Whats your opinion on having kids?

[phcitywarrior]

Deff want kids. Wife, family, all of that.

Biggest thing for me is where to raise them. Definitely doing high school in Nigeria. Not sure how much time I’d want them in the US outside of college.

I’d be good with 3 kids tbh. I’d want all boys as well (we have too many women in my family). But I’d be happy if it were only 1 son.

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

I'll provide a case, there is a coworker who is currently going through a divorce. The reason this divorce is happening is that her spouse found themselves as a person, and will be/currently transitioning into a woman. She wasn't interested in being pansexual, she is straight, she has needs for men.

Her spouse, is upset because they thought they loved them for who they are, but they never asked her about what she needs. This is a complete lifestyle change, one that is going have MAJOR implications that you have to make along with others in your life; nearest and furthest away from you.
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what the hell is wrong with these gender bender people? loving you for who you are as a MAN is not some shyt that transfers to loving you romantically as a woman why would you just assume your partner wants to be with a woman after a lifetime of being with men? this loving me for me stuff works if you get fat, lose a limb, get sick - it doesn't work if you decide to be a whole other gender, if i wanted a woman i wouldn't have married a damn man

 

[Poetical Poltergeist]

Id be totally cool if my girl changed her mind. Kids were something I envisioned having by the time I was like 27. So I think my age plays a part in it. Although were obv more financially secure

Thats coo. Women eventually get baby fever, its a natural thing. I love my babies and would not trade them for the world but I also understand why someone would not want to bring children into this world as well. I worry for their futures. I worry for them every single day by the hour. Thats the hardest part.

 

[MushroomX]

what the hell is wrong with these gender bender people? loving you for who you are as a MAN is not some shyt that transfers to loving you romantically as a woman why would you just assume your partner wants to be with a woman after a lifetime of being with men? this loving me for me stuff works if you get fat, lose a limb, get sick - it doesn't work if you decide to be a whole other gender, if i wanted a woman i wouldn't have married a damn man

I don't blame both sides, but for people who are transitioning even more this is a reality they have to face. They will remain friends, but your getting into a side that isn't taboo... but it does involve sexual preference. Some people cannot accept that just while they want to be friends, they have their own personal needs and once you make something that personal, then there are repercussions because some have strict needs.

She doesn't even hate transwomen, its just she is purely for men and it breaks her heart that this person never talked to her about this and expected her to just go with it.

 

[DJ Paul's Arm]

People who pressure you to have kids are just hating the fact that you can do whatever you want without the burden of children. Seen it first hand plenty of times.

fukk them and do you.

 

[Mike Nasty]

If you don't want kids then don't have them. They aren't some magic being that will make everything better. More like tossing an anvil to some one who's already drowning.

 

[Althalucian]

People who pressure you to have kids are just hating the fact that you can do whatever you want without the burden of children. Seen it first hand plenty of times.

fukk them and do you.

Yep. This is a lot more prevalent than people think. Also, some people have easy kids and they think all kids are easy. Hate those people.

 

[acri1]

If you don't want kids then don't have them. They aren't some magic being that will make everything better. More like tossing an anvil to some one who's already drowning.

The worst thing is your parents/grandparents bugging you about kids every time you visit

 

[analog]

what the hell is wrong with these gender bender people? loving you for who you are as a MAN is not some shyt that transfers to loving you romantically as a woman why would you just assume your partner wants to be with a woman after a lifetime of being with men? this loving me for me stuff works if you get fat, lose a limb, get sick - it doesn't work if you decide to be a whole other gender, if i wanted a woman i wouldn't have married a damn man

I agree it's an unfair ask but at the same time I understand why they'd want the continued support of someone they share a life with already and supposedly love. I can't fathom ever being in a position where I find my dikk unbearable to the point of lopping it off and adopting a new life as a woman. That isn't a decision that comes lightly and although one has every right to part ways afterwards, I would hope the spouse can manage to stomach their feelings and extend some generosity to the person through out the transition.

I can't believe I'm at a point in my life where I'm caping for transpersons. shyt... I guess life's hard as it is, and I'd rather see people live it it as happy as they can be

Yep. This is a lot more prevalent than people think. Also, some people have easy kids and they think all kids are easy. Hate those people.
they think all kids are easy. Hate those people.

Or even worse, some accept their miserable life with their spouse and kids as the norm and want the same for you. God forbid you should want a different/better life for yourself.

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

I agree it's an unfair ask but at the same time I understand why they'd want the continued support of someone they share a life with already and supposedly love. I can't fathom ever being in a position where I find my dikk unbearable to the point of lopping it off and adopting a new life as a woman. That isn't a decision that comes lightly and although one has every right to part ways afterwards, I would hope the spouse can manage to stomach their feelings and extend some generosity to the person through out the transition.

I can't believe I'm at a point in my life where I'm caping for transpersons. shyt... I guess life's hard as it is, and I'd rather see people live it it as happy as they can be


they think all kids are easy. Hate those people.

continued support (ie friendship) and expecting your partner to want to stay married/romantically involved are not the same thing. i'm sure his/her wife is supporting them while also letting them know they can't stay married to them. you'd have to be the most selfish person in the world to put that level of expectation on someone

 

[Mike Nasty]

The worst thing is your parents/grandparents bugging you about kids every time you visit

Asking is one thing about is one thing. I got hit with the

 

[old pig]

...when other people here about this they often think were selfish...

...and the reality is if you ask most ppl why they had kids their reasons for doing so (or encouraging you to do so) are very selfish

 

[analog]

continued support (ie friendship) and expecting your partner to want to stay married/romantically involved are not the same thing. i'm sure his/her wife is supporting them while also letting them know they can't stay married to them. you'd have to be the most selfish person in the world to put that level of expectation on someone

A little girl on girl action is completely out of the question?

 

[TheDarceKnight]

I didn’t care before but now that I’m in my 30’s I would like to be a father. I’m not attached to needing my own children. I’d be happy to adopt.

But I also am trying to get a business going and I’m not settled down with anyone I want to have a family with.

Not gonna rush those things. And I do worry about what the world will be like for any kids now when they get older.

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

A little girl on girl action is completely out of the question?

for a threesome or a night of fun - sure...marriage, fukk nah! lol