What's your racial preference?

[GiGi]

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I'm probably the only one on this board that actually prefers Black AMERICAN men while everybody else want Blacks from the Motherland and the Caribbean lols. Black Caribbean would be my next choice.

I couldn't deal with mixed raced kids either. They could come out looking completely White or non-Black and as a Black woman I'm not sure if I could look at a White or non-Black looking child and feel motherly. I need undeniably Black kids with undeniably Black features to make me feel whole and motherly and I couldn't feel grandmotherly towards White or non-Black grandchildren and most mixed people date into white families it seems. Hubby feels the same way too. I know we're in the minority though lols.

My relationships are based on compatibility, feeling a connection and how well I'm treated. For me its very silly to focus on the potential coloring of my future children as a reason to exclude great men from my life. So what if the child is born with light skin or dark skin? All I care is that I would do my utmost to have healthy children. I would have maternal connection and love my child if they were albino, down syndrome, autistic, etc.

 

[OatmealCreamPie]

If you're fully black , it's unlikely that you could even have Wentworth Miller looking kid, not even if you got with the pastiest cac in the world, let alone with a mixed guy.

Not true. Wentworth Miller has a Black dad and Garcelle Beauvois(sp) has fairly white looking kids. Now imagine those kids growing up and marrying white,which many biracial persons do, now you have white grandkids and white great-grandkids a ala Halle Berry. No thank you. This was my dad's biggest fears which is why he drove home the point of keeping it Black.

 

[OatmealCreamPie]

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My relationships are based on compatibility, feeling a connection and how well I'm treated. For me its very silly to focus on the potential coloring of my future children as a reason to exclude great men from my life. So what if the child is born with light skin or dark skin? All I care is that I would do my utmost to have healthy children. I would have maternal connection and love my child if they were albino, down syndrome, autistic, etc.

I feel ya and I respect that. Your post is very logical but I am very illogical when it comes to this subject. Blame it on daddy! lol. And again, I don't care about light skin, I care about my lineage turning completely white. My daddy instilled that fear in me.

 

[GiGi]

It's just sad from a black woman's view to see black men lusting after women that's not black. I wouldn't really expect too many men to agree with this anyways.

I'm basically drained with discussing this.

I wish that more black women would stop being "sad" about it. The damn ship has sailed. Its gone. And "we", collectively as a group, are standing on the shore crying and begging the sweet baby Jesus to turn the ship around and send the boat back to us. "We" need to recognize where we really are on the map and figure out where we really need to go.

 

[GiGi]

I feel ya and I respect that. Your post is very logical but I am very illogical when it comes to this subject. Blame it on daddy! lol. And again, I don't care about light skin, I care about my lineage turning completely white. My daddy instilled that fear in me.

Beyond yourself and your hubbie you will have zero control over the coloring of your legacy. Some of the most "militant" black men are the main ones wifing up Becky, Maria and Mai Ling.

 

[Tommy Knocks]

I have to co sign this speaking from my experience. I swear on my life, I have never heard a black dude talk about liking Asian women in my life except for ONE time when I was like 20. One of my friends said that he had a strong need to bang an Asian chick and we all looked him like (no hate). I never even really thought about it...and that was almost 15 years ago.

Now online is a different story....the first time I really heard it from black dudes was on the Nas forum ( rip) when they were going on and on about em...this was around 01' or -2...all I could do was stare at the screen like

You aint never met that nikka name Knocks.

I stay with Korean, Chinese and Filipinas with the occasional Mongolian girls.

 

[Killer Instinct]

Beyond yourself and your hubbie you will have zero control over the coloring of your legacy. Some of the most "militant" black men are the main ones wifing up Becky, Maria and Mai Ling.

She wants a black man. Get over it, jiggaboo.

 

[filial_piety]

You aint never met that nikka name Knocks.

I stay with Korean, Chinese and Filipinas with the occasional Mongolian girls.

Mongolian?? word?

 

[Killer Instinct]

I wish that more black women would stop being "sad" about it. The damn ship has sailed. Its gone. And "we", collectively as a group, are standing on the shore crying and begging the sweet baby Jesus to turn the ship around and send the boat back to us. "We" need to recognize where we really are on the map and figure out where we really need to go.

And where are YOU running to? 80% of black men and women get married to each other. You on the other hand, are 30+ and don't have a ring from any creed or nationality of man. In fact, clearly men are sailing that ship away from your direction, so you should be the last woman on this board preaching about seeking greener pastures when your issue lies in being undesirable yourself.

 

[filial_piety]

And where are YOU running to? 80% of black men and women get married to each other. You on the other hand, are 30+ and don't have a ring from any creed or nationality of man. In fact, clearly men are sailing that ship away from your direction, so you should be the last woman on this board preaching about seeking greener pastures when your issue lies in being undesirable yourself.

 

[Fat Kevin]

Not true. Wentworth Miller has a Black dad and Garcelle Beauvois(sp) has fairly white looking kids. Now imagine those kids growing up and marrying white,which many biracial persons do, now you have white grandkids and white great-grandkids a ala Halle Berry. No thank you. This was my dad's biggest fears which is why he drove home the point of keeping it Black.

Wentworth Miller's dad is half white
He is only 1/4 black

 

[OatmealCreamPie]

Beyond yourself and your hubbie you will have zero control over the coloring of your legacy. Some of the most "militant" black men are the main ones wifing up Becky, Maria and Mai Ling.

This is true. I stay away from those types. You can even see it on these boards. They are more anti-white male not anti-white female. I see their hypocrisy and in real life too.

 

[DSA15]

Quoted the wrong one lol. I dont agree with the making lighter babies so they can have better lives idea either.

Spoiler: long response

Well, my mother and uncle are very pro-black. My mom made us watch slave narratives and Black history documentaries as a child. She took us to museums and to Harlem and all the time. However, my grandmother is from a family that praises light skin and "good hair". Everyone I know from her side of the family is light.

Even growing up, we constantly heard neighbor's and classmates use phrases like:

"I dont want to stay in the sun and get dark."
"Girl, your hair is nappy. You got bee-da-bees".
"Eww, you look like an african booty scratcher."

We heard all the negativity but my mom intercepted those messages by trying to instill Black pride as best as she could. Still, she was a single parent raising 3 kids so she couldnt devote as much time as needed. Even so, it takes a toll on you being the darkest in your family, not looking like them or just being different in general.

The main issue I think my older brothers have is that coming from a neighborhood like Jersey City, a lot of black women that they know are loud, obnoxious and ignorant . I feel like they are not so much as color struck as they have confined women to racial stereotypes. Both have previously dated a black girl. But I think they have set their focus on other races because they figure they are less likely to be "ghetto" or trouble.

Well, my oldest brother is getting married in October to a white woman. At first, my mother was saying, " She's not family until she gets a ring". She was still cordial but eventually when she figured that ol girl was here to stay she warmed up to her. My other brother sorta dated a black PK girl but it didnt really get anywhere. They both feel more comfortable around white/filipino circles.

My two younger brothers (different mother) are just young and dumb and no one is really helping them. They are basically learning from their lil friends, tv and radio. I do hope they grow out of it.

My mother and I talk all the time about how she thinks I'm probably the only one who is gonna give her "chocolate babies" because my preference is black men. At the end of the day. she's happy that her children are relatively successful and dont have any records, or baby mama drama.

Short answer: My mother is very pro-black and taught us a lot of our history and culture. However, because of other circumstances my brother's felt they were more comfortable around white/filipino people.
My mother would've loved to have black grandchildren but she is just happy that her kids are happy, healthy with no other major problems.

Damn. So where was your father in all of this? It seems if they would've had a strong black male presence in their lives things could've been different, or did he even try to instill pride? It's weird because I live in a city where it's 90% white and I also never had a strong male role model but I've never trashed black women or ever preferred them over my own. Black women were always my #1. Only in high school was where I had no problem liking all races of women, but as I soon as left it changed dramatically. No other races of women except black do anything for me now.

 

[Malik]

I've dated white women in the past. I might date another in the future. But I seriously, seriously doubt I'll ever marry one. Seeing as I dont want my kids having white relatives, being confused about who they are or eventually marrying white people and giving me some Blake Griffin looking grandkids. Plus they age like fruit. You'll be 50 years old still looking somewhat youthful and your PAWG will look like this

So no.


I'll be marrying a Black woman. Or another woman of color (Dominican, Brazilian, Puerto Rican, Cuban). Or I might find one straight from the motherland. Them Habesha broads all over DC

 

[OatmealCreamPie]

Oh and about the coloring of my legacy if it starts to go to the White side hopefully I and my husband will be old and senile or dead and gone by the time that happens. I can only hope lol.