What's The "POINT" Of Having A Kid If You AREN'T Married? (I DON'T Get It)

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The locker room is like the dark web of fukking idiots, why does this shyt always pop up on the first page :mindblown:
 

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The idea of a "family structure" as OP presents is a relatively new concept.

All a child needs is a caring, healthy family and community and they will be fine. The makeup of their immediate family does not really matter.
 

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Thank you!

I thank my mom and dad (who have been happily married for 35+ years) for telling me and my siblings at a young age not to have kids unless we were married and financially stable.

I still live by their words.

Africans and west indians look down in general on this degenerate baby mama/baby daddy/stepdad/stepmom dysfunctional family unit culture fostered here in the states. And for good reason. Women cannot teach men to be men. Only men can and it takes two to raise a child.
this is so dumb,

its almost as if you think unless you're married two parents cant live together, love each other and raise a child.
 

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It matters to me because kids need that STRONG family strong-hold. If they don't have that, then where will they get there values from? Also, the kids will have a single-parent household if the dude leaves. Having kids, then getting married is a COMMITMENT. If you AREN'T prepared for those responsibilities, then you should NOT be having sex.

you're making this statement in 2016, but humans who have existed for umpteenth thousand years and people have had babies before marriage was a "thing". A couple hundred years ago life-expectancy was often like 35-40 years old so ppl would start having kids as teenagers sometimes.

Before that, people just got together and pro-created. Maybe they stuck together, but it was necessarily officially "marriage"

All this stuff you're talking is nice & convenient in 2016, but it's not natural to the way humans are hard-wired....which is why ppl continue to have babies the way they do.

Live a little and LEARN, before you judge others
 

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You can raise a kid/s together without being a couple.

My mom and dad live in two dif states and have been that way since I was 5 years old tho so maybe thats why I feel the way I do. A child can be healthy if both parents are reasonably healthy (mentally and spiritually) even if the parents don't decide to marry.



And are you the dude that made the walmart thread about broke people not having kids? You really need to start minding your own business. Marriage won't stop a mofo from becoming a murderer or a rapist or a dictator or a lunatic. Plenty of degenerates are born to married couples. Just take a look at our list of presidents. Most of them were born to "respectable" married couples and still chose to go down the path of madness, foolishness, and fukkery.
 

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I ain't gonna save another man, but you Crack on virgins, but you blindly defend women and irrational behaviors.

But back to the thread. People who defend kids being born, or prefer, OOW while not growing up in a two parent household can't see the dysfunction, while wanting people from perfectly fine families to engage in the same behaviors as them. Hate to say it, but kids being born to unwed parents is a cancer. :francis:
I don't want people to do anything they don't want to do. What I want is for people to mind their own mofo business. The same people talking about marriage this and marriage that..if two grown ass people choose not to marry then who are you to try to force it.

One of the reasons I'm glad to have been born in America and not some other ass backward 3rd world country.

ETA: And its not society causing people that come "perfectly fine families" to engage in certain behaviors. Its piss poor parenting on your part. If the previous generation chose to marry but the next generation chooses not to..then don't blame it on society. Blame it on you and your wife because yall were the first teachers. My mom and dad were not married but I have enough sense to know that what they modeled in and out side of the home played a bigger role in my upbringing than Nicki Minaj and Teen Moms ever could. Take responsibility for yourself.
 

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America is in the dumps because of this. Bad family planning. No concept of family structure anymore.
America is in the dumps because of a lot of shyt. "Family Planning" is not the most pressing problem. I can promise you that. This is just a corrupt ass country run by corrupt ass people hopefully getting close to its just desserts. #babylonhasfallen
 

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So, should our tax money go to these things that can be prevented? This is just stupidity.
You worried about the wrong thing. You sitting up here worried about the 50.00 (if that) coming out your check cause you trying to "stick it" to the common man or woman but you don't give 2 fukks about the money coming out your check to terrorize civilians in the middle east or to pad the pockets of rich white politicians (that no doubt, I BET, came from the same 2 parent households that you're in here salivating over).
 

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Thank you!

I thank my mom and dad (who have been happily married for 35+ years) for telling me and my siblings at a young age not to have kids unless we were married and financially stable.

I still live by their words.

Africans and west indians look down in general on this degenerate baby mama/baby daddy/stepdad/stepmom dysfunctional family unit culture fostered here in the states. And for good reason. Women cannot teach men to be men. Only men can and it takes two to raise a child.

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And people why we have so many emotional as brehs and lost women.
 

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I don't want people to do anything they don't want to do. What I want is for people to mind their own mofo business. The same people talking about marriage this and marriage that..if two grown ass people choose not to marry then who are you to try to force it.

One of the reasons I'm glad to have been born in America and not some other ass backward 3rd world country.

ETA: And its not society causing people that come "perfectly fine families" to engage in certain behaviors. Its piss poor parenting on your part. If the previous generation chose to marry but the next generation chooses not to..then don't blame it on society. Blame it on you and your wife because yall were the first teachers. My mom and dad were not married but I have enough sense to know that what they modeled in and out side of the home played a bigger role in my upbringing than Nicki Minaj and Teen Moms ever could. Take responsibility for yourself.

Did you grow up with your father most of the time? Or your mother?
 

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Did you grow up with your father most of the time? Or your mother?
my mom most of the time. i spent summers with my dad and at times would spend the whole school year with him. my dad is an african and my mom is AA.

waiting to see what type of bs you will spin with this info.
 

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Thank you!


Africans and west indians look down in general on this degenerate baby mama/baby daddy/stepdad/stepmom dysfunctional family unit culture fostered here in the states. And for good reason. Women cannot teach men to be men. Only men can and it takes two to raise a child.


Reminds me I noticed this is only an AA thing where people try to defend and normalize it. It happens in other cultures too but no one tries to make excuses for it or glorify it and normalizing it.
 

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this is so dumb,

its almost as if you think unless you're married two parents cant live together, love each other and raise a child.
I don't care if you think it's dumb. I wouldn't raise a child in some dysfunctional family unit. fukk that. I look down on all these cats that are like you thinking that "You can raise a child and not be a couple"....what about the life of that child? What ideas are they going to get from seeing mommy bringing home a bunch of guys that ain't their biological father or a daughter never seeing what a true bond between father and mother is like? fukk that. I dont want kids are going to grow up to resent me cause I brought them up 8n a family where they didn't feel like they were apart of a family. I'm at my parents mansion right now visiting them for christmas. My dad and mom are the best and made sure we were taken care of.

One of the reasons I will never have kids until I am married and financially stable.

My parents afforded the best for us. Sent us to the best schools, provided us with the best opportunities. We're all college grads with good jobs now living on our own and still have a great relationship.

And I'll continue to look down on this dysfunctional family baby daddy/baby momma/stepdad/stepmom out of wedlock culture cause it's not fukking normal at all.
 

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And fifty percent of marriages end in divorce. So half those kidsin married homes getting fukked anyway. It's not about being married. It's about not having trifling ass parents.
:russell: nikkas still running with this tired ass myth. take your scared #GMB "i dont want her to take half of the $2.50 in my checking account" ass outta here breh

There’s this persistent myth in America that about half of all marriages end in divorce.

In fact, the figures are significantly lower, as new graphics by Nathan Yau of Flowing Data demonstrate.

As Claire Cain Miller wrote at the Upshot, the divorce rate peaked in the 1970s and early 1980s and has been declining since then. In fact, if current marriage and divorce rate continues, only about one-third of American marriages will end in divorce, the Upshot’s Justin Wolfers has calculated.
Who gets divorced in America, in 7 charts

I think there's ultimately some hurt feelings in this thread (probably those raised by single parents). Nobody trying to shyt on ya momma. :mjcry:It's not to say that single parents can't do a good job. But sociology research has shown repeatedly that a child has their best chances for a successful life when raised in the environment of two married parents. the numbers don't lie. I'm laughing that these nikkas raised by single parents are seriously trying to dispute this :mjlol:
 
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