency Scarface]

Get a pet and a nurse

 

[ReggieFlare]

Born alone die alone, I ain’t worried bout none of that

As someone who has set himself back significantly helping out older family, I’ve told myself I ain’t going out like that.

 

[Stuntone]

not really. the world is a lot kinder to women than to men. If they break down and start crying, people will forget everything they did in the past and move mountains to comfort them. Also, there will always be a lonely man out there willing to take them in. It doesn't really work like that the other way around. It's just the nature of the game. Women and men experience two different definitions of loneliness.

True about people will help women before men, but it's going to be way too many women to help a majority of them in the future. Same as for the men. It's going to get real ugly out here.

 

[WesCrook]

True about people will help women before men, but it's going to be way too many women to help a majority of them in the future. Same as for the men. It's going to get real ugly out here.

The men and elders in my family have been hip to the game for a long time....and have been in a position where they can take care of themselves in every way possible.

"Dependent" doesn't register with us

 

[Braman]

not really. the world is a lot kinder to women than to men. If they break down and start crying, people will forget everything they did in the past and move mountains to comfort them. Also, there will always be a lonely man out there willing to take them in. It doesn't really work like that the other way around. It's just the nature of the game. Women and men experience two different definitions of loneliness.

What exactly do you mean ‘help’. This isn’t really an issue about available resources. Poor people dont have nothin to do but have kids and shack up

This is a new phenomenon that is more attached to people with money and new fangled methods of life, access to lobotomies oops I mean therapy, discretionary income, etc

So the issue is loneliness and that’s universal. And contrary to what folk wanna believe (“lonely men are becoming terrors”), from my experience women are the ones constantly in flux, depressed, having issues with self esteem. I’ve heard it from many women. Going on solo trips and feeling lonely, getting depressed seeing couples and around holidays, etc

Modern women are being led into a bad situation

 

[NatiboyB]

This is something a lot of us don’t realize until we start to age up. All that independent stuff becomes bs when you realize you may need someone to pick you up. Women are the ones who are impacted by this heavier. That independent stuff is not going to work out well. And as we are seeing it isn’t working out. People are meant to be together either in a family or community.

 

[duncanthetall]

My grandma probably wouldn’t be alive rn if I wasn’t around to keep up with her. Saw my other grandma keep up with her mom till she passed. Def keep your family relationships as happy and strong as possible.

The way this society is breaking up people and their families, the transition in the next 50 years will be intense.

My family is closer than ever since my grandma has had Alzheimer’s and my aunt has been taking care of her. Everyone pitching in and helping financially and in any way they can. Been 10+ years my aunt taking care of her but everybody makes sure she’s still able to live her life. Grandma is 90 and doing surprisingly well tbh

 

[Stuntone]

What exactly do you mean ‘help’. This isn’t really an issue about available resources. Poor people dont have nothin to do but have kids and shack up

This is a new phenomenon that is more attached to people with money and new fangled methods of life, access to lobotomies oops I mean therapy, discretionary income, etc

So the issue is loneliness and that’s universal. And contrary to what folk wanna believe (“lonely men are becoming terrors”), from my experience women are the ones constantly in flux, depressed, having issues with self esteem. I’ve heard it from many women. Going on solo trips and feeling lonely, getting depressed seeing couples and around holidays, etc

Modern women are being led into a bad situation

So true. A lot of professional women drink like hell too. And are on antidepressants and shyt. They still front like life is beautiful and perfect tho.

Life is tough for us all, but they are tricking our women the most with this career >family and love BS.

 

[mbewane]

I get the point and the intent OP, but the whole idea of being with someone just to basically have someone to take care of us when we're old always seems kind of using other people type mentality to me. That can't be the primary reason for having a spouse or kids.

Me anyway my moms died 20 years ago and I have been living away from my family/alone since I was 15 (I'm 42) so I don't even really know what a "family" looks like/works, what are its "pros" and "cons". My ex told me I would end up alone, she was probably right

 

[Low End Derrick]

https://www.thecoli.com/threads/when-your-parents-pass-away-and-you-dont-have-the-love-of-your-own-family-its-going-to-be-unbearable.962737/

https://www.thecoli.com/threads/one-day-the-best-days-of-your-life-will-be-in-your-past-might-already-be.962735/

https://www.thecoli.com/threads/a-lot-of-men-cant-get-the-women-they-want-because-theyre-not-fronting-and-stunting-enough-fake-is-real-in-2023.962406/

Breh you been making some real depressing threads recently.

Everything good?